What happens to your body when you stop having sex?

For whatever reason, sometimes we find ourselves in a position where we stop having sex, and even stop masturbating. Whether it’s mental or physical, or a combination of both, stopping your body from experiencing sexual pleasure can often have a not-so-great effect on our bodies and brains.

This is a little bit different to people who have chosen celibacy as a lifestyle choice, and is more referring to sexual people who have had regular sex and then, for one reason or another, stopped.

We’ve put together a list of five things that can happen to you when the orgasms stop.

1. Excessive Erotic Dreams

If you’ve been a sexual person and had regular orgasms, stopping it can seriously affect your subconscious. Even if during your waking hours you’re not thinking about it too much, when you’re asleep all those latent feelings start to take over resulting in more frequent wet dreams for men and sleep orgasms for women.

2. Loss of Sex Drive

Confusingly, while there may be an increase in sexual desire in your dreams, halting your sex life can have a severe effect on your libido in general. The desire to have sex begins to fade, and the things that once used to turn you on or get you aroused don’t seem to have the same kick. For many people it’s a bit like “out of sight out of mind” and the less you have it the less you want it.

3. You Get Dumber

Sex and the endorphins released during orgasm help boost neuron growth in the hippocampus (the area of the brain that deals with memory function and retaining information) and so the fewer of these chemicals you release, the slower the function of that particular area gets. I have heard many anecdotal stories from people saying they become clumsier and less able to remember things when they’ve stopped having sex for a month or more. 

4. Weaken the Vaginal Wall and Pelvic Floor

Unlike what the slut-shamers of the world would have you believe, the vaginal wall is made of many different muscles and the more you use it, the tighter and stronger it actually gets. Stopping the vagina and pelvic floor from regularly exercising (like having sex and orgasming) can weaken the walls of the vagina and make them thin and susceptible to damage. It can also create dryness which, along with weakened walls and thinner skin, can make future sex very uncomfortable indeed.

5. Increased Risk of Cancer

As mentioned in the How Ejaculation Can Save Your Life article, regular ejaculation can help keep the prostate strong and working, and also help flush out toxins and cancer causing cells. When guys stop getting regular erections and orgasming it can reverse all that good work and positive strengthening, and put them right in the path to discomfort and possible long-term prostate issues. It can also have a bit of an effect on overall erection function with some guys telling me if they don’t “use it” they “lose it”. 

So while sex isn’t always the easiest thing for us to come by, self loving and regular sexual pleasure should be routine and habit! It’s not only fun and a nice way to pass the time, it could also save you a bunch of unnecessary body changes and mental anguish!

60 Comments

  • Victaman6975
    More than a month ago

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  • Victaman6975
    More than a month ago

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    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

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  • Victaman6975
    More than a month ago

    One thing is for sure, I have a lot of trouble getting any sex from this site. This is ridiculous.

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

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  • just1lastdance
    More than a month ago

    My wife has not been interested in initiating sex for quite a number years now, I do understand that sex for her is wonderful when I initiate it (get the ball rolling so to speak as that is the only way it will happen) but now she has a work related injury on top of that which makes her even more less interested... I am in for the long haul, kids etc and do love her her but shit how much can a koala bear... I think I need a lover in the same boat, wouldn't that be nice... :-)))

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      Raze69x
      More than a month ago

      You should talk it out with her first

    • just1lastdance
      More than a month ago

      Hi Raze69x, thanks but how much talking, begging and waiting is exceptable...
      We're talking about 35 yrs of trying to excite your partner... She's just is not into passion/lust...
      Life's cruel

    • Emm222
      More than a month ago

      Unfortunately you're one of many men in this situation. For some reason some women seem to turn off sex very early in a marriage. I can never understand that.

    • just1lastdance
      More than a month ago

      Thanks peaches, yes there are a lot of men and woman who just seem to give up... Maybe they just become too comfortable or just haven't got that I need to fuck gene...lol
      I don't know, but I can't not be me... Turn the mind on and the rest should follow...

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    Gcups71
    More than a month ago

    I wondered why I was getting smarter as time goes by....it's all that sex!!

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    Sassynsensual
    More than a month ago

    My partner has a low sex drive, along with erection problems. Very frustrating, to say at least!

    • just1lastdance
      More than a month ago

      I hear you sassynsensual only she hasn't got erection issues lol... A low sex drive and no initiation, doesn't matter what you do... It is very frustrating...

