Small Dicks & Why You Should Fuck On The First Date

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You know what, looking back, I wish I had just told that guy that he had a small dick. He was really sweet and kind and lovely and at the time I was trying out this crazy thing where I wouldn’t sleep with a guy on the first date.

Now, first of all, there is nothing wrong with a small penis. I have had lovers with below average cocks who have had above average skills and let's face it while women enjoy being fucked on occasion, most actually orgasm from clitoral stimulation and no matter how big your cock is the clitoris is not placed at the entrance to your uterus.

So as I mentioned I was trying this thing where I was going to date ‘properly’ and end up with a boyfriend I had chosen. I was actually going on dates and getting to know them before sleeping with them. I wanted a nice boyfriend, not just some guy I had fucked that was great in bed that then turned into a boyfriend who then turned into a nightmare. I went on proper dates with this guy. He was the nicest guy I had dated in a long time. He was sweet and attentive. He returned text messages and made phone calls. When he was unable to make it for one of our dates, he let me know hours beforehand and arranged for a dozen roses and a bottle of sparkling to be delivered to apologise. We went on a few dates and had a lovely time.  

On our fourth date, we went back to mine and we started making out. The kissing was okay. Not bad, not good. I put my hand in his groin region. No bulge, so apparently it wasn’t turning him on either. Nevertheless, we continued. I then received some of the most boring cunnilingus ever. Yes, that is possible. It was nice and he was considerate but it was disappointing. Then he took his pants off. It turned out he was erect the whole time; it was just the smallest penis I had in a long time. He hadn’t warned me. He just dropped trousers and there it wasn’t. I had come across small cocks before but in those cases, the cunnilingus was so mind-blowing you really didn’t notice the lack of size because you were all happy already. This guy then proceeded to have intercourse with me. For quite a while. I called a halt to proceedings. He hadn’t come but I was no longer willing to wait for that to happen. This just wasn’t working. He then admitted it can take him a long time to come. Again a discussion you might want to have before starting. I decided that we shouldn’t see each other anymore. I was looking for a boyfriend that could give great head and communicate. Which was a shame because he was really nice guy apart from being crap at communicating and cunnilingus. 

My point I guess is that he probably thinks it was the size of his cock that was the problem and it wasn’t. It really was his decision not to talk about it or his retarded ejaculation and me not feeling like I could tell him how crap the cunnilingus was.

There are guys out there who will consistently ask if their cock is big enough, these are not the small guys these are the average size guys looking for an ego boost. The only thing they want to hear is oh yes honey you are sooo big. The guys who really are big know they are big. They also know that for most women this will be a liability, not an asset and that certain positions are out of the question and getting carried away is also a problem.

And small guys know they are small so most of them work at their fingering techniques and learn how to really get a woman off, something some of the average sized guys could stand to do more of.

What they shouldn't do is not mention it and give bad head. It would have been rude but I do wish I’d said to that guy, ‘You have a small cock, I think you should get better at cunnilingus’. 

I went back to fucking the guys I thought were sexy on the first date and not going on a second date with guys that didn't turn me on.

I have continued to encounter cocks of all sizes (and shapes and numbers of testicles, but that's another story) over the years and as always the excellence of the sex was not dictated by the size of their cock.

39 comments

  • bluehorshoe68

    bluehorshoe68

    More than a month ago

    I guess we had our date during your 'being good' phase. Damn. Lol.

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  • Minxey

    Minxey

    More than a month ago

    I am currently in the boat of dating with a view to get into a relationship and this is something I've been thinking about.

    Usually I don't have sex on the first date - the reality is, it shapes a first impression for both people.
    At the same time, small dicks are not my cup of G-spot. ;)

    But what I am dumbfounded by is grown men (regardless of size) being crap at giving head or refusing to do it! How?!


    Anyway, I'd never tell a guy his dick is too small. I'd just move on.

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  • full.fill.her

    full.fill.her

    More than a month ago

    A large cock isn't really a liability, and you definitely can let yourself get carried away. The key is starting slow and gentle, then building it up from there.

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  • agoodsoul

    agoodsoul

    More than a month ago

    I always thought good sex was a major thing in a good relationship and always prefer to talk about sex when meeting a new female that i was attracted to as if they weren't into something i was into or vice versa how could it evolve into a fun or serious relationship.
    But after being told numerous times it's not something to bring up in conversation when you have only just met or only known them a short time to be blunt no matter how attractive they are if they dont stimulate me sexualy and vice versa what's the point of continuing the persue of a relationship leave it as a friendship and move on it would save everyone a lot of time would it not well that's what I think but i have been told its wrong to do this.
    As i have never been involved in a serious relationship or as embarrassing as it is to say i never even had a friend with benefits i have always had to pay for any type of sexual fun in one way or another i am now confused on when is it appropriate to talk about sex i dont want to get to involved with someone only to find out sexually it will never work then there is the chance of hurting someone's feelings or they hurt mine when in all honesty this could have been avoided if it was talked about from day one.

