Sex Positions 101: the Good, the Bad & the Downright Uncomfortable

Sex is awesome. We all know that. There are so many different ways to play and here at AMM we love showing you all the different positions and ways to enhance and excite your sex life. 

No matter who you are, what shape, or age, or scale of physical ability you have there are sex positions that will suit you… But sometimes, even the most popular ones should come with a warning label.

We’ve taken a few of our most favourite sex positions and set out the pros and cons to be aware of when getting down to do the deed.

And don't forget to take our poll at the bottom of the article: what's your favourite sex position?

Missionary

Ah good ol’Missionary. The boring grandma of the sex position world. Ho hum you say. Well actually no. Not in this lil sexpert’s opinion. I really like missionary for a bunch of reasons. But yeah, there are a few things about it that aren’t awesome.

Positives

The intimacy of missionary is almost unchallenged by any other position. Your bodies are pressed together tightly, you have eye-contact, you can kiss, you can wrap and entwine yourselves together until you’re almost one person. It’s the position of lovers, the ultimate connection. 

Negatives

As mentioned in the comment section of our “positions for intimacy” article, missionary is not without its faults. The most common complaint being that of sweat dripping onto your face and into your eyes. I completely agree. It’s something that can turn the intimacy of love-making into something gross and uncomfortable and completely not sexy.  There’s also the matter of weight, and that doesn’t even have to be if your partner is on the heavier side. Having a body on top of you can be tiring and uncomfortable after a while, and if we’re talking about being a larger-bellied person, often missionary is an impossible task, especially if both partners have rounder tummies.

Doggie Style

This is the position that can make both parties feel like a porn star. Her with her gorgeous round butt in the air, him behind all strong and in control of the thrusting. Hot! But again, sometimes things can go wrong.

Positives

This is a great position for deep penetration. He can fill her with his entire shaft and watch at the same time. A massive turn on for so many guys! It’s at the perfect position for her Gspot to be stimulated, as well as her clitoris and butt if she’s into it. You can get a great rhythm going too, and it can be really hot at the end for him to pull out and come over her back. Visually amazing for blokes!

Negatives

If you’re anything like me, a little bit older with dodgy knees, Doggie style can be a bit of a pain in them. Pillows can help, but it’s definitely a position I can’t do for too long before I start to ache. While in the pros I mentioned deeper penetration, for a lot of women, Doggie can actually be too deep, and the feeling of the penis hitting the cervix can be one of great discomfort and pain. There’s another kind of pain that Doggie can cause too: The “OMG wrong hole” pain! You know the one, he’s pounding away and you’re pushing back and forth and it’s hot and sexy and then he accidentally pulls out too far, and when he slams back… it’s accidentally your butt… OUCH! Or, on another pain scale, he pulls out a little bit too far, slams back and misses all the holes and smashes his penis into the bones of your pelvis and pops a blood vessel! That shit is uber painful and is referred to as a “broken penis” and can take months to heal and stop hurting.

Shower Sex

This one isn’t so much a position, but it’s a very popular way for people to have sex, and one that can be hot and steamy and awesome… Or slippery and slimy and deadly!

Positives

Hot water flowing down your body as your partner touches and caresses you. Soapy, slippery hands on your breasts, on your cock, running all over you. If you’re into water sports it’s a great place to play without ruining the sheets, and it’s always a fun way to fantasise you’re in a sexy movie scene or porno. 

Negatives

Soap, water, glass and tiles can be a super dangerous combination. Because most shower positions are undertaken while standing up, balance is heaps important, and if you lose it, you can fall through a glass wall, or out of a bath onto tiles. You can do some serious physical injury to yourself, all in the name of orgasmic fun.

So yes, while sex can be brilliant, fun, feel good and exciting, it can also be a bit of a risk in ways you probably haven’t thought of. Always remember to be careful, be aware of your partner, your body, their body, and your surroundings, and always practice safe sex… And I don’t just mean condoms.

