Your Guide to Dogging
Eva Sless
on 10 July 2020
40 comments
Although the term "dogging" was around in the 70s, its meaning over the years has changed from "men perving on unsuspecting couples getting it on in the outdoors" to the far more consensual and inclusive act that we know today. Dogging is the act of having public, or semi-public sex, with the knowledge and desire that you will be seen. It’s most commonly thought that the term derives from “dog walking” as it was often dog walkers in parks and remote areas that would come across these public sex scenes. But these days it’s far less about accidentally being sprung, and more about performing for a viewing audience of consenting adults, which is, I am sure you’ll agree, a far better way to get your kicks.
How does Dogging work?
Basically the aim of dogging is to find a secluded (but known) spot to get down n dirty with your lover, either in or out of your car, but with the specific intent of being watched, and even possibly (depending on specific signals etc that we’ll get into in a minute) have other people join you. Finding dogging locations and connecting with other doggers is getting a lot easier. You can list “dogging” or “outdoor sex” as interests on Adult Match Maker and it’s mentioned in member stories and profiles. You will also find dogging forums online which can all help you find people into the same things as you. But it really is imperative you understand all the risks involved, probably the most important of all being the legalities (or lack thereof) and what might happen if you get caught (more on that later).
So now what?
You’ve made the decision. You’ve looked up the spots. You know that Wednesday nights down at the car park near the old shearers shed is the popular night to play so you grab your partner, get in the car and head down there… Now what?
One of the key rules, according to my “dogging expert”, let’s call her “Snoopy”, is anonymity and discretion.
“You don’t want to know who anyone is, and they don’t want to know who you are. That’s part of the fun and excitement,” she says. “We all have names we use on the chat sites and that’s basically how we refer to each other.” She does say, however, that newbies to the scene may want to go with a more seasoned couple to begin with, “just so they get a feel of it all and don’t miss out on the fun due to not quite knowing what to do.”
“The other thing is to be discreet. Seriously. Be quiet. Don’t attract attention. Don’t whoop and carry on like an idiot. We don’t want anyone to know we’re there. That’s the first step to losing a great spot. Just shut up!”
Another key rule that Snoopy says is mandatory and expected is (thankfully) consent. “You must never join in unless invited,” she says. “There are a few different ways you can be asked to play, the most obvious one being verbally asked, but there are a few subtle ways you can let people know it’s okay to join in too.”
“If you’re playing in your car, for example, flashing the internal light says ‘watch us!’, while having the windows open means ‘come play with us too!’ There’s also the signal of flashing your headlights which tells people you’re keen for them to follow you somewhere for a bit of fun. Of course, even if they’re flashing a sign above their head saying ‘FUCK ME NOW’ it’s always a good idea to double check they’re okay with you joining in. Just in case they have the windows open for air or something.”
Who goes Dogging?
Like many out-of-the-box sexual lifestyles, the majority of people who get involved in dogging are couples, however unlike many other scenes (swinging for example) single women are often discouraged from turning up alone. “That’s to do with safety,” says Snoopy. “A single woman going alone to a notorious sex spot is unfortunately not safe. While we do pride ourselves on being a mature and consensual group, unfortunately you’re going to get some people who don’t play by the rules, and that can be dangerous, so we try and ask women to come with a friend.”
Can I just watch?
The thing about dogging is it is just as much about watching as it is about being watched and it's completely up to you to be as involved or as removed from the action as you feel comfortable. Of course, as a voyeur there are certain rules and behaviours that are expected. Be respectful and appreciative, but don't be too loud or try and direct their play. You're a watcher. Not a commentator or judge, and a polite "no thank you" is all you need if you're asked to join but don't want to.
The Dos and Don’ts of Dogging
Do Your research. Make sure you’re looking for dogging specific locations because there are a few other types of “public sex and solicitation” areas that aren’t what you’re looking for. Gay beats for example are absolutely not for hetero couples. Women are not wanted anywhere near those areas and it would be incredibly offensive to turn up with a woman and expect to be looked at. Another spot to avoid would be known areas where street based sex workers ply their trade. Not only can you bring attention to their work, which can have serious legal ramifications for all involved, but you could also scare off any of their potential customers costing them work and money.
Do Be respectful and kind and treat people how you would expect to be treated. I mean, it’s not rocket science, but it has to be said. Don’t be rude or derogatory to players and the general rule is no photos. If you’re not interested in playing or being played with a simple “no thank you” is all you need to say.
Do Be safe. Always wear a condom and make sure those you are playing with wear one. You’re essentially having faceless sex with a complete stranger… Be smart!
Do Leave it like you left it. Anything you bring in you take out. Don’t leave condom wrappers or (even worse) used condoms lying around it’s disgusting. Not only is it just revolting and not something the early morning walkers or kids playing need to find, it’s also terrible for the environment, so wrap it up and chuck it away. Seriously. Don’t be gross.
