Porn star Asa Akira once tweeted "ass is the new pussy" and it seems we've reached a point in our culture where anal sex is considered a staple of our sexual repertoires. Porn is often blamed for the popularity of anal sex but it was over a decade ago that Charlotte confessed to performing it on Sex and the City which lifted the veil from this taboo subject for many women.
Adult Match Maker's "Under the Covers" Sex Survey revealed that 69% of men and 45% of women fantasise about anal sex. Pornhub insights for 2015 reveal that anal sex came in at #12 for most searched terms and #9 in the most viewed categories.
The results of the Australian Study of Health and Relationships conducted by La Trobe University in Melbourne which were released in 2014 found that 25% of Aussie men and 19% of Aussie women reported having anal sex and that those in the 20-39 year old age bracket were more likely to have anal sex.
So why do we seem to be so obsessed with it and why do men want to try it?
1. It feels totally different to vaginal sex
The mere fact that the world's biggest selling masturbation toy for men, Fleshlight, gives you a "butt" option tells you there's something different about it. Regardless of how many kegel exercises you do, your arse will be tighter, and the ridges and configurations are different. So it's like eating lasagne when you've been on a carb-free diet!
2. It's like eating a decadent dessert
Sorry for the second food analogy but we all love it when our fave restaurant adds a rich, decadent dessert to their menu. So think of anal sex as that chocolate indulgence (hmm perhaps not the best analogy) that you don't eat every week but you'd like to enjoy every once in a while.
3. She won't get pregnant
Ok, so in a modern world with countless types of contraception to choose from this isn't such a big deal but unless you're ready for parenthood it's got to be on your mind ... just a little bit.
4. It's more stimulating than vaginal sex
And that's not necessarily just because of physical stimulation - your penis-brain is telling you that this hot, horny girl is willing to be vulnerable enough for you to explore some back-door action. Our radar perks up as soon as we get the go ahead to proceed with caution. And we can't even begin to explain to you what the sensation of sliding our cock into your tight little butt hole feels. Oh my!
5. It's about trust
Do you remember the first girl who trusted you enough to let you fuck her on the beach, or in the middle of the sports oval or take nude pictures or even a sex video. It's like that! You've found a girl who firstly you trust enough to ask if you can and secondly she trusts you enough to let you. Vulnerability can be a total turn-on.
6. It's a little bit naughty
It's a little bit forbidden (but not for most of you sexually evolved AMM members reading this article) and probably on your bucket list. It's like attending your first swingers party or indulging in your first threesome. It's a bit like getting your kink on without the gerbils or the gimp suit.
7. It's a status symbol
That's probably not a good analogy but it's special because not everybody has been there. Anal sex is usually something you save for those partners who make it beyond the one night stand whether they be your fuckbuddy, lover or long term partner. If you count everyone you've had sex with we're guessing only a small percentage of them were allowed to lube up that most private part in readiness for some anal pleasure.
We'd love to know if there's anything we missed off the list or if you'd like to share your experiences, either giving or receiving.