7 Reasons Guys are Obsessed with Anal Sex

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Porn star Asa Akira once tweeted "ass is the new pussy" and it seems we've reached a point in our culture where anal sex is considered a staple of our sexual repertoires. Porn is often blamed for the popularity of anal sex but it was over a decade ago that Charlotte confessed to performing it on Sex and the City which lifted the veil from this taboo subject for many women.

Adult Match Maker's "Under the Covers" Sex Survey revealed that 69% of men and 45% of women fantasise about anal sex. Pornhub insights for 2015 reveal that anal sex came in at #12 for most searched terms and #9 in the most viewed categories. 

The results of the Australian Study of Health and Relationships conducted by La Trobe University in Melbourne which were released in 2014 found that 25% of Aussie men and 19% of Aussie women reported having anal sex and that those in the 20-39 year old age bracket were more likely to have anal sex. 

So why do we seem to be so obsessed with it and why do men want to try it?

1. It feels totally different to vaginal sex

The mere fact that the world's biggest selling masturbation toy for men, Fleshlight, gives you a "butt" option tells you there's something different about it. Regardless of how many kegel exercises you do, your arse will be tighter, and the ridges and configurations are different. So it's like eating lasagne when you've been on a carb-free diet!

2. It's like eating a decadent dessert

Sorry for the second food analogy but we all love it when our fave restaurant adds a rich, decadent dessert to their menu.  So think of anal sex as that chocolate indulgence (hmm perhaps not the best analogy) that you don't eat every week but you'd like to enjoy every once in a while.

3. She won't get pregnant

Ok, so in a modern world with countless types of contraception to choose from this isn't such a big deal but unless you're ready for parenthood it's got to be on your mind ... just a little bit. 

4. It's more stimulating than vaginal sex

And that's not necessarily just because of physical stimulation - your penis-brain is telling you that this hot, horny girl is willing to be vulnerable enough for you to explore some back-door action. Our radar perks up as soon as we get the go ahead to proceed with caution. And we can't even begin to explain to you what the sensation of sliding our cock into your tight little butt hole feels. Oh my! 

5. It's about trust

Do you remember the first girl who trusted you enough to let you fuck her on the beach, or in the middle of the sports oval or take nude pictures or even a sex video. It's like that! You've found a girl who firstly you trust enough to ask if you can and secondly she trusts you enough to let you. Vulnerability can be a total turn-on.  

6. It's a little bit naughty

It's a little bit forbidden (but not for most of you sexually evolved AMM members reading this article) and probably on your bucket list. It's like attending your first swingers party or indulging in your first threesome. It's a bit like getting your kink on without the gerbils or the gimp suit.

7.  It's a status symbol

That's probably not a good analogy but it's special because not everybody has been there. Anal sex is usually something you save for those partners who make it beyond the one night stand whether they be your fuckbuddy, lover or long term partner. If you count everyone you've had sex with we're guessing only a small percentage of them were allowed to lube up that most private part in readiness for some anal pleasure.

We'd love to know if there's anything we missed off the list or if you'd like to share your experiences, either giving or receiving.

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  • descend69

    descend69

    More than a month ago

    I have had anal sex with several women over the years, only 1 was a one night stand but I did know her as a friend and because we cared about each other the sex was amazing including the anal for the both of us. I have also been in a relationship with a women that loved it, I personally found this a massive turn on as it added extra variety and spice to our relationship.
    However the majority of the time I had to instigate it, even still when your both horny enough the taboo factor kicks in this will add extra excitement for both parties.
    Ladies as a mature man, believe me if you want to give your partner the most powerful orgasms stimulate him anally, speaking from experience if its done right it feels incredible, I am sure a lot of both gay and straight men would agree with me.
    Importantly always remember, guys if you find a women that allows you to have anal sex with her, show her the respect and appreciation she deserves never take it for granted and always be gentle and listen to her.