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  • player1959

    player1959

    More than a month ago

    Small vs large?
    Well as a swinger on this site I've had my fair share of cocks and SIZE does not make that much difference. It's how both bodys fit together. Some of my less endowed fb's have been amazing likewise with larger guys and the reverse is true too. Sometimes its the skill with which the tool is used. Every fuck you have isn't going to be perfect. Just some are going to be more memorable than others. People lets just try a little kindness.

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    neukbeest

    More than a month ago

    Interesting article in many ways and on so many levels. It's made me wonder a few things about some of the points you've made.

    Warning. At what size do you believe men should be doing this? Under 5", under 4"? And girth? Should larger men also warn? If so, at what size?

    How should the subject be broached? Should it be in person over a cup of coffee or would a simple text saying 'hey great to see you last night and I'd love to catch up again soon but I need to tell you I have a small cock' suffice?

    What do other women think about the writer saying a warning should be given by smaller men?

    Time to cum. What's the time limit here? Should women also provide their times?

    Also, are there any other physical features that should come with a warning? Droopy balls, extra long foreskins, big or small loads of cum, funky tasting cum, extreme curvature? I believe you'd be doing us all a great favour by providing a complete list of all the physical characteristics that should come with a warning.

    Do women have any physical features that they should warn men about?

    And what does any of this achieve? How would it have changed anything had he have said 'it's small'?

    Please enlighten me.

    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101

      More than a month ago

      You wanted a woman's perspective. The sex was bad. End of story. If you love a girl giving you head and she sucks at it (so to speak) or even refuses to do it, do you go back for seconds? And if you read other blog posts on here women also like a warning if a dick is huge. It's called communication.

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      neukbeest

      More than a month ago

      Thanks for your reply and I agree that at some point if the sex is no good you call it off however the article isn't so simple.

      The article suggests he should have told her about his penis size and the time it takes him to cum before they had sex. I'm asking at what size is this the case? And what's a reasonable time allowed for cumming before it should be mentioned?

      You've suggested that larger men should warn women about their size. In your opinion what size places a man in this category? Is it only about length or length and girth?

      Terms such as large and small are so subjective and without offering guidance regarding when the limits are reached and how the topic should be broached creates confusion.

      If the point of the article is to help and offer guidance, I feel, much like the man about whom the article is written, it comes up short.

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  • Perhaps55

    Perhaps55

    More than a month ago

    Of course, you haven't taken into account that large or small dick if you fuck a guy on the first date by the time the second date comes around he has probably moved on.
    Double standard I know but most guys aren't interested in women that fuck first and get to know you second. We all think well if you do it for me you do it for anyone and everyone.
    If a guy does come back for more then you can guarantee that the date will be very short unless it heads towards the bedroom fairly quickly.

    • allinmymind

      allinmymind

      More than a month ago

      Some promise the date is only to say hi, move it up to something else where you are kind of obliged in a way, I bet you say it was all an act.

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  • 1975wombaT

    1975wombaT

    More than a month ago

    I found the whole thing funny that the man was sexually aroused with the females clothes still on, this is the man reason all men last to short in bed. To much mental overstimulation causes men to last less than an hour when having sex

    • Minxey

      Minxey

      More than a month ago

      Yet he didn't orgasm, and she had to stop and leave.....

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  • Freespirit252

    Freespirit252

    More than a month ago

    I actually like to be fucked more than I like cunnilingus and I like to be fucked hard. I was seeing this guy who was a bit below average in size but he fucked me sooo hard for so long, he was super fit as athlete. Had the most amazing precise rhythm! Thing is if he had been bigger it would have hurt, wouldn't be able to take it. One of the best sexual experiences I ever had with him

    • Leonlee2017

      Leonlee2017

      More than a month ago

      It was me?

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      Noncliche.mayte

      More than a month ago

      It is encouraging to hear a sexy S.A. girl admitting she likes that deep, hard, forceful dynamic/style of ruder, rougher raw fukkery. Kudos btw... there are many men who appreciate a genuine ruff-rider like your sexy-self.

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  • Sassysissy242

    Sassysissy242

    More than a month ago

    I feel tiny dicks end up being sissy as me or cuckold as me lol

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  • destyles84

    destyles84

    More than a month ago

    Geez .... Sounds like you also had the problem of communication in the beginning, why didn't you just say you were after great head and a big cock instead of leading him on for four dates ... I suppose it doesn't really matter cause by the sounds of things you had alot of different sizes and men to choose from .... I have an 8 inch cock and a patient skillful tounge but I just had to have a read and to be honest I think your full of it ... Haha ... Watch that ego of yours, you'll end up old and lonely :p

    • Ifuwannadome

      Ifuwannadome

      More than a month ago

      A relationship should never just be abt sex theres thousands of ways to satisfy each other.....i think its disgusting to dump a guy over his anatomy

    • Cumhere2me

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Agreed.
      I thought that was a terrible story.
      A happy sex luge with a partner is important of course - but to judge someone souly on their endowment is horrible.
      Shallow. Very shallow.

