The Trouble with Big Dicks

I don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it seems like I probably have to say it one more time so here I go: For the most part, when it comes to being good in bed, your dick size actually doesn’t matter. Like at all. 

I say “for the most part” because of course there are exceptions, but overall, for the majority of people who are going to let you put your penis near their bits, they don’t give a fuck how big or small or fat or thin it is, because sex and intimacy and connection and everything that goes into that big ol’bag of sexual play, is about far more things than the size of your dick.

I know. I get it. Society, porn, locker room talk, all the “my dad could beat up your dad” hyper masculine type shit has been drilled into your head since before you even understood it and has created this idea that to be a “man” and one that “gets the chicks” you have to be the one with the biggest cock, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret; nearly every man I have ever met with a cock over nine or ten inches finds it (no pun intended) hard to deal with.

Only Big Dicks brag about having big dicks

Like I say in the opening of my Big Dicks Unzipped article, to all those men who like to proclaim loudly, and in every message, that they’re ten inches or above, yeah… calm down buddy and take a maths lesson. You’re probably not and no-one is all that impressed anyway. The thing is most guys who DO have a larger size are very aware of all the things I am going to mention in this article and don’t often go about bragging about it, and the girls (or guys) who DO want a guy with a big dick often find that bragging off-putting, and will most likely not fuck you because of it, or because when you turn up and you’re NOT the eleven inch stud you claimed to be, well, they’re probably not going to pity-fuck you just cos you’re there. Seriously, shut up about your dick. Unless asked specifically for your measurements, don’t even mention it. On AMM you have the option to add your endowment size so do it there. If anyone wants you to elaborate, they’ll ask.

In their own words

I have a few friends who have penises larger than 10 inches. Yes I have seen them. One of whom we sat and measured because we were convinced it was bigger than the world’s biggest (13.5 inches). It wasn’t. It was just over 11 inches, but we discovered two things during that experiment.

  1. Humans are not good at maths
  2. Anything over 10 inches is actually fucking huge and makes my eyes water just thinking about it.

I messaged them all in the course of writing this article and asked them the pros and cons of having a cock that size. I am not even exaggerating when I say that there were very few pros and quite a list of cons.

The pros were mostly superficial: 

  • “It makes the boys at the club jealous”
  • “It takes a really good dick pic”
  • “I look like a porn star when I’m naked”

The cons, however, took a different turn:

  • “I get a headache if I’m erect too long. I’ve even gotten dizzy before”
  • “I literally cannot ride a bike it hurts my cock”
  • “Almost every condom breaks”
  • “Dizziness after sex. Especially if it’s been a long session”
  • “My ex girlfriend couldn’t take it so we never had proper sex. She left me and I think it’s because I couldn’t satisfy her”
  • “I have literally seen girls wince in pain during sex which is horrible. It’s never fun knowing you’re hurting someone when all you want to do is pleasure them”
  • “I have been turned down for sex by so many women. Even escorts. I now have to pre-warn people”

I would like to make a quick point on that last comment about pre-warning. When I was a full time sex worker I couldn’t tell you the number of times some dude would use his cock size as some sort of “incentive” to me taking the job or giving him a discount (nah mate, you get the “arrogance tax” so it’ll cost you double) but the few times someone with an actual huge cock would message and tell me about it I could pretty much always tell they were telling the truth. After 20 years of reading messages from potential clients, you get the knack of working out who is genuine and who is not, and these guys weren’t bragging. They weren’t celebrating. They were concerned it would be a problem and genuinely worried they may not be suitable for a session as they had been turned down before. 

Now while I can be a bit of a size queen, one of the biggest issues that faced me as a worker in these situations was condoms. As stated in other articles I’ve written, I’ve always been sceptical of men who tell me they don’t wear condoms because they’re “too tight” because I can literally fit my entire arm in one, and while I do understand it might change the feeling etc, if it’s the choice between getting a disease or not having sex then I choose no sex every time… And, unfortunately for a couple of these guys, the number of (Extra Large) condoms that broke, split, and wouldn’t even make it halfway down a shaft was crazy. So yeah, while there were heaps of fun things we could do, and did do, unfortunately with no glove, there’s no love, and this can be a common theme with mega-big-dicked guys wanting a casual encounter.

Not Tonight, Dear, I have A Cervix-ache

When it comes to women, I posed the same question to my friends about their experiences with larger-than-average penises and some of the replies made me wince and close my legs a little. 