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  • Lingam63

    Lingam63

    More than a month ago

    I find the title of this article a little misleading . My own ( admittedly limited ) experiences with anal sex have always been entirely at my partners insistence , not mine . My own preference will always be to enjoy a delightfully wet and willing vagina . When I've asked the few women I've had anal with what the attraction was , the most common response was that they felt a greater sense of " fullness " and three commented that they were more able to feel and enjoy the throbbing /pulsing sensation of the penis during ejaculation .

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  • Goodtimezsa

    Goodtimezsa

    More than a month ago

    I don't find much pleasure in giving anal sex, to me the vagina is much more pleasurable i think because the vagina has many more muscles inside. In saying that i have done it when the woman has asked because she enjoys it. I do enjoy receiving (pegging) , gives amazing orgasms when taken slowly!

    • triXXXi66

      triXXXi66

      More than a month ago

      Thanks for your comment.. and i agree.. vaginal sex is much more pleasurable for both parties.. well... in my world so far!

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  • triXXXi66

    triXXXi66

    More than a month ago

    My most common answer to a bloke who asks if im up for anal is to tell him that he has to go first and let me peg him, if you want to try you have to buy first! hahahah...somehow there has been a big silence with a lot after that answer!

    • Goodtimezsa

      Goodtimezsa

      More than a month ago

      No silence from me I'd say deal !!

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    cumonmytits7171

    More than a month ago

    Love anal when the guy takes the time to be gentle, respectful. Using lots of lube, toys, stretching and finally his cock just slides in. Bliss. Time & patience are the key ingredients

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      DiscreetMr

      More than a month ago

      All very true, COMT7171. And on your handle, I've only twice in my life been asked to do that. Never on the face, though. Weird, isn't it?

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  • Icycupcake11

    Icycupcake11

    More than a month ago

    I don't really agree with this article. Anal sex - messy, painful, potentially physically damaging and guys who insist on it are well, a pain in the butt. Anal sex as a symbol of trust and relationship status? Ugh please. Some people are into it and that's fine for them but it's certainly not the new vagina.

    • THORGODOFTHUNDE

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      More than a month ago

      Fail....

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      You've obviously never experienced it with someone who knows what they're doing - can be absolutely mind-blowing and give the most amazing orgasms.

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  • CoffeeNCake

    CoffeeNCake

    More than a month ago

    Reasons Guys are Obsessed with Anal Sex - As the the male 1/2 here. Having read the comments posted. It seems that some ladies do enjoy it. So really is it just the Guys with the obsession ?

    • Titianslady

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      More than a month ago

      I tried it for the first time last year. Doesn't do much for me but I do enjoy using a strapon on my male friends not because it makes me feel dominant I just love watching their muscles contract and the groans of pleasure as it massages the prostate. And some of the orgasms have been amazing. As to why men love Giving anal not all do some feel it's the same but a bit messier so why bother.
      It depends on how tight the woman's pussy is I guess if she's loose he might not get the tight feeling he's looking for and ass play gives him that.Plus it's a great place to be if he's into ass slapping.lol

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  • foryouandanyone

    foryouandanyone

    More than a month ago

    when younger my wife would want it every time she got drunk, she would have the loudest orgasms, she would orgasm from just anal, but the next morning nothing would be said, it was like she was ashamed about doing it

    • capricornia1967

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      More than a month ago

      I found that with your wife too....

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  • 1derPrincess

    1derPrincess

    More than a month ago

    Can we not also say, "but you may find it uncomfortable or not arousing at all, and the fact that guys are obsessed with it does not mean you need to feel under any pressure sexually to consent to it in order to compete with porn stars"?!! And that maybe guys should stop EXPECTING that every woman is happy with it?!

    • sharpai

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      More than a month ago

      im wi+h u..some men are jus+ selfish pricks in +he bedroom..hello..i+s no+ all abou+ men u know

    • JustLookin022

      JustLookin022

      More than a month ago

      I have to agree to agree if you do not know what it feels like then do not expect someone else to do it. It can hurt if not done right. Butt can also increase an orgasm.

    • socialsuicide01

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      More than a month ago

      It should be pretty straight forward, the woman always invites the man, no invitation no anal.