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      ispywithmy

      More than a month ago

      What’s wrong with dumping someone over their anotomy? It happens all the time, if it’s not cock size, it could be too fat,short, hairy, no muscle tone. If you’re not looking for a serious relationship then chances are you’d have far
      Higher physical standards as you’re relying on physical stimulants, rather a deep mental connection.
      It’s life, get use to it

    • agoodsoul

      agoodsoul

      More than a month ago

      I totally agree with destyles84

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  • CharlieMichaels

    CharlieMichaels

    More than a month ago

    Great read Emma! I like your philosophy. Big or small - qualify early!

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  • Sinner2.0

    Sinner2.0

    More than a month ago

    Oh I shouldn’t laugh but I did lol

    I have done the EXACT same thing before. I made the conscious decision not to jump straight into bed with a fantastic man that I met. He was such a nice guy and he adored me (bless him lol) and I even met his parents!
    We had a real connection.. but then we slept together... I was shocked. He had the smallest penis I had ever seen!

    I tried so hard to make it work, I stayed with him for a few weeks.. totally convinced that if we could improve his skills it would be ok and I could deal with it, but I finally had to admit defeat. It was like fucking an uncooked chipolata sausage!!

    I never told him the real reason why we actually ended. Lesson learnt.. fuck before feelings lol

    • WildeNoir

      WildeNoir

      More than a month ago

      I am so sorry for your loss.
      :-p

      That'd be so disappointing.

    • Sinner2.0

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Thanks for the condolences Ms Noir ;) lol

    • Secrets.

      Secrets.

      More than a month ago

      I think we all have a similar story of the great chipotle sausage disaster. Did give me giggle x Thanks for sharing.

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  • Zamboon

    Zamboon

    More than a month ago

    I was curious and I did a search of men on this site whose cocks are less than 3 inches - and surprisingly there are a number of guys out there - so good on them - advertising is everywhere so I guess there were a number of women who were turned off by this but hopefully there were a few women who didn’t mind - I hope they all had a great time - on this site we all joke about amm inches - good on you short fellas hope you’ve got 8 inch tongues ....

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  • Areyoukinky2

    Areyoukinky2

    More than a month ago

    I'm of the opinion that it's not the size of the cock but how well and attentive the man is to his partner. I had a FWB of a ten years duration. Sex with him was absolutely mind blowing. As his penis was on the skinny side, he used a figure of 8 instead of the usual in an out. It did take him awhile to cum so he kept changing positions to make it even better. As I have been multi orgasmic for the last 30 years, the sex that I had with this man was the BEST EVER.

    • Zamboon

      Zamboon

      More than a month ago

      You’re a lucky girl ...

    • Areyoukinky2

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Thank you. I know that I'm a VERY lucky lady but I did have an incredible time without my FWB of ten years duration so our incredible sexual activities weren't just because of my ability to have multiple orgasms.

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  • Zamboon

    Zamboon

    More than a month ago

    I thought giving head was sucking someone’s penis not a clitoris ..
    Maybe I was wrong.
    It’s gratifying to know that some girls don’t worry about the size of the penis- one experienced lady on chat talks about not minding the size of someone’s cock and she did say she had mind blowing sex from a guy with a small cock .. and another who said it’s only fair that a guy with a really large cock warns the lady in advance - I bet though they all yawn when the guy does lol..
    I did witness with amazement in a sex club where I accompanied a lady friend this guy was tall and slim and good looking and I couldn’t believe it when I daw his child like penis it was tiny and couldn’t fit in her mouth properly she said she couldn’t grip it with her lips as it kept slipping out.. on another occasion I saw a nerdy type short guy walking around and in the gloom I saw something fleshy standing out in front of him - turned out it was the largest cock I had Ever seen I had to open my mouth really wide and choked ...

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  • Ifuwannadome

    Ifuwannadome

    More than a month ago

    Whar size is classed as a small dick anyway too many women want a guy to come as they cant take a good workout
    If a guy cant unload its not always his fault
    It can be because the partner isnt giving him what he needs to get off
    Works both ways guys need as much as women size means zero

    • Celeste2019

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      I was thinking very much the same as you ..ox

    • BigJon74

      Account Closed

      More than a month ago

      Couldn't agree more. I'm not 25 no more where I'm nearly blowing as the clothes fly off.
      Tease me, get me going mentally and she's all go.

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  • KinkyGirl101

    KinkyGirl101

    More than a month ago

    Emma, as always I love the brutal honesty in your articles. I had a similar experience except persevered for 6 months thinking it would get better. It didn't! In my story the guy had a massive ego which he felt made up for the lack of size in other areas. It didn't! There is so much info out there now about techniques and the fact that sex is more than PIV and all available online and plenty of fantastic advice on this blog. I've had sex with penises of all sizes and I'm far more interested in the man it belongs to. But thanks for another great article!

    • funready2

      funready2

      More than a month ago

      Nice writing KG. Pity your profile is invisible.

    • KinkyGirl101

      KinkyGirl101

      More than a month ago

      @funready2 I'd rather not waste people's time by appearing in a search if I'm not active on the site. All work and no play unfortunately.

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    genuineniceguy2

    More than a month ago

    A very honest and truthful article. Well said : )

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