“Sex is a paradox. It needs the difference between man and woman, yet it reminds them that they are not different at all. In this way pleasure is the world’s great equalizer.”

Well it’s no secret that if you want to guarantee that you won’t get an STD/STI then don’t have sex! But if you're in the swinging scene or adult dating looking for casual sex partners it's important to know the risks so you can play safe.

My advice – get to know your vagina! Whether you’ve got a G or an AFE or XYZ spot, there are undoubtedly good bits that work specifically for you. The important thing is to relax and explore and enjoy your wonderful womanly bits!

This contract is about discussing everything at the start of relationships, rather than when things turn pear-shaped. We often end up investing half of everything we own in our spouse and it's important to understand our partner's expectations.

For some couples swinging is just a game they get to play. But if your social calendar and catching up with vanilla friends is scheduled around swinging events then perhaps it's become your way of life.

Sex doesn’t have to be the last thing you do at night, it doesn’t even have to be in the evening. Having sex before dinner can be great! Think of it as entrée, rather than the traditional dessert.

Is your partner falling for someone else more likely to happen in the swinging world? Not necessarily. Remember swingers can “have their cake and eat it too”.

As the famous quote from John Cleese in “the Meaning of Life” goes: ‘You don’t just go barrelling on down to the clitoris! What’s wrong with a kiss?”

Our society is full of myths about sex. There are many aspects to moving forward sexually, one of the key ones is to ditch all the myths that plague us.

How safe is swinging? Are there risks? And when it comes to your relationship, is it safe in the swinging scene?