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Ask him to try kegal exercises I do them daily and they really help with a strong firm erection.

    • meandutime
      More than a month ago

      have you tried pills and things to get him going?

  • Alexis2973
    More than a month ago

    It'll NEVER happen to me :)

    I think you become uninterested in life, sex is natural, why wouldn't you do it :)

    • bluebell43
      More than a month ago

      goes to show I have to start looking around again...

    • lotsalicken
      More than a month ago

      nice bean :)

    • agoodsoul
      More than a month ago

      Why wouldn't you have sex!
      Because it gets expensive paying for it as well as it no fun when having to pay for it!

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    luvshak
    More than a month ago

    Why did I bother reading this? You heard anecdotes about people getting dumber when not having sex? And present it as 'sort of' factual. It's all absolute crap.

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

      Actually there are a number of highly regarded research studies which back this up. We researched it last year when we wrote our Blog post: Sex makes you Smarter, and Smarts make you Sexy

      Use the search feature if you'd like to read it.

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    Lollysaresweet1
    More than a month ago

    Looking after yourself ..Body and Mind..
    And everything else will be put in place.. when Sex is part of our life
    I look after myself as I will never give up sex..so to speak with the right person..
    Single..as im worried to get involved with someone.. who doesn't like intimacy
    And I don't want to look wasted and old just because I got a boring sex partner...
    Its a matter of having Fun and take control of our life..

  • bluebell43
    More than a month ago

    what happens when I want sex and my partner has no interest being intimate. he goes on the porn sites for quite some time...if I walk in the room he shuts it down quickly..
    we have not had sex now for four years...it is completely frustrating and lately even I am losing interest which is not me
    can anybody help solve this issue please

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      KinkyGirl101
      More than a month ago

      Sounds like my ex. A bit of self love on a regular basis will help you cope better. Honestly that's exactly what I lived with for years.

    • FriendlyGuy1965
      More than a month ago

      Oh No ! Bluebell, that it really sad. I thought i had it bad being single (mostly for being shy) but
      to have a partner and not having some sex at home is really sad. I feel i want to give you hug !!
      Do not give up, perhaps ask him if you can watch his porn movies with him and hopefully the conversation will switch to "dirty" sex talk and then you both get horny, start undressing each other, and let the fun begin. Good luck !! Cheers.

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Leave :)

      Or go elsewhere :)

      It's that simple :)

    • andy0071
      More than a month ago

      Go find some swingers club

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      I don't understand why you haven't said, don't do that, I don't mind you watching porn.

  • SeductiveGazes
    More than a month ago

    I regularly experience fulfilment in sensuous activities with my partner. Since meeting this person, I have had clear mind, I'm more alert mentally, physically energised, and we have the most relaxed sleep patterns. I have never experienced this before, my partner and I are connected on all levels i.e. foreplay is stimulated outside of our deep intimate sessions. ***Environment and similar interests are a major factor for us as well.***

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    triXXXi66
    More than a month ago

    loving and respecting yourself first is the best way to get to love and respect another... getting in touch with yourself and knowing your ways of pleasuring yourself can only help when you can share those with another.
    id love to have more erotic dreams...so does that mean i have to stop having sex?
    and as for the dumber bit.....im pretty smart...so go figure.....lol

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      I started having them after meeting one particular person who obviously turns me on.

  • swingingcple
    More than a month ago

    ll i can say is that whilst my sex life is very health, thank god I still like to wank

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    friskypuz
    More than a month ago

    Sex is great fun keeps me feeling good about myself and keeps me young.

    No wonder people start to look else where when it gets shut down at home.

    • jayandgee
      More than a month ago

      have to 'look elsewhere when it gets shut down at home' is a good way of putting it friskypuz.
      It seems the only problem with that is the edgy sexual politics and heavy sanctions that follow.
      No pain no gain as they say.

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      Lollysaresweet1
      More than a month ago

      Well said..
      Regards
      Lollyx

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Sometimes you have to put in a lot of effort and patience with a partner during sessions that you want to have. It is worth the trouble.

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      friskypuz
      More than a month ago

      Sorry, allinmymind you lost me.
      I have both my husband and a great fwb, it's the fwb who has had it shut down at home for whatever reason.