 

21 Comments

  • justforfun558
    More than a month ago

    I'm a mature woman and have tried a lot in my life. I like variety so different positions is good. However, I do tell men I'm not a pretzel, and being a bit on the larger size, some positions are uncomfortable especially if in that position for a long time. It must be enjoyable, not painful on your legs, arms or back.

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    letsmeet269
    More than a month ago

    I like to change it up a bit between positions, but I do like cowgirl and doggy as my favourites, also find I'm able to last a lot longer in those positions

  • Lingam63
    More than a month ago

    Lady lying on her belly with me astride her , can be stroking in and out of her as I give her a sensual massage , kissing and caressing all over her back (. a much under appreciated erogenous zone ) then after she's orgasmed I can wrap my arms and legs around her and enjoy her breasts and nipples with my hands as I cum in her . Sheer bliss. ! !

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      Wildgirl16
      More than a month ago

      Yes I agree my absolute favourite

  • Lingam63
    More than a month ago

    The woman sitting in my lap with her legs wrapped around my waist . She is free to ride my cock however she likes , while I can also do some thrusting . Delightful feel of her breasts and nipples rubbing against my chest , and also perfectly positioned for all the kissing we want . Lovely !

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      Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      Ahhh, to be young & flexible again - used to love this position.

  • Finefun
    More than a month ago

    Awesome article
    I just luuuuuuv all of these positions !!!!
    Nothing good will ever come easy!

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    Leolady727
    More than a month ago

    Another great article, Eva. Missionary is not my favourite, although it does have its good points (which are sometimes outweighed but the sweat in the eyes and the discomfort). Doggy can be good but cowgirl is awesome.

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    friskypuz
    More than a month ago

    Can depend on who you are with and where you are, I like variety and being able to mix things up.

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    sensual15
    More than a month ago

    I (obviously the female here) love cowgirl,as I can control how much cock I can fit in my pussy,and I can kiss and watch the guy I'm fucking as I slowly milk his cock to a beautiful orgasm. I also love reverse cowgirl too,as I can enjoy having my clit gently and slowly licked & sucked to a beautiful orgasm at the same time as my pussy is full of a throbbing big black cock ! Lol We do enjoy a lot of fun sharing our sex life with certain respectful gentlemen !

  • mrmikehelen
    More than a month ago

    My fav is reverse cowgirl. You can watch it slide and out while her pussy lips slide up ams down so hot. Would have like some advise on more positions. There are so many more.

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

      If you use the Search Blog feature and search for "positions" you'll see a whole series of articles we've published.

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    roseplusone5961
    More than a month ago

    best for me WOULD be cowgirl though don't currently practice its usually spooning or missionary . Great article though .

  • nautycol
    More than a month ago

    Good article, personally for me any position is great, depending on the situation, who you are having sex with and what the lady you are having sex with is into herself,,,,,,,ask and you shall receive.
    Along time ago when I was 16 I was seduced by 27 y.o divorcee, dated her for three years, taught me heaps, and told me to always pleasure the ladies, has held me in good stead all these years, so guys find out what the girl is into and supply the need.

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      Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      So hilarious that there's ALWAYS a guy who uses a blog to boast about an experience, however tenuously linked to the subject!

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    damon.diggler
    More than a month ago

    I particularly enjoy cowgirl so I can see her face and also feeling her boobs dangling on my chest and face is really nice too. It's even better when she gets creampied then gives me a nice faceride

  • micjil
    More than a month ago

    Doggy deep stick some women love how deep it feels inside them and then straight into anal

  • closet.cowboy
    More than a month ago

    Luv cowgirl and reverse cowgirl. Benefit of reverse is seeing my cock slide in and out

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    Cinnamon32
    More than a month ago

    with lads the lotus position is a fave of mine :)

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    Ozzibum78
    More than a month ago

    Nailed it. Great article and very true about the dripping sweat, have some towels handy or switch to doggy when things heat up ...

  • ausmale1980
    More than a month ago

    Great article :)

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