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  • Fellator2145

    Fellator2145

    More than a month ago

    I am wondering what it feels like to receive it.

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  • kittyhere

    kittyhere

    More than a month ago

    I love anal ..and with plenty of clit stimulation at the same time, well its ...oh my The problem is ..so many guys do watch too much porn and think they can just shove it in, shake it all about..and whoooooaaa, we gonna cum like a pornstar..!!! The reality is its a huge trust issues for us ladies and yes it can hurt.............patience and skill is required.....and a couple of oral orgasms before hand helps !!! Slowly friends, slowly

    • strongwilliam

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      More than a month ago

      Oh yes... Yet again, porn resides a long way from reality sometimes.
      I once had a wonderful lover who had ...um... inserted a bum-plug prior to my coming home for lunch... I phoned to say hi and she said she'd never been so horny! Trying to prepare food is evidently difficult with this kind of expectation on your mind. Our lovemaking was WILD! Like you, she loved clitoral stimulation at the same time; something about cumming ...while feeling soooo filled.

    • Moonchild80

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      More than a month ago

      Well said!

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  • Lipstiklipz

    Lipstiklipz

    More than a month ago

    While I respect the opinion and views of those that don't enjoy anal, I have to go against the grain of some and say I love anal. It's a forbidden delicacy!! So long as you have trust let there be thrust .....and plenty of lube. Feeling vulnerable and at the mercy of your guy, (or girl...hey it's all fun), for me personally, is a total turn on.

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  • Jarad2018

    Jarad2018

    More than a month ago

    Maybe it's an age thing for me but I have no interest in it!

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  • Icycupcake11

    Icycupcake11

    More than a month ago

    Personally I'm truly over men expecting it as if it's totally normal. Like, I'm over being asked for it or the assumption that every girl is dying for it just because of porn. I don't give a toss if it feels better for him, it doesn't feel good for a lot of the receivers. Can't wait till this stupid fad ends.

    • Privateer76

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      More than a month ago

      I know how you feel. I'm waiting for the oral sex fad to be over too.

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      It's rather incredible :))

    • FinesApply

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      More than a month ago

      I know fad, right? It's only been 2,000+ years, should end soon.

    • triXXXi66

      triXXXi66

      More than a month ago

      im with you! Nothing irritates me more than when the first thing that is said in a message on here is something to do with anal sex, like its an everyday thing! Its not!

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  • 3on3some

    3on3some

    More than a month ago

    I think I've had anal sex with all but one of the women and all of the men I've been with. You just have to be patient and careful. Once your partner is in the mood it seems to work out OK. I also quite like receiving as long as I am well lubed and have time to relax into it.

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  • justforfun558

    justforfun558

    More than a month ago

    I have tried anal sex several times and don't like it at all. It does nothing sexually for me. I only did it cause the man wanted to. And, if not done slowly and lubricated it can hurt like crazy. I have only met a couple of men who did it without hurting, but even then, it did nothing for me sexually. Most men get inpatient and do it too rough and it hurts really bad. I will not do it again. But, each to their own.

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  • trusted8

    trusted8

    More than a month ago

    For those who have'nt had it, there is probably a fascination into trying it by convincing their partner to be as interested as they are. For those who have enjoyed the experience (meaning both parties) it seems that it becomes an occasional journey to mix things up a little and keep things in the bedroom continually exciting and different. Like all good things, practice makes things perfect.....go slow and easy guys.

    • SugarnSPICEY

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      More than a month ago

      And don't forget the lube :)

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  • seadog89

    seadog89

    More than a month ago

    Yes any woman i have had anal with loved it!A woman of 64 asked me to do it to her !Her husband would not do it to her as he thot it was dirty!First two times we did it ,she tot it was quote interesting !Next time she said FUCK it !!!!From then on she loved it!

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  • Funfinders553

    Funfinders553

    More than a month ago

    We think we are being conditioned that anal sex is great where in fact we think its a once in a blue moon.

