Anal Play without Penetration

If you haven't worked it out yet, Adult Match Maker members love butts! We love their shape and the way they move. We love looking at them. Touching them. Spanking them. Fucking them. But we also know that, for whatever reason, some people are a little remiss about putting things inside them, and that's totally okay!

The thing is, all sex and sexual play is subjective and personal to the person whose body is being touched, and anal sex is definitely one of those things that can be a hard limit for some. However, anal sex and anal play can be two very different things, and for a lot of people, while one is a hard limit "no", the latter can be an "ooh okay let's give that a try" especially with the right partner. 

The Right Partner

This means someone who actually understands and listens to your boundaries and consent and who won't push that limit or try and coerce you into trying something beyond what you have agreed to. While yes, consent and experimentation are continual subjects, there is a time and place for them to occur, and trying to push a boundary or limit in the immediate throes of passion (when a hard limit or boundary has been set beforehand) is a big no no. The right partner is someone who asks how you're going. Who checks in during play (especially new play). Who follows your lead or limits when you're the "newbie" to the situation. Who won't be upset if you change your mind halfway through... Because that might happen when it comes to new things, and you should always feel safe and respected.

Preparation Is Key

In this instance, I'm not really talking douching and enemas (although if you want to flush the area out beforehand that's cool) because it's unlikely to get too messy without the penetration, but in all cases you should be freshly cleaned and washed, because that whole area can get a bit funky after a day of walking around in pants, and being clean is not only hygienic but courteous to your partner too. Guys, this means you too. Please wipe and wash properly, especially if you're wanting someone to get up close and personal down there.

Your best friend in the preparation for anal play of any sort is lube. Yes, even if you're not having anal sex, lube is an essential accessory for enjoyable anal play.

This is because it keeps the whole area slippery and slidey and soft, and stops all those little sensitive nerves and delicate skin areas from pulling or stretching or getting caught on little hairs etc.

Perennial Perineum 

Just like all bodies have a butt, so too do all bodies have a perineum and that area, my friends, is your number one first stop to starting the journey into anal play.

This is because firstly it's the perfect line to play with from genitals to butt, but secondly (and possibly more importantly) it feels fucking amazing. Just dragging a slippery, slidy finger gently along it can create new and delicious sensations you've not experienced before, and combined with oral sex, or fingering/hand-jobs can enhance it to heights you've only dreamed of. Seriously, this is a body part that is so often ignored in sexual play, but one which should really be celebrated by all of us.

Everywhere But In

Hands, mouths, toys... Oh my! There are so many ways to touch and play and explore the butt area without ever going past that point of penetration, and even, for a lot of people, feels better than any anal penetration ever could. The tingling sensation of the butthole being licked, buzzed or stroked, especially when combined with other sensations, can be mind-blowingly good and lead to leg shaking orgasms and breathe-catching moments. 

And let's not forget the butt is far more than just a butt-hole! The cheeks and plump areas can be a treasure trove for squeezes and spanks, bites and nibbles, and other kneading needs. Finding that perfect hand hold as they ride atop you (male or female), can help guide and set the rhythm and pace, and there's something quite delicious about a well timed, and well placed, spank.

So yes, while anal play and anal sex can be something you might want to work up to and slowly begin experimenting with, remember there is far, FAR more to it than just sticking it in. Use your imagination, your sex toys, your body, hands and mouths to change the way you play, explore, and most of all, orgasm.

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  Campbelltown1

  More than a month ago

  I have a partner who says that when i ask her to play with my butt hole and maybe insert a finger of 2 for a "prostrate massage, her reply is why? And if i m asking her to do that then asks me im im Bi and i must want a dick up there.
  
  I also have a femail friend who i play with occasionally and does like to play with my butt hole and has even used a dildo whilst she strokes my cock.
  It one fabulous feeling

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  Easyrider.2260

  More than a month ago

  A gorgeous lady on here introduced me to rimming. I couldn't get the smile off my face for 2 weeks. And I love repaying the favour. Great article.

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  badthoughts63

  More than a month ago

  Yes I love licking butts and to be licked back. It’s an amazing sensation. I also love it when a few women take their turn fucking my arse with strap ons. Oh bliss.

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  Fuckudeep129

  More than a month ago

  Great article Eva, i love to explore all areas of the body, butt in some circumstances I've encountered anal play is taboo, which is a shame as I'm for it

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  MadeinIT

  More than a month ago

  Am definitely not the "just stick in" person I love to play and explore and different reactions and I need to say I learnt something new today. Thanks for your article

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