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    Nikkiandroley
    More than a month ago

    The sexperts are looking more like tabloid journalists.
    Not much here that is factual

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Although we are all works in progress, those that are unopen to the articles ideas are painting themselves in a bad light sexually.

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    Monique07
    More than a month ago

    I think it also impacts your ability to be creative, and also puts people in bad moods. That's one reason there's so much anger around. Go and get laid!

    • agoodsoul
      More than a month ago

      That's right its as easy as that for females.
      Its ain't like that for some males!

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      agoodsoul, the ones that seem to get somewhere either are in business or in sales. They also put in a bit of effort.

    • agoodsoul
      More than a month ago

      Allinmymind I have put a lot of effort in i have also worked as a sales rep and a trade in the construction industry and at the moment run my own road work company.

  • Kimeee
    More than a month ago

    I've not had sex in two and a half years. I'm 57 and i doubt I have sex more than 150 times in my life. I've had at least 22 adult years with no sex and slept alone for 36 of my 39 adult years. I doubt i'll be having any sex soon, or ever again and i don't masturbate either. There is something seriously wrong with me...... wHAT A WASTE

    • discreet069
      More than a month ago

      Hi
      If u wr in Sydney I be having sex with u regularly it seem a real waste of beauty

    • agoodsoul
      More than a month ago

      I know how you feel I have only ever had one female allow me to have sex with her and it was a one off i also feel she only did as she felt sorry for me the other few females I had sex with I had to pay for it they were escorts the two I did not pay only allowed me to if I played with there male partner I could tell the female really had no interest in me.
      I am almost 42y/o and only ever had sex with a female 7 times I have not played with anyone for over 10years don't get me wrong I try but being rejected all the time takes its toll on me.
      Worse thing is now I really have not one bit of confidence with women it really has messed me up in a big way!

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      Fishnlove
      More than a month ago

      WTF? Send me a message. I will have sex with you everyday.

    • prrrrfct
      More than a month ago

      totally understand - I have a partner and he is not at all interested; we have not been intimate for 12 years!! I try to look for a sexual partner but it is difficult as ( no-one believes me and the first thing they ask is:why you still with him? ) my confidence is lost, and the thought of being naked in front of a stranger is paralyzing! so, what's the answer?? hmmmm like you KimEee I do not "self-indulge" I don't see the reason for it...

    • Emm222
      More than a month ago

      My hubby has a low sex drive and we have not had sex for about 6 years and prior to that it wasn't very frequent either. It mattered to me alot coz I'm a very sensual person and to me sex is part and parcel of a relationship. I love him to bits but am now no longer in love with him. I mean, how could I be when we're no longer intimate? Then I got rebellious coz he didn't want sex and I did but I felt I was not given a say in this matter. We stopped having it coz he didn't want it but I wanted it and I don't get it so how's that fair? That pushed me to look elsewhere to fill that need. I was very lucky as I found a beautiful man four years ago in the same boat as me. I connect so well with my new man and the both of us are so happy with each other. Only trouble is we don't get to see each other as often as we would like coz his wife is like a leech stuck to him all the time and the opportunity to get together isn't that great but when we do, it is explosive. So yes, I am happy as I'm one of the lucky ones.

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    goosebumps75
    More than a month ago

    There's more to life than just sex. Go out and have fun doing other things. Remember when we were kids we had a ball playing and not thinking the world would comer to an end.

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Thanks for reminding me, it is important not to forget that.

  • April3322
    More than a month ago

    Soooo THAT'S why I can't remember anything! :P

  • agoodsoul
    More than a month ago

    You forgot !
    Losing all confidence.
    Depression.
    And even thoughts of suicide.

    • trusted8
      More than a month ago

      Negative thoughts won't fix anything...believe in yourself and don't lose hope. Your hand is your best friend. Good luck

    • FriendlyGuy1965
      More than a month ago

      Yes, I agree that when you are not in a relationship or lucky enough to have friend with benefits, your confidence is mentally impacted. So yes ,like Trusted 8 suggests to keep sexually active in the meantime is to self pleasure ourselves, even though that it self can sometimes feel depressing as you get reminded that you are alone without a partner. But what can you do?....Cheers.

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Sex and depression don't mix. Some self love seems like it will fix your mood, find some inspiration that works for you.

    • Emm222
      More than a month ago

      Guys, just rely on Mrs Palmer and her five daughters until you get to meet one of them in the flesh.

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