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  • Jessyj

    Jessyj

    More than a month ago

    I simply love anal sex!! Jxxx

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  • Searcher61

    Searcher61

    More than a month ago

    1st time I did it didn't even know what happened, my ex picked me up from a golf day horny as hell, took me home, threw me on the bed and did the rest, needless to say I didn't argue but didn't actually know till afterwards. She was always tight so didn't really notice the difference, but she liked it and was an occasional treat whenever she wanted it.

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  • JustR8ted

    JustR8ted

    More than a month ago

    Anal is taboo,that's the major attraction!
    I first looked at anal with my ex of 5yrs,i initially looked at porn.
    It excited me,i licked,i rimmed,i fingered my ex,but there was no communication.
    It was alien to her and there was never no feedback.
    Anyhow fast forward,i've had an encounter with a woman,that just went off,i mean absolutely off the radar.
    That turned me on,as i love to please others.
    What a joy to rim and stick my tongue in the anal hole and caress her over stimulated clit.
    Yummy,i love it,i just love the prelude and seeing how a body reacts.
    It's the cherry,but not everyone likes it,it's horses for courses and you have to respect each others tastes and differences,

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  • curiosityrocks

    curiosityrocks

    More than a month ago


    So, apparently guys are obsessed with anal sex. Strangely, I haven't seen much evidence of guy obsession in this discussion yet. No sure why amm thinks sensationalism makes a topic more interesting.

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  • sexysilver

    sexysilver

    More than a month ago

    I think it is the most uncomfortable sensation, it is un-hygienic and is just awful. I think men who enjoy anal sex have homophobic desires. I consider myself very daring in many ways, but reality dictates that a woman should douche herself to ensure the man does not end up with excrement and possible infection. Yuk yuk yuk and YUK

    • Icycupcake11

      Icycupcake11

      More than a month ago

      Agree!

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      Clearly you have no idea how incredible it can be :))

      That's a ridiculous thing to say about men :)))

    • Privateer76

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      More than a month ago

      "I consider myself very daring in many ways"
      Lol!

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  • Slida181

    Slida181

    More than a month ago

    Hum perhaps I'm the odd one out, because I feel why go anal if you've got a perfectly wet pussy to choose from..... Having said that I am also a gentleman and have done anal because she asked for it..... but to be honest, it was take it or leave it for me...... not my first preference, and not something I'd ask for....

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      You're not the only one! I have a very good friend who feels exactly the same way about anal - I've just resigned myself to the fact that I'll never get it from him :-)

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  • wickedcat

    wickedcat

    More than a month ago

    My ex always preferred anal to vaginal sex .... she said that the "fuller" feeling produced more intense orgasms, where pussy sex only ever produced a "mild" orgasm. Our sex life was great, and she had very good muscle control, with the different sensations also increasing the intensity of my orgasms as well.
    On the few occasions that we had a threesome, she would almost pass out from cumming so hard from double penetration.

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      Agreed they are intense :)), I still love vaginal though, I wouldn't want anal all the time that's for sure :))

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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago

    I don't, however, necessarily agree that guys who give should be prepared to take. Everyone has things they like and things they absolutely do NOT like. I enjoy fisting a lady who likes it, but I don't want it done to me!

    • Privateer76

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      More than a month ago

      SydneyStorm would like a word...

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  • sydneystorm

    sydneystorm

    More than a month ago

    guys shouldnt expect to give anal unless they are prepared to receive it. I'm straight and love being done over by a female.

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      Disagree, I'm not interested in using a strap on but I love anal :)

    • funforall48

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      More than a month ago

      Well ya ain't straight!

    • Privateer76

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      More than a month ago

      Lots of women agree with your sentiments dude.
      Think about it.

    • Rob110x

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      More than a month ago

      That is stupid! I like getting my dick sucked, does that mean I should suck dick too?

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  • MadamS

    MadamS

    More than a month ago

    I enjoy both giving and receiving anal and have found a few female partners whose attitude changes completely if anal is treated as a play to share - I have had an unforgettable double ended dildo experience with a lady firend of mine after which the ice was broken on a range of other "taboos"

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      Ooooh - would love some details. I have just added a double-ended dildo to my collection of "toys"!

