Can my small penis satisfy my partner?

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Q: I have a small penis and I’m worried it’s not big or good enough to satisfy my partner. Can a small penis give good orgasms?

Firstly I just want to say that “small” is completely subjective and without seeing it (please don’t send me a dick pic) I can’t make comment on the size, however what I WILL say is that so many men get their size examples from pornography (I mean, where else do most hetero men see an erect penis?) and that’s not the best way to “measure up”. These guys don’t get porn work because of their acting skills, they get it because they have monster cocks that look good on film, so please don’t compare yourself to them.

Secondly you should read our Big Dicks Unzipped blog post where we spoke to many women about penis size preference, and the findings were that everyone is different and prefers different sizes, shapes, lengths and girths, and there is no “perfect” penis size.

And thirdly I am going to be blunt. Sex is FAR MORE than penis in vagina. If that is all you think it is, and think it’s the only way you can satisfy your partner, then I don’t think it matters what size you are, you’re probably not going to be the best lay.

Biologically speaking the vagina (when aroused) isn’t much longer than 4 to 5 inches before it gets to the cervix and many women actually find it painful and uncomfortable to have their cervix poked with a penis, not to mention the g-spot, which is where most of the internal sensation can be felt, is only 2-3 inches inside the vagina anyway.

Hands, fingers, mouths, sex toys and words are some of the best sex-essories around and combining them all with penis in vagina sex is one of the best ways to have amazing, mind-blowing, mutually satisfying sex. 

If the size thing really, really bothers you there are a bunch of things you can use to make your penis feel bigger, like pumps and creams (talk to your local adult shop about the best creams), and then there are penis sleeves and extenders that basically slip over your penis like a condom and add length and girth, but I also have to ask… Does it bother her? Like has she ever expressed dissatisfaction with your performance? Has she made comment about your size? And, if she has, and it’s upsetting and makes you feel bad… Maybe she isn’t the right partner for you.

I hope my answers have helped and you can start to feel more confident in the bedroom, it’s certainly not a nice feeling to have. 

Good luck, and remember, everyone is valid, no matter how big or small they think they might be, and yes, that includes you.

41 comments

  • Extra4322

    Extra4322

    More than a month ago

    I think I am average, but my partners often refuse doggy vaginal sex for long time. Does this position go deeper somehow ? Does a man have more control and or force ?

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      It probably has nothing to do with your penis. In doggy position a woman's pelvis tilts which can cause a truncation of the vagina so it probably feels like your penis is smashing against her cervix. Ouch. So yes you can have more control to go deeper but every partner is going to be different so take your cues on what they enjoy without it being painful.

    • Extra4322

      Extra4322

      More than a month ago

      Thanks. As always, continuous consent is called for

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  • st6419

    st6419

    More than a month ago

    The size of a man to me doesn't really matter as long as he doesn't hurt me and Isn't too small like under 5 Inches like others have said Girth Is great I love girth I am very tight

    Reply
  • StraightSwap4u

    StraightSwap4u

    More than a month ago

    If I like a man, I will love his penis regardless of size

    Reply
  • sweetSweet36

    sweetSweet36

    More than a month ago

    size doesnt really matter if you know how to use it. Big is fun but then why would you want something that wont stick with you forever

    Reply
  • Steels.73

    Steels.73

    More than a month ago

    Different horses for different courses is a saying for a reason, having said that hopefully smaller guys are appreciated irl too.

    Reply
  • Takes.anal.cock

    Takes.anal.cock

    More than a month ago

    Way back long ago I had a girlfriend who got wild orgasms from my technique of holding my penis and thrusting the head in through her labia and then withdrawing it fully, then in and out again. Not deep trusts at all, just into the entrance of her vagina and out again, and not fast - maybe one second cycles. This was in the doggie position by the way. She loved that this technique opened her vagina in a kind of "surging" or "pulsing" action, stimulating her labia and clitoris (and maybe that's where the most pleasure is for a woman?). So this could be a good technique for a smaller penis? Don't know since I am about average to large myself, but using this method it would not matter how long my dick was.

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  • Darkstud

    Darkstud

    More than a month ago

    A penis is a penis, big or small. The very sight is enough to excite a woman.
    Many women would acknowledge, you don't even need a penis to satisfy a woman, you only need to know how to excite her and make her feel good about what is being done.
    So stop worrying and learn to enjoy the woman.

    Reply
  • Bigmac11

    Bigmac11

    More than a month ago

    I have 12'' don't have a problem lol

    • niceguyperth35

      niceguyperth35

      More than a month ago

      You wish you had a 12 inch, the biggest cock is 13 inches so you def wouldn’t have a cock that big and if it was you wouldn’t be on adult match maker

    • JackfromOz

      JackfromOz

      More than a month ago

      Thats funny Bigmac. Your profile says your between 7 and 8 inches.