  • “He was so large it took a considerable amount of foreplay and lubricant but we got the job done, however a few days later at a sexual health check, the nurse freaked out - got a doctor and he checked me out and asked if I had had sex with anyone 'well endowed recently' - I had blood blisters from the giant cock!”
  • “Having sex with an exceptionally well endowed man left me with severe abdominal pain that lasted for hours. It literally had me doubled over in pain.”
  • “Doggy style was impossible as I felt it punching against my cervix, same with lifting my legs up or any position with deep penetration. But even good old missionary position hurt.”
  • “An ex of mine was 11 inches. That last inch or so is really hard on the cervix, it felt like I was being stabbed.”
  • “Almost every condom we used broke. Every time he’d thrust it hurt. It was one of the worst sexual encounters I’ve ever had. I felt so sorry for him too. It wasn’t his fault!”
  • “The worst is the stabby cervix pain. I can handle thick, but not long.”
  • “If we didn’t use a bucket of lube it would feel like he was tearing my vagina with each thrust. It was not nice.”

You’ve probably noticed a bit of a theme in those comments about painful cervix experiences with large dicks, and this is probably the most common complaint I have heard from women about fucking large dicks. As I am sure you’re aware vaginas are pretty flexible and stretchy things, being able to expand up to about 200% from their regular size for giving birth, but this really only effects the width of the vagina, not the length. Yes, when aroused the vagina does elongate slightly… But that means it goes from around 3-4 inches deep to around 5-6 inches which, if you do the maths, shows why there can be problems with longer length penises, and throws back again to the research we did about women’s ideal penis sizes. 

The Measure Of Things

I think the most important point I want to get across when I write pieces like this is that men, you are worth FAR more than the size of your junk. Like it really, really doesn’t matter at all in the great scheme of life and love and sex and relationships. As talked about in my article about radicalism hurting relationships, I truly do understand that the lessons men have been getting on sex and women over the past however many centuries are changing and it can be very confusing, and I know one of those lessons has always been “the bigger the cock the better the man” but it is simply not true.

You want know what big things women actually want?

Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love.

The measure of how good you are in bed is less about how one particular body bit measures up, and far more about how attentive you are to your partner’s needs. How intuitive you are to their wants and desires. How you make them feel when you’re not in the bedroom. 

So before you go sending me (or other girls) another message declaring how important and large your penis is and demanding the accolades for something which, to be fair, you actually have no control over, remember my words here and take a step back. Your penis, while I am sure you are very proud of it, is really not as important as you think it is. Yes sex is great. Yes some people do have penis size preferences. And yes, some people will actively seek out monster cocks, but if that is the only thing you have going for you, or at least think it is, then you may find yourself on the reject pile far more often than not.

87 Comments

  • BehindTheScene
    More than a month ago

    Funny how about 90% of guys here are "6-7 inches", when the average cock is about 5.5"... there should be cock size validation..

    And lol queue all the guys coming here passively bragging about how big they think they are.

  • Begabloke
    More than a month ago

    There are condoms designed for larger penises but no-one in Australia imports or sells them. Lovehoney UK have a good range and that is where I get mine from. Trojan Magnum XL is good for 8-10 inches (I am nudging 8) - they don't feel like you're being squeezed in a vise.

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    FrancTracy
    More than a month ago

    I agree that there are always two sides to everything. It really does depend on the owner. My ex-wife recounted having experienced 2 large dicks and not enjoyed either of them. The first was a 3 day holiday fling with a guy with 9". He was not rough, however inconsiderate enough to have made the 3 day experience a painful memory. By the 3rd day she was very sore and in a lot of discomfort but he ignored her winces. She experienced soreness for several days. With the 2nd occasion the guy was over 9" and a complete ignorant. He ploughed into her pussy and left her in serious pain. Midway through the night she managed to excuse herself after having done it 3 times. She developed a fear of big cocks and was always reluctant to submit to doggy position. There were positives, as she admitted to having enjoyed sucking off the big cocks.

  • Polyamerous.BBW
    More than a month ago

    I know from experience that a big Dick doesnt make you a good lover. Ive met guys with big dicks. And they were bigger dicks than their dicks. Didnt know how to please a lady. Didnt know how to use it. And I've met guys with small dicks, who even apologise for their size. But are way better lovers.. And know how to use what they have. Size really doesnt matter. Its knowing how to touch a woman, read what they enjoy and using what u have to its full potential.