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      Zack09

      More than a month ago

      love to give anal if female is keen, also enjoy if female wants to use a strapon on me or giving me anal with a dildo,,,soooooo sexy.

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    jenoo1

    More than a month ago

    After being with a girl that was obsessed with me doing her anal all the time I am a bit over it now. The bottom line is (excuse the pun) , good preparation is a must for everything to go smooth and clean.
    Was also wondering if the author deliberately used the word analogy so many times hahaha.

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      Yeah I could imagine you'd get over it :)

    • maddoo

      maddoo

      More than a month ago

      I think you got over the girl herself not the anal issue, and I can see why you here very much just like almost all of us, CHANGING YOUR DIET, its strange to say that but its true that SEX no much from food if we eat MACCAS everyday you will get sick of it and will crave kebab or kfc on different days, however good luck finding your next DIFFERENT food :-)

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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago

    I find that some men have a real double standard when it comes to anal. They really want it, enjoy it, but think a woman who wants and enjoys it is a total skank. -(

    • Lancelot2013

      Lancelot2013

      More than a month ago

      Gender roles are loaded with double standards; so you aren't wrong, but maybe we just enjoy the journey (provided by the 'chase') more than the destination... at least some of the time ;)

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      allinmymind

      More than a month ago

      I have only had anal with my husband, how does that make someone a skank?

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  • kinkyfunforsum

    kinkyfunforsum

    More than a month ago

    Mrs Kinky loves it, she says its totally different but she orgasms so much from it and I love making her orgasm so its win win

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  • Theritemix

    Theritemix

    More than a month ago

    Anal .... It the greatest thing ever discovered ....... Almost nothing out there that is it's equal... Rumming is right up there with it ... All ass nothing but ass.

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  • motorcade

    motorcade

    More than a month ago

    So many guys have double standards around anal sex. In the chat room or a message they will say "my ass is one way only" and express horror, disdain, and judgements against the very idea of receving and yet list "anal sex " as a like on their profile.

    I am very surprised that no-one owned up to liking anal sex because its tight, like a virgin. Or admited that part of the attraction (for hetero's) is getting to sample ass fucking without the guilt of doing it with a man.

    I also note that some men love their ass to be fucked and dsoem wone love fucking ass (as evidenced by some of the postings here) so why make it all about male on female??? Are we not yet liberated from the patriarchy of a man "doing it" to a woman??

    • LadyDragon

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      More than a month ago

      Agree with you! Such pussies, men... always wanting to do to, not be DONE to... butt (sorry!) have to say that bi-guys are beautiful. Equal opportunity arses there! It's lovely to be trusted with anal play, giving as good as I've got. Those gorgeous guys who can play both ways, and allow me to watch AND participate. Equal rights is great ;-)

    • MiguelCDLOGAN

      MiguelCDLOGAN

      More than a month ago

      Lady...you're a rarity... I suspect that if I put contact details here the post wouldn't see the light of day... still, it's nice to know there are women like you around... it partly gives a lie to the title of this piece. it's not only men that are into it in a big way.

    • THORGODOFTHUNDE

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      More than a month ago

      Should be prepared to get what you give ;)

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      I'm not interested in men that like receiving anal so not sure we all feel the same way :))), i like it but I'm only interested in straight men :)

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      @Melody2973 just because men enjoy anal sex it doesn't make them not straight! Prostate orgasms are reported to be the most intense a man can experience.

    • JydinTobio

      JydinTobio

      More than a month ago

      Literally nothing gay about a man who enjoys giving/receiving anal in any way from a woman. Any sexual act between a man and a women is straight. It's only gay if the enjoyment comes from the act(s) being done by someone who is the same gender, and that's totally ok too. Also the men who enjoy receiving anal enjoy it for the same reasons some women enjoy it. Feels good and really hits the spot :D
      And to those who don't enjoy it, that's ok too.

    • THORGODOFTHUNDE

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      More than a month ago

      Melody2973 I am a straight man, it's like saying you are a lesbian because you like your pussy licked..