The legalities of Dogging
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but dogging for the most part is pretty much illegal. Not that that stops people from doing it. According to a survey conducted in the UK over 40% of respondents said they enjoyed getting out and about with their sex, making dogging second only to speeding as the most common “crime” people admit to committing. I’ve put crime in inverted commas because, in the UK (and most Australian states), while there isn’t exactly a specific law saying you can’t do it, there are a bunch of “common decency” laws such as indecent exposure and public lewdness that you can be charged for with punishments ranging from community service, jail time, and even being placed on a sex offender register.
Here in Australia (Especially in QLD and WA where there are specific laws against public sex) those fines and punishments can be even greater, with some punishments giving you 2 years jail time!
I tell you this not to frighten you, but to warn you and arm you to be prepared if it’s something you feel like you might want to try.
With all sex and sexual lifestyles there are going to be things to learn and educate yourself on before you get involved, and that can only serve to make you a better player all round. If dogging is something you think you may be keen on trying find a forum or a chat with people who are into the scene and don’t be afraid to ask questions. “Please ask!” Snoopy pleads. “Please! It is so much better to ask a question and get an obvious answer than to not ask, and then find yourself in a situation that could have been avoided. We are a friendly, outgoing bunch of people and we were all new once so we know what it’s like. There is no such thing as a stupid question… Just stupid people who don’t ask questions and then possibly ruin a good time for everyone.”
So there you have it! Dogging 101! Get out, get on, and get down… Safely of course!
40 comments
PlayLaugh2
More than a month agoHi SunnyCoasters. We are interested in dogging, but can certainly appreciate there is discretion and trust involved. We are hopeful a dogging couple might approach us in private chat/message to discuss how to make contact with others here on the coast or any groups. Thanks you in advance, PlayLaugh2
ReplyRikkiraksx2
More than a month agoI dream about being taken in a car with a woman , both consenting , both as hot a f@$k, both single , in the mood for it and in dressed like millionairess business ladies
Taken to a underground carpark and driven to the last but one level, lights out , and wait, check each others make up , straight en the seams in our vintage nylons and open the back doors, step out , and walk hand in hand , stride for stride , strut for strut,
The only noise ...........
Click , click , click ,click , our heels ,walk the last level of the carpark . Its, late, its raining , the dim flickering lightonly just manages to show shadowy figures
Men in a group, wanking there big , hung thick cocks at us ,as if they are telling us they are ready for us ,
They have been chosen by ourselves
Two black guys
A big thick Lebanese cock
A Russian
A Brit and three Aussies
We are here to push boundaries,
We here to be watched
We want to filmed
We love to display ourselves , but never take our clothes off
Cfnm
Wank them
Suk them
Tit fuck them
But don't fuk
And certainly no need to be naked
So we pose and parade and look Devine
And the men are one after another , dealt with , and we saunter back to our car , for champagne and a fuk
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoOk wow... that was hot!! Thanks for sharing
Billjr
More than a month agoI’d like to try my first bi experience looking for something around Kyneton Woodend
ReplyRoyalRogerer
More than a month agoWould anyone care to share any potential dogging meet up places around the South West area of Western Australia at all? I would be interested in checking some out
ReplyBaller3199
More than a month agoWhere are some spots around Melbourne? - for post lockdown of course ;)
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoKeep me posted haha
BareNakedLady73
More than a month agoI guess I had a fortunate and surprising experience the 1 time I've done this. It was with my partner at the time and we headed to a Hinterland dam that was a local tourist spot by day but this was around 11 at night and we naively thought that we'd have a cheeky romp on the picnic tables. Put a blanket over the table and we went to town; so-to-speak lol
It was after, as we were packing up that we noticed 3 other cars had since turned up and we'd been watched the entire time.
So yes, a different experience but still a good one.
I like surprises hehehehe
VS x
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ReplyZamboon
More than a month agoWish I’d been in one of those cars ...
loveskisses11
More than a month agoAny Melbourne couples keen for some dogging. Message me for details
Replybbwlover9030
More than a month agoHey everyone, great article. I'm in Traralgon, Latrobe Valley. Victoria. Would love to get to know others who are interested in dogging in the area.
Replycumslut47
More than a month agoI absolutely love it , lots of good spots around Adelaide too .
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Replydidyadoit2256
More than a month agoI’d love to take u dogging in Newcastle
Lovestockings69
More than a month agoHi, Adelaide! Where? I'd love to catch up, I'm in Adelaide Hills.
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More than a month agoin Adelaide last weekend I was nude in a van about 15 guys had a turn on me x
Hottubhot
More than a month agoHi love to know more about this
Martymish
More than a month agoyum cum you enjoy yourself
tom4all
More than a month agoWe would like to know if there’s any places around the Taree Forster area that I can take a female for dogging
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Replycumwithme10
More than a month agothere`s a couple of places in Port Macquarie if your up that way at anytime
tom4all
More than a month agoIm keen to know where they are. Thanks
Dutchie38
More than a month agoI live around st George are not far from airport , can anyone tell me of any areas around there
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ReplySirTonyxxx
More than a month agoHi Dutchie, im not sure but I’m in Sydney as well. Would love to find some places for dogging,
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More than a month agoHi Dutchie
I’m in st George area too. I’d also like to know of areas near us. If there isn’t one, might have to start it
kana007
More than a month agoI’m in st George area also. Years ago there was a little known group having fun at Tempe. Would get between 6-10 people and it was fun. But the coppers put a stop to it. I’d be keen to start one again
Masterplussub
More than a month agowe like dogging , we use a gay beat in Penrith , most are gay but some bi guys like to watch , chat and they wank and watch us play. It is safe and we can watch who is come in to car park , yes in 3 years we have seen police 2 times .