  • Mr.Oral
    More than a month ago

    Mines about 6”.
    Most ladies either say “perfect” or “OMG - you feel so big inside me!”
    Most have also said that bigger is NOT better. Learn to use what you have got ??

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    Yesexx
    More than a month ago

    This is a bit of a 'shock jock' article, or should I say a 'shock cock' article.
    All studies that I have read state erect lengths average from 12 - 16 cm (4.7 to 6.3 inches).
    Therefore any guy over 6.3 inches can honestly say he is well hung. Does that matter? I'd say not for many women. I feel the article might have had a more interesting (less sensational) response if it was really talking about above average cock sizes of say - 7/8 inches - rather than a write up about tree trunks.
    I say that because a lot of the same research has shown that we women like a man to be a little above average when it comes to casual sex...including me. I think that's interesting.
    There must have been thousands of DOES SIZE MATTER articles written over the years and not much changes, I wonder why. Perhaps for men insecurities around performance starts young, and a good cock size somehow helps confidence. So without delving into the cliches about sex is not just about penetration, (of course true but...this about cock!) I simply like a man that can stay hard..so for me HARD MATTERS - SIZE DOESN'T.

  • BurningDesirez
    More than a month ago

    Was a believer of "nothing too big". Then I met "Mr. Too Big". No position was comfortable and I was in excruciating pain even into the next day. Worst sexual experience ever. Now I know my limit.... 8".

  • cool2fancy
    More than a month ago

    Have a BBC , Divorced coz I saw my ex grimacing, freaked out an Filipino but all Aussie gals have said bring it on big boy. Well, use it well, satisfy but my recent ex said "I ain't having that in my ass". Well respectively I wouldn't but she said it been satisfyingly amazing

  • MalihaMelbourne
    More than a month ago

    Amen sister!

  • Cultured.animal
    More than a month ago

    Wouldn't say I'm huge but will say I'm largish and especially girth wise (genuine 7 x 2)and very happy with what i have and that it is not larger. Would've had a lot more anal fun if I was smaller. There are size queens and have found a balanced aussie 50 cent coin in a pic creates a good standard.

  • Amanda2973
    More than a month ago

    I saw someone once not off here, I had no idea he was well endowed. The sex was amazing, so much so that NO ONE has come close I’m that department and I doubt they will. He’s certainly set the bench mark :)

  • Ultramild65
    More than a month ago

    I don't mind a big dick :)

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    49humber
    More than a month ago

    Not sure about all that. The only woman I have had to comment about my penis said "it's very comfortable". Nice to be told but she preferred the fist fucking as she got more excited further opening her passage. My cock at best would be three fingers. Her climax was best with the fist and or the tongue. The later remains the best for my current after 18 years.

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    Lester518
    More than a month ago

    There’s a fair bit of angst in this article - it reads like a past big dicked lover ripped her heart in two.

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      Except its not about me at all.
      But thanks for playing.
      :)

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      Lester518
      More than a month ago

      Girls have told me I’m big - but they always came back for more ??lol

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    FiftyOneShades
    More than a month ago

    "You want know what big things women actually want?

    Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love."

    I love this.

    Love love love love it!

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    dugstarr
    More than a month ago

    I knew a guy that was very, very large. I don’t know how large, I never saw it, but he had a reputation. He wouldn’t brag, but he worked at a bar and word would get around. He told me he hated it because he could never keep a girlfriend for long, and the only girls who were after him had heard about it from another girl and just wanted to try it out.

  • ispywithmy
    More than a month ago

    Interesting article. I think however most ladies on this site do prefer men who are well hung, as other people have mentioned, part of a fantasy maybe? Or because it's not serious and that's something they enjoy why settle for second best (or in my case maybe 10th best hehehe).
    Exageration is a part of life, you simply cannot get away from it. Lol maybe the site can provide some amm themed mesuring device to paying members? Or maybe that field will be next on the list to be 'verified'?

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

      LOL I wonder what we would call the feature? Would we get members to validate and turn up with a pre-approved tape measure?

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      MsCupCake
      More than a month ago

      You mean like holding your penis against an AMM approved tissue box, soda can or a teaspoon and taking a pic to prove its size?

    • ispywithmy
      More than a month ago

      Yeah why not? Next time Coke cola do a name on a can thing- why not AMM? I am sure somewhere around the world there would be a culture that would use that name for someone.
      Lol a little far fetched, but might help with making profiles more real?

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      I kind of love this idea.
      Haha.
      We should market AMM underwear too!