      So either you or your profile is lying :P

      I agree with niceguy there, you wish you had 12 inches.

      You probably only have 4" --- you must really be the life of the party at a group session :)

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  • ynot70today

    ynot70today

    More than a month ago

    I enjoy guys with small penises they dont hurt and i have lots of fun with x Tanya x

    Reply
  • MandyML73

    MandyML73

    More than a month ago

    I don’t find small cocks satisfying at all. These men feel the need to make up for it in other ways I’ve found. I dint want to hear it’s not the size it’s how you use it, ummmmm no. The size helps believe me. It depends if he has a clue on so many other levels but I prefer a larger then average cock.

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      Weareupforit

      More than a month ago

      I disagree, i think size is uncomfortable and far less enjoying. Average size is perfect and you don't have it hitting the too of your cervix which is bloody irritating and becomes painful. I think girth is more important than length by far.

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  • Unmoderated

    Unmoderated

    More than a month ago

    Word it how you want, but if we're just talking size, a woman will prefer a big dick over a small dick every time.

    • niceguyperth35

      niceguyperth35

      More than a month ago

      Obviously you didn’t read the article at all it claims very different to what your saying

    • Unmoderated

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      You're right, I think just responded with the whole importance of size question in mind.

    Reply
  • Janeblonde007

    Janeblonde007

    More than a month ago

    I personally think far to much emphasis is put on the size of a penis. If your an attentive lover you will take the time to know your partners body, where to touch, tease and pleasure. You have a mouth, tounge, fingers....not to mention the assortment of adult toys and devices. Try to accept what is. Get comfortable with who you are and what you have. That on it's own is very sexy. PS. It's not the length it's girth.

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  • LionAwakening

    LionAwakening

    More than a month ago

    It's not the length of the mast, but the motion of the ocean. ;)

    Reply
  • Ifuwannadome

    Ifuwannadome

    More than a month ago

    Id rather small to big as i dont have a grand canyon.
    And most guys ive met with big dicks are useless.......

    • MandyML73

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Meeting the wrong men let me tell you. The men I’ve known that are well hung have all been fantastic lovers :)

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      Weareupforit

      More than a month ago

      I agree, girth anf length are far more important. Length is not important as most vaginas are only 4 inches long. You cant fit an 8 inch penis in a 4 inch vagina unless somethings wrong. Give me 6 inches any day of the week. I've had 9 inches and gos it was horrible, anything over 6 inches is uncomfortable.

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  • Meldah

    Meldah

    More than a month ago

    Goldicock - not too big, not too small, just right!

    Reply
  • player1959

    player1959

    More than a month ago

    Size isn't everthing.
    Small cocks have satisfied me in the past.
    And larger ie longer ones have been painful.
    Depends on the guy and how he uses it.
    Girth is better bigger. But again depends on how a guy uses it.
    As a more mature woman I've found my body can't handle larger sizes like it used too.

    • countrylad2697

      countrylad2697

      More than a month ago

      Penetration can be a small or big part of sexual satisfaction ... it's what you've done getting to use whatever size cock you have that will satisfy .

    Reply
  • NightHowl

    NightHowl

    More than a month ago

    And thoughts on girth ladies ?
    Which is more important/satisfying ? Length or girth ?

    • friskypuz

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Girth for me

    • NightHowl

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Thanks for your feedback

    • Desirable4u

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Definately Girth... :)

    • HotLipsMilf

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Girth for sure

    • NightHowl

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Thanks, Girth for the girls ! Could be a T-shirt idea ?

    • Do_it_4_Fun

      Do_it_4_Fun

      More than a month ago

      Girth over length, except for oral there is something naughty and fun about about a length challenge when its oral.

      PS Big Girth and Big Length for oral = a sore jaw lol

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  • Pyaephyonaing

    Pyaephyonaing

    More than a month ago

    Sex not depends on ur size
    It’s depends on ur skill

    • LionAwakening

      LionAwakening

      More than a month ago

      Nobody looks at the size of a magician's wand, do they?

    Reply
  • friskypuz

    friskypuz

    More than a month ago

    not always the length but the width that is good.. :)

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      ACTGUY38

      More than a month ago

      It’s all about how you use it and how to please a woman with more then your penis.

    • friskypuz

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Yep, more like the penis is the grand final'e..

    Reply
  • IVAONE60

    IVAONE60

    More than a month ago

    Great article yes there is more ways to please you're partner then just the penis. I find giving oral and finger pleasure gets great results.

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      garlee

      More than a month ago

      Oh yes please Ivaone60, finger me bitch boy

    Reply
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