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      I don't think it's anything like that but you are of course entitled to your opinion :))

      Men have always licked pussy so yeah :)

    • Privateer76

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      More than a month ago

      "Or admited that part of the attraction (for hetero's) is getting to sample ass fucking without the guilt of doing it with a man. "

      That's a classic. Did everyone simultaneously facepalm when they read that?

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  • mauricegerard

    mauricegerard

    More than a month ago

    can say anal is the favourite...BUT rim is just the most wonderful feeling..and if you have someone that just wants to rim you and you love to masturbate while they are deep between the cheeks...wow

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  • Blondeyskye

    Blondeyskye

    More than a month ago

    I <3 Anal

    • Edeninchaos

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      More than a month ago

      You have a fantastic ass for anal....:)

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  • TSsara

    TSsara

    More than a month ago

    yep all true and it feel great

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  • renew098

    renew098

    More than a month ago

    We enjoy anal sex and anal play the more we explore. The trust we have is an amazing element. It seems to give a different orgasm, its naughty.

    Suggestive play, light stimulation is often fun for us, doesnt necessarily lead to anal fucking each time. We also enjoy strap on play from time to time (male here) and it feels fantastic. Some guys are curious about bending over and why not. After trying it for the first time there was an added sensation that makes cum almost on cue.

    Another favourite is the possibilites when it comes toys. While having anal play, we always manage to include toys. Give her that dp feeling or clitoral stimulation while we play.

    If both partners are willing... definitely a world worth exploring.

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  • LUV4FUN69

    LUV4FUN69

    More than a month ago

    Any Port in a storm. Luv it (((( :

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  • maddoo

    maddoo

    More than a month ago

    i strongly believe that anal is a must for 99% of men when it comes to giving it, however for women, the very first anal experience decide the features wither she will accept it & doing it again or not, sadly too many women being abused by none experienced males who they thought its that easy as it shows in porn movies while its not at all, anal sex is much different experience by all means,( physically, mentally, psychologically )for women and both bodies and personalities are not the same after the first anal, the wannabes porn stars men can actually cause major turn off for women only because they such ignorant and miss treated that very different part in a women, its my advice to any female not to agree to anal experience just because she wanna make him "HAPPY" it goes both ways to achieve pleasure and ensure he knows whats he doing and its not just about shove and push, thanks for reading.

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      Well-said - agree 100%

    • maddoo

      maddoo

      More than a month ago

      thank you beautiful.

    • sexygirl65

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      More than a month ago

      morals :) sensitivity :) consideration:) agree :)

    • PSandSS

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      More than a month ago

      OMG, what a great comment, Intelligent and sensitive. Thanks.

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  • NoShyGuy2009

    NoShyGuy2009

    More than a month ago

    And some girls actually like it up there. I was very surprised one night when I was fucking this chick doggy style and she pulled my cock out and stuck it in her ass and started going off. Omg, Wow!!

    • missbutterfly30

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      More than a month ago

      yeh

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  • here2smile

    here2smile

    More than a month ago

    Not only is it a little naughty it is also like taking a bite of the forbidden fruit especially when her ass is shaped like a firm peach.

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  • maturemale

    maturemale

    More than a month ago

    I have enjoyed it in the past but its been a couple of years since the last time. It's not easy finding ladies who are into it or prepared to try it.

    • horny4803

      horny4803

      More than a month ago

      Maybe its time you looked at the other side of the gander, because that might be something you would enjoy, I know I did from the very first time.

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  • fkinky

    fkinky

    More than a month ago

    Yes--You didn't ONCE mention to WEAR A CONDOM. You seem to think that anal sex with a female is automatically MORE SAFE than with a male.No matter which hole you stick your dick,male OR female[except the mouth apparently], without a condom it is NOT SAFE ! Enjoy anal sex with either sex but bare back and breed me and all that other shit talk is totally ignorant.
    Thank you for bringing up this subject.

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      Good point but the article isn't a "how to". And you can see we've recommended members read Eva's article which covers the health and how to aspects and states "Always wear a condom and remember, when swapping between anal and vaginal sex the condom must be changed."