  • Notsobizzy
    More than a month ago

    I was told recently by my long term partner that i was too well endowered and that was the reason for falling off of our sex life... i was a bit hurt and ashamed to be honest and wished she'd made me aware early so we could have modified our sex

    • looking70s
      More than a month ago

      yep it happens know what you mean

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Given the amount of women that let their sex life fall off, I guess it is nice to have an "excuse".

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    keronker
    More than a month ago

    I guess various women love big dicks.

  • rod654
    More than a month ago

    There are many women on this site who want to meet men who are hung, with a large package etc. Some of this I think is part fantasy. My ex once drove past a field that had a stallion in it with an erection and her first thought was oh lord let me come back as a mare. This is that fantasy appearing.

  • looking70s
    More than a month ago

    I'm a round 7.5in with a 6 inch girth and it can be sore for the lady in some positions

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      It can be sore at 3", sexual maturity helps.

  • Aloha19
    More than a month ago

    "Now while I can be a bit of a size queen"

    Lol!
    Ooops!

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      Oops?
      I'm confused.
      Can you elaborate?

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      FiftyOneShades
      More than a month ago

      @DeliciousEva

      I'm guessing s/he's referring to the apparent contradiction between this...

      "I don’t know how many times I have to say this, but it seems like I probably have to say it one more time so here I go: For the most part, when it comes to being good in bed, your dick size actually doesn’t matter. Like at all. "

      ... and this...

      "...while I can be a bit of a size queen..."

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      Golly!
      It's almost as if people are different and their bodies are different and they like and respond to different things.

      Crazy concept huh.

      Like sometimes I like bacon for breakfast and other days I have a bagel... The days I have a bagel doesn't then mean I don't like bacon any more ... They're both satisfying. Just different and in different ways.

      :)

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      FiftyOneShades
      More than a month ago

      @DeliciousEva Thanks for your reply. That makes perfect sense. I said "apparent contradiction" because I had a feeling it wasn't really a contradiction.

      I guess it comes down to how people interpret various terms.

      To some a size Queen is someone who will ONLY have sex with well endowed men, while to others it's someone who enjoys sex with larger men at times but doesn't require it.

      I'm guessing that was the cause of the confusion.

  • jackblue1
    More than a month ago

    Its all quite simple really...as the old song says......"it aint the meat, its the motion"

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Or “motion of the ocean that counts” lol

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    DeliciousEva
    More than a month ago

    Gotta say...
    To all the butt hurt in here.
    If it's not about you... If you have a monster cock that magically every women you've fucked loves, yay, good onya champ...
    If you're a chick who takes 12 inch mega thick thigh sized cocks without any pain or discomfort... woo hoo! Go sistah!

    But you are obviously not who this is aimed at so getting angry or trying to describe the female anatomy TO A FUCKING EXPERT is not only hilarious, but fucking stupid.
    Yes vaginas are Stretchy Mcstretch things. And some can take loads. And some can't.
    Hey, guess what? That's what bodies are like.
    Stop being so angry about something that really isn't about you.
    How old are you? Honestly??

    As stated the quotes in the article are not mine. The topic was suggested by readers.
    I like all cocks.
    This is not a personal dig at your little fucking friend in your pants. Calm down.

    • MissThatTouch
      More than a month ago

      Well said Eva! Love your work :) *and as someone who in the past suggested an article/topic to AMM Support, and not only had it written by you - but knowing that it was carefully researched by you, including ensuring that the content was accurately quoted from those with lived experience, I appreciate the lengths (excuse the pun!) you go to!
      I don't know why some take information shared by authors, as a personal attack. If its not about you...its not about you. Simple.

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      You tell em sistah.

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      genuinewellhung
      More than a month ago

      Hi Eva. I certainly don’t question your expertise and knowledge regarding sex. And as you stated the quotes and pros and cons were from other people. I think that is what has caused some controversy. I suppose some of the problems they have had may not be typical? I have been told that breaking condoms can be solved by lubing up before putting on the condom. Pain can be caused by poor technique but being long can definitely cause pain from going too deep. I have found this so I am careful and aware particularly during doggy. As for dizziness and not being able to ride a bike! Please! Although, it may be different if I was 10+ inches!

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      FiftyOneShades
      More than a month ago

      @DeliciousEva Maybe we're reading different comments, as I haven't noticed a single hurt or angry comment on this thread after reading all of them. Perhaps they were deleted?

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

      @FiftyOneShades Yes the members who felt they had a better grasp of female anatomy that the females posting deleted their comments.

