What is Tantric Sex?

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When people hear the words tantric sex, it often makes them curious. Some imagine long, almost endless lovemaking sessions. Others picture sacred rituals, incense, or ancient chants. The truth is far simpler - tantric sex is about presence. It’s about slowing down enough to truly see your partner, to savour intimacy as more than just physical release, and to experience connection in a way that nourishes the heart as much as the body.

The Origins of Tantra

Tantra is an ancient spiritual path that originated in India thousands of years ago. At its core, it embraces the idea that the body and spirit are not separate but deeply intertwined. While many spiritual traditions have viewed sexuality as something to rise above or even deny, Tantra celebrates it as sacred - a doorway to greater awareness and wholeness.

Tantric sex, then, is one expression of this philosophy. It’s not a set of rigid techniques or complicated rituals, but a way of approaching intimacy with mindfulness.

Beyond the Goal of Orgasm

Too often, sex is framed as as goal-driven: a build-up toward climax, followed by release. Tantra flips that script. Rather than racing toward orgasm, tantric sex invites you to expand the experience, to linger in sensation, and to enjoy intimacy without pressure.

This shift opens up a different kind of pleasure - one that isn’t limited to a single moment of release. Many people describe full-body tingles, waves of energy, or even deep emotional release during tantric practice. But even without those experiences, slowing down and being fully present with your partner can make sex feel richer, more connected and more meaningful.

The Essence of Tantric Intimacy

What makes sex tantric isn’t the length of time or the use of rituals - it’s the intention. Some of the simplest practices can be the most powerful:

Eye gazing – Sitting across from your partner and holding eye contact may sound easy but it creates a sense of vulnerability and deep connection.

Breathwork – Syncing your breath with your partner’s helps you feel more in tune, both physically and emotionally.

Lingering touch – Exploring the body slowly, without rushing, awakens the senses in new ways.

Sacred attention – Giving your full focus to your partner, letting go of distractions and treating the moment as something special.

These gentle practices create space for vulnerability, trust, and a sense of connection that goes beyond the physical.

Why People turn to Tantra

There are many reasons someone might explore tantric sex. For couples who feel life pulling them in different directions, it can be a way to reconnect and rekindle intimacy. For individuals healing from past sexual experiences, it can offer a gentle, mindful approach to rediscovering pleasure. And for those simply seeking more depth in their relationships, tantra provides a framework for weaving spirituality, love and sexuality together.

The beauty of tantric practice is that it meets you where you are. You don’t have to follow every teaching or spend years in study to benefit. Even small steps - a few minutes of stillness together, slowing down your touch, or breathing as one - can transform the way intimacy feels.

Beginning your Tantric Journey 

If you’re curious about exploring tantric sex, start with simple actions. Set aside time that feels intentional, free of distractions. Light a candle, put away your phone, and face your partner with openness. Hold hands, breathe together, and allow each other to arrive fully in the moment.

You might find that even before any physical intimacy begins, the connection deepens. That’s the essence of tantra: intimacy as a sacred meeting, not just of bodies, but of hearts and souls.

At its heart, tantric sex isn’t about special techniques or mystical secrets. It’s about honouring your body, cherishing your partner, and discovering intimacy as a journey, not a destination. In slowing down, you may find that what you’ve been seeking isn’t something far away or hidden - it’s already within you, waiting to be felt.

If you are Melbourne based check out the Not Tantra and Knot Tantra workshops being run by Eve X later this month. 

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