    • fkinky

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      More than a month ago

      Thanks for YOUR reply and pleased that Eva's article [which I didn't read in my haste to 'have my say' ] covers what I was trying to say.

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      No worries, we can't possibly cover every point in every article so we do try to cross link where it's important. The other article has some great advice about the best lubes to use.

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    Fr33Spirits

    More than a month ago

    Not sure the title is fair....maybe it should read 'many guys'.

    Certainly THIS guy of this cpl prefers pussy. Looks like I'm the 'odd one' lol

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  • Melody2973

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago

    Personally I think it's just the whole ' forbidden fruit ' theory. It's certainly not everyone's cup of tea that's for sure. It's throughly enjoyable done with someone that's into it as much as you are :), I have incredible orgasms like that just sayin ;),

    • Darkstud

      Darkstud

      More than a month ago

      I agree, definitely not my cup of tea. I've never tried anal before nor do I ever have an urge. Maybe its because of who I am, male with a sensitive cock, loves slow passionate sex and not into anything painful or hurtful. Prefer the softness of a pussy to the hardness of the arse hole.

    • TheKnave

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      More than a month ago

      Prefers the softness of pussy,never tried anal.
      Lol.

    • foryouandanyone

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      More than a month ago

      I think you are right, my wife has the best orgasm when we do it that way,

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  • Analwhoresub

    Analwhoresub

    More than a month ago

    What can i say, nothing feels better then anaI sex for me... I prefer anal sex more then anything..If i had to choose what hole, it would always be my arse first. The bigger the object the better ;)

    • maddoo

      maddoo

      More than a month ago

      i think you the first lady being not very shy about it, i put thumps up for you, there is something i find really strange, i have personally met some women liked anal, tried anal, but still highly secretive and in total denial about it as if its big NO NO or crime....!

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      That's because it's not spoken about between women. Just because we don't have a title like that doesn't mean we don't enjoy it :)),

    • maddoo

      maddoo

      More than a month ago

      fair enough.... :o)

    • Analwhoresub

      Analwhoresub

      More than a month ago

      I talk to my girl friends openly about anal sex..Some enjoy it and some wont do there, but are still happy to talk about it..I don't understand why women feel it's a taboo subject.It's a sexual stimulation.

    • Melody2973

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      More than a month ago

      Depends on your friends. I've got a large circle of friends from many different walks of life and not one of them has ever mentioned it. I've discussed it with a couple of them. Yes it's sexual but I still think most aren't comfortable talking about it just like they wouldn't be comfortable being on a sex site. Each to their own :))

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      allinmymind

      More than a month ago

      I thought I expressed I liked it when this article came out.

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  • whycoffee

    whycoffee

    More than a month ago

    it feels just as good a woman using a strapon on a guy :)
    just saying lol

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    WestBeachBill

    More than a month ago

    After months of consideration, and older lady who had submitted to me as her Dom finally took anal off her hard limits list, and gave me her butt cherry.
    Sublime!
    When we next played, I granted her a favour, and to my surprise she requested anal. She told me she loved it, quite unexpected, then got a butt plug so we could enjoy regular DP etc.
    To me it's about trust, power and sensuality.

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  • enrico81

    enrico81

    More than a month ago

    It's something anyone with a butt hole can enjoy really, so thats everyone, just depends if you want to try it. I like being empowered by a woman with a strapon as much as I like to give anal. Variety in bed always keeps sex fun and exciting

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  • playfun69

    playfun69

    More than a month ago

    lol, did a woman write this, I bet,

    • MiguelCDLOGAN

      MiguelCDLOGAN

      More than a month ago

      Your point, is? I don't think it matters but then again I might be wrong.

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      It was a collaboration actually, not an individual author.

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  • MiguelCDLOGAN

    MiguelCDLOGAN

    More than a month ago

    I know how it feels from both sides of the equation.

    I only ever asked one woman to try it and she found it confronting afterwards. She said she'd never do it again. She was 27 at the time. A couple of months later she asked to try again and that time she did enjoy it beyond my expectations. I thought she was asking for MY pleasure but obviously she had to climb that mountain again for HER pleasure as well.