  • shelovesit158
    More than a month ago

    Well im sorry but im keeping my big dick ... ive had a small one and im not going back yes i know its how they use it .... using big is better.... how many 3'' vibrators do you see ..

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      latinox
      More than a month ago

      U had a small one? How’d u change it to bigger may I ask?

    • MissThatTouch
      More than a month ago

      Lipstick vibes, the Lifesaver, bullet vibes...theres stacks of them out there (plus fingers which are that length too)

    • HELOVESIT123
      More than a month ago

      i changed the man

  • pussy.lick
    More than a month ago

    Interesting article and comments and I'm wondering why, if size does not matter, that after an acrimonious break up women often use penis size as an insult either directly to the man or to friends as in '....and your cock is too small...' or '....his dick was too small anyway...' etc ? Obviously they think this will be hurtful but at the same time it's reversing everything they have previously said about the size not being an issue.

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      For the same reason after a break up she's suddenly a "fat bitch with a loose pussy"
      It's aimed to hurt. Because men have been told their entire lives how important it is. So to slam that is to hit where it hurts.
      It's gross.
      I don't think any sort of body shaming is appropriate for any reason...
      But that is why.
      To hurt and humiliate and be a cunt.

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      FiftyOneShades
      More than a month ago

      @DeliciousEva has nailed it here. Women know that most men are insecure in this area and they can choose to use it in an attempt to hurt the ones they used to love.

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    strandle
    More than a month ago

    Sorry people but how do we measure..from where under/on top
    I know it’s not part of the conversation but would like to know as was told by a lady how big I am and now not so sure

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      From the top of the shaft where it meets the public bone to the top of the head.

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      strandle
      More than a month ago

      Thanks Eva will have to change my profile lol

    • Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      I think most AMM men measure from the asshole :-)

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      strandle
      More than a month ago

      Ha ha Leolady nice one
      I hope you are well and enjoying yourself

  • Mischeviouslad
    More than a month ago

    Insert a sympathetic opinion as a thinly veiled screen to hide a comment referring to my overly large penis >>>>here<<<<


    You guys are just so damn predictable ??????

  • vvoyeursmf
    More than a month ago

    I have a preference for thickness, anything over 6.5 is painful and less than pleasurable. I understand its different for everyone, but an interesting article.

  • CharlieMichaels
    More than a month ago

    Thanks for writing this Eva (I was one of the users who requested it)...

    I agree with most of what you present - with the exception of some comments: Riding a bike is fine (unless you're free-balling); Condoms break for all sorts of reasons (buy a bigger size - they do exist beyond XL); and the "stabby" pain (this is just due to poor preparation and technique).

    In my experience the issue is next day soreness, rather than pain during the actual interaction. Over time this has been an issue and has affected the longevity of some past relationships. The act itself has always been wonderful for both (well for the most part).

    It all comes down to being aware of your partner’s response, and being guided by that. A lot of people love the idea of big cock but the number of those who truly love and enjoy it long term are less than what you might think.

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    Ifuwannadome
    More than a month ago

    hate big dicks, dont wanna end like a bucket when im older.......give me girth any day

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    4Erioed
    More than a month ago

    This probably explains why I once had sex with this really long guy who kept telling me he was really glad I could take it. Sure it was a little sharp but my gosh it was fun. Any guys having issues due to this reason, hit me up haha.

  • Jinx1965
    More than a month ago

    It’s pretty obvious as with all of Eva’s articles that it’s not the subject it’s that is the main focus of her writings .

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      AMM.Editor
      More than a month ago

      Actually the topic was suggested by 2 members - pardon the pun - one to support and another in a private message to Eva. No hidden agenda. Just a topic we were asked if we would write about.

    • Aloha19
      More than a month ago

      Gold, J65!

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      FiftyOneShades
      More than a month ago

      @Jinx1965 what do you mean by that? I'm not sure I understand what you're trying to say.

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      I am not sure support would listen if we said that someone that it isn't about her has the capability to comment. The writer is clearly free to write whatever she likes, how so we aren't?

  • KinkyGirl101
    More than a month ago

    My personal experience is that regardless of how aroused you are some positions are just not possible with a well endowed guy. Doggy for me is impossible with a well endowed guy. Cervix stabbing is a thing. And one gentleman who had the biggest cock I've ever seen outside of film could get hard but you wouldn't have called him erect, it was a bit like a massive banana. I guess blood flow comes into it.

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      Violet80
      More than a month ago

      Neverhards are disappointing, average, girthy and cut are way nicer.