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ReplyPlay.oa
More than a month agoHey next time your thinking of putting a show on out west.... give me a heads up, be more than happy to go and Cher you both on!
greenelfkin
More than a month agoLet us know next time
Cumsayhi100
More than a month agoHi I would love to try this.Any places north side Brisbane?
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Replyscott982
More than a month agoI would love to know where this happens north side Brisbane so keen to try
FlirtyDuo
More than a month ago“ Like many out-of-the-box sexual lifestyles, the majority of people who get involved in dogging are couples”.
You have romanticised it through rose tinted spectacles in our opinion.
NO, the majority of people hanging around well known dogging sports and who “get involved” are NOT Couples but instead SINGLE predatory males hoping for some action.
It’s like saying that the majority of people on nude beaches are couples. We all know that is not the case, and that nude beaches (like swingers clubs & swingers sites) are “swamped” with single males. And that so many couples & single females have been chased away.
If you have been to an “adult cinema “ you will know that they are full of males hoping to watch a couple or get laid. You will know that very few couples, if any, attend adult cinemas. Why ? Because the predatory behaviour of the single males have chased them all away.
Dogging ( sex in outdoor public places ) is not only illegal, it is also potentially high risk & dangerous.
You have no control of who turns up. They could be psychos. They could be armed. You also have no control as to whether they have washed, whether they are carrying a STD, whether they are Covid19 positive.
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ReplyAMM.Editor
More than a month agoEva has covered all of your concerns in the article stressing that it is illegal, that safe sex is a must, and especially the part about not publicly announcing local dogging spots to the general public to avoid the situation you've obviously experienced where single guys turn up uninvited. This is why we won't publish a "dogging locations" list and specifically asked people not to provide locations in the comments.
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More than a month agoThe fact remains that as soon as a dogging location “gets known”, hoards of “single” males turn up, uninvited and this is where problems start.
You need only look at the number of replies, by males, to this article to see that they (the males) are wanting to know dogging locations, so that they can turn up uninvited and get a piece of the action. A pack of “dogs” springs to mind.
Why do you think that nude beaches are generally over run with single males ?
Zamboon
More than a month agoYou are right in that most places are spoilt by “single“ horny males who are too keen all up - I know 2 single ladies who used to enjoy the adult cinemas but they don’t go any more - very sad that these guys don’t have any idea...
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More than a month agoOkay guys, maybe because when we have gone dogging its been in an open park under a light on a table, which is more risky with regards to the police, but that does have the benefits firstly that " psycho single male packs " do not seem to bother us as the risk is also bigger and the jail terms far longer for them. But we have also noticed nearly as many women as men attend, not as many but not far off, again possibly because they feel safe in such an exposed area too, the down side is that it tends to make people far more interested in viewing and can be difficult to entice them in to actually join the fun. With regards to theatre's most of the regulars there are confident enough to watch but tend to be older and not so confident about joining in....also again don't seem predatory as the operator of the theatre will quickly eject any trouble makers or pushy types as its not good for business, now we don't claim to be very experienced in either of these areas, we may have been swinging 20yrs but have only been theatre going and dogging in the last year or so. Maybe we have just been very lucky
FullMast
More than a month agoWho'd want to be a single man eh?
Poor buggers have no practical way of having a rewarding sex life, yet are roundly condemned for having the most natural of human desires.
Perhaps if society had a little more sympathy for and interest in meeting the sexual needs of single men, we might have a few less social problems to deal with?
Zamboon
More than a month agoI took a lady up to mt cootha a few times but it was mainly a gay meeting place - the guys didn’t mind as I think they were bi curious rather than full on gay ... it was interesting and she enjoyed the attention mostly being watched and occasionally sucking on a cock that was thrust through the window ... it’s quite fun although a bit risky and once I did see a cop car driving through the park ..
ReplyI know there are other places but I haven’t been to them,there was a park on the Southside which was pretty popular and they had a foam mattress in the bushes ( yuck) but I think this was a couples place the beauty was that there was only one way in and you could see cars coming from a way off, it got some bad press and I think the cops started monitoring it ...
Peta6868
More than a month agoCan anyone tell me where me and my girl can go as we would both love to do this and having a total stranger walk up behind her as I hold her and give her a good pounding is really turning her on. cheers guys
Replyjenoo1
More than a month agoI love the idea of watching and/or being watched in public, and possibly joining in with others, but have no idea where to go in Brisbane. Get in touch with me please, if you know where to go or are interested too
Replyremote3556
More than a month agoVery good article, explained well
ReplyFuc69cum
More than a month agoHi i would like to go there
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