    Several other women brought the subject up with me and suggested that it should be part of our play without my explicit urging. All of them where in their 40's. All of them enjoyed the experience and wanted it on different levels of intensity. Some with whom I played played mild dominance games, wanted to be entered gently and then quite simply banged. My tip for guys that haven't had much experience in this area is use your mouth and tongue.... No, not going down on her... talk, ask, suggest... she'll let you know. Her body will let you know.. The moment she back up on you, you'll know you're home and hosed. Don't go wild though... Gentle acceleration, as though you're trying to not spill a drop from the glass of champagne sitting on the bonnet of your car. You can reach very high speeds if you're careful.

    That said, and thinking back, there have been only 14 women that I have shared that experience with among many more women I've had sex with.

    All I can say about this subject, from a man's point of view, is that once a woman is ready to experiment in this area, they'll wonder why they waited at all. It's not just guys that get obsessed with it. I know why that is, given I play as girls do sometimes.

    • AtomicCouple

      AtomicCouple

      More than a month ago

      Well written! They should have got you to collaborate on this article

    • whycoffee

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      More than a month ago

      agreed good points talk is important

    • MiguelCDLOGAN

      MiguelCDLOGAN

      More than a month ago

      Thank you, A C

    • shellygurl1970

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      More than a month ago

      well written Miguel hun! xxx

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      gutentagguys

      More than a month ago

      I love your analogy , a glass of champagne on the car bonnet! Brilliant . Great comment :)

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  • Looklustlick

    Looklustlick

    More than a month ago

    Being on the larger side it's a rare thing for me but I do prefer pussy

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    mars62

    More than a month ago

    Having enjoyed since the age of 18 I now know how empowering it is to have something that drives a man wild... but having said that I always make it known from the very start that I do not ever offer such on first play. Most understand, and I've had plenty of second, third, fourth, plays etc...some don't....Que séra séra. My body..My choice..

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  • CuriousDaveAM

    CuriousDaveAM

    More than a month ago

    Nice summary! When I was at University, a lot of girls I slept with had no issues with Anal sex - may be they were more eager, flexible, etc. However, the key was to make sure she actually enjoyed the experience, in most cases they had orgasms because I had free and easy access to their clitoris during anal sex. I find older women are less willing for some reason until a lot of trust is established. Understandable. Unless the guy can read the girl's reaction and adjust accordingly, sometimes even stop, you don't get a second chance!

    • Hakucho

      Hakucho

      More than a month ago

      There might be a correlation between older women less inclined to initiate anal and the cosmetic health of their arseholes. Having my children did a real number on my sphincter, leaving a few skin tags from massive hemorrhoids that inhibited my confidence in a HUGE way. 10 years later, when the grey hairs and the glasses have given me true perspective on cosmetic issues I haven't wasted any more time checking that box off my bucket list. It definitely exceeded expectations as the added liberation from an inhibited state made it truely amazing. It's now included in the repertoire regularly but not every time. Giddyup!

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    allinmymind

    More than a month ago

    I don't always need or use lube, usually don't. I also don't squirm or squeal. It is all about being very turned on first.

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      allinmymind

      More than a month ago

      Adding in one advantage to anal if your partner is a bit keen and hurts your back by compressing you a little, anal seems a much better angle and less stress.

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  • wifeywantsit

    wifeywantsit

    More than a month ago

    Another point, some men enjoy watching their partner squirm and squeal. It is well known that pain and violence and sex sometimes goes together, just think of BDSM.I personally get a thrill when I have anal sex with my wife, feeling her wiggle about and biting the pillow, the little squeals she yelps out, makes me pump her harder, then near the end she is almost limp, worn in and it feels like a win, you have dominated her.Both of us by the way enjoy this feeling.

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      We think you're going to love one of the articles we'll publish later this month.

    • Edeninchaos

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      This is very true and it is what anal sex is to me feeling of owning her in the moment after a tamed session... love it :)

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