Senior Sex! We’re still Sexy! We’re still Sexual!

Eva Sless Eva Sless on 24 December 2017    52 comments
Mature couple sharing an intimate private moment

If you listen to marketing and media (hell, even if you don’t want to, it’s hard to ignore), sex and all the sexy goodness that comes with it is for the young and the beautiful and everyone else is just ew icky!

The thing is, though, apart from being completely wrong - sex is for everyone - the whole “young” thing is totally misleading too!

I mean, when I was a teenager, the idea of 30 year olds having sex was ew! When I was in my 20s anyone over the age of 40 was old… Now I’m in my 40’s I realise my teenage daughter thinks I’m old and icky and shouldn’t be having sex, and god knows what she thinks of her Grandparents (I’m pretty sure she doesn’t think of her grandparents doing it… But you know what I mean.)

As mentioned in our At what age do you have the best sex of your life? article, sex is a journey of exploration and self discovery, and every age we are brings up new and exciting things to discover about ourselves and our bodies, just because we are getting older doesn’t mean our sex lives have to suffer, even if there are certain things we need to keep in mind.

Body Stuff

When we get older our bodies change. They just do. We can’t stop it (no matter what those sellers of anti-ageing potions try to tell you) and we shouldn’t have to want to. I’m of the school of belief that you should embrace yourself warts n all (Well, maybe not HPV warts… there’s a vaccine, you know) and love the body and skin you’re in… But, yes, I will admit there are certain things that come with ageing that can be detrimental to our sex-lives… But they don’t have to mean the end of it!

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The Dryness Within

For women, as we get older and our bodies begin to change through menopause, our entire reproductive system starts to shut down. In some ways this can be a bit of a blessing (yay, no more periods and cramps!) but in many ways it can be hard to deal with and a complete overhaul of the body we have known for so many years. Hot flashes, mood swings, rapid spikes and drops in libido are just some of the things that happen, and the physical side effects of these things can make sex a less than fun activity. Probably the number one complaint and issue I hear from women about sex through and after menopause is the lack of natural lubrication and the ensuing discomfort and pain that that can cause, and not just during sex. While lubrication is important for comfortable sex, sometimes, for women going through hormonal upheaval, just using regular lube can be slightly ineffective, and can often further irritate the already dry and sensitive vaginal skin. This can be helped, though, with the aid of a vaginal moisturiser. One company I know makes a specific product (System Jo Renew) that is a daily moisturiser for your vagina. It is NOT a lube, but a formula made with the intense moisturising properties of cucumber, aloe and bisabolol which help rejuvenate cell growth and replace moisture in the skin. Used daily it can help with the everyday discomfort that vaginal dryness can create and, during sex, matched with a good water-based lubricant (System Jo Agape is an excellent pairing) can make all the slippery difference in the world!

The Hard Truth

For men reaching a certain age the most common issue I get asked about is erections. As men get older sometimes the soldier doesn’t stand to attention for as long or as rigid as he once did, and this can greatly effect the self esteem and sex lives of men. My first suggestion when this starts to happen is go and see your doctor and get any medical worries out of the way first. Erectile issues can sometimes be a symptom of far more urgent problems like prostate cancer and even things like heart disease, so please make sure you see a doctor. If it turns out to be nothing too serious, just an issue with blood-flow and age, there are a number of things you can try to help fix it or compensate.

Yes there’s the pills which can definitely help, but before you go pumping your body full of chemicals see if something like a penis or cock ring (a tight rubber ring at the base of your cock that stops the blood from flowing back down) can help. If the issue is getting erect rather than staying erect, often a penis pump and penis ring combination can be all you need to get back to your former glory.

A few men I know also use hollow strap ons. These are like a strap-on for guys to wear. The attachment is a hollow cock you slip your own into so you can still have penetrative sex with your partner even if yours doesn’t quite last the distance.

The Old Grey Mare, She Ain’t What She Used To Be

Something that effects both men and women with age is the loss of our agility, flexibility and mobility. We get stiff and creaky and cramped in body areas we didn’t know could cramp and creak and it can make “getting a leg over” an almost gymnastic feat… That’s okay. It doesn’t mean sex has to stop… It just means we need to find more comfortable positions to do it in. Pillows and cushions can become your best friend, and sex toys and accessories can also help in those moments where we’re not quite ready to stop, but the joints in our bodies are not in a happy place.

Regular exercise and movement can definitely help in keeping our bodies in shape, and never be afraid to talk to your doctor about how to keep your sex life alive and kicking though later years.

The Fountain of Youth

I truly believe the more we connect to other people via touch and love, the happier and healthier we are in our overall lives. The more connected we are with our partners, the more life is a wonderful place to be, and the more orgasms and sexy tingles we get, the younger our bodies feel and look and act. So forget your oil of Olay and your expensive youth-spa treatments… Get you some senior sex with your sexy senior partner and put the spring back in your step.

(Advice… Please don’t spring too fast… Remember your knees.)

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  • JustARoot69

    JustARoot69
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    