    • KinkyGirl101
      More than a month ago

      @Violet80 oh he was hard alright but I'm just saying it was too big to stand up to attention.

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Doggy is impossible with me with short people.

  • Prettypinklips2
    More than a month ago

    I'll take an average one over a huge one anydayyyyy.
    Just nicer for me. I salute the ladies that like it. We're all different.

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    triXXXi66
    More than a month ago

    Yay... this is exactly what i have being saying and thinking for years! If some bragging cockhead contacts us about his supposedly huge anaconda cock.. then i pretty much know its a lie.. unless he has photographic evidence.. which can be doctored as well! I just usually tell them that if the have a 9 or 10 inch cock that about half of that is wasted anyway! Thats never gonna fit in me!

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      You clearly haven't watched cams in chat.

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    damon.diggler
    More than a month ago

    Big dicks aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure they look good in porn but when sex is painful for the woman because of your size it's a problem. Some women go gangbusters for it and push back for more but most pull away, especially in doggy position. I'm not massive and I actually feel sorry for the men who are.

    • MissThatTouch
      More than a month ago

      Yes, I felt sorry for the guy (because it wasn't his fault) I'd been seeing a number of years back who was very well endowed. I could tell he was quite guarded when with me, and couldn't fully let go as he was concentrating on not hurting me.
      Theres, as the saying goes, a fine line between pleasure and pain and while yes some level of 'pain' can feel great...when he's holding back in fear of hurting too much - that switches the magic off, a bit.

      Size (or what it looks like, for that matter) doesn't come into it for me at all...what matters is how the man attached to it, treats me (or behaves...any hint of ego around his size/performance etc doesn't win me over) - this is far more of a turn-on than 'size'. If I'm treated right/with the respect I deserve, that will bring on more of a great time, for both of us, than any 'measurement', ever will.

  • TremorsWithin
    More than a month ago

    I had a fwb at one stage that was just over 10” and it was the best sex so I’m all for size, unless it can reach my cervix I’m not really into it

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      Yep like a disappointing short toy.

  • Brendanforfun
    More than a month ago

    Great article ageee completely with the “warning” comments and it’s not as good as most guys think it is. I also recently wrote an article on something similar as I’m tired of the guys constantly wanting “a go” and then the girls that fantasise but when push comes to shove it’s a problem.

    Well done and thanks for helping out what needs to change about guys attitudes. But it still didn’t deal with how woman attempt when they have never taken big before and now I think you’ve scared them off even more ??

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    Langie12
    More than a month ago

    I've long accepted that you've got what you've got and you have to make the most of it. OK, I've been dealt some good cards, my dick nudges 7 inches, but 80% (maybe more) of sex is really between the ears.
    When asked for a dick pic I often get back a response "it's so large". My general response to that is that it's not really, it's the camera angle or whatever. If you are meeting someone for sex for the first time its far better for them to be happy with the package than disappointed.
    My experience with large dicks (I'm bi) is that the guy often has trouble keeping it hard anyway. Explains the headaches mentioned in the article - it takes a lot of blood the keep a dick hard.
    I'll be honest, there are times when I think an extra inch would be nice, and I'm sure it would be. But I've got what I've got and, to my knowledge, my partners don't seem to care.

  • Swing3781
    More than a month ago

    Agree with the cervix stabbing comments.. I’ve been told to stop a few times during Sex as it’s “too deep” it’s stabbing my cervex” Off putting especially when you are working up to an orgasim and you think you are doing a good job.. personally I would prefer my cock to be thicker than long.

  • cowgaluvoldrmen
    More than a month ago

    It’s funny on amm how a guy states the size but the pic don’t match up to the measurement !!! Wtf is with that ???
    Really
    So now I take off 2 inches pretty much sums it up
    Like thickness lol how can you determine from thin to thick when a guy puts thick but it’s thin
    Again photos !!!!
    Omg some truth is nice as guys photos tell a lot
    Pretty well written article
    It’s true about girls want :
    Big heart. Big brains. Big smiles. Big senses of humour. Big dreams. Big aspirations. Big love.

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      wunwulf
      More than a month ago

      Paints a pretty grim picture does Ms Sless over the top so to speak??

    • qick-e
      More than a month ago

      i have just over 6'' and pretty thick, i dont seem to get too many complaints or compliments either lol i must be sorta normal lol
      its all good fun just getting to use it with the right lady x

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      The main thing is foreplay ! The lead up ! How a guy uses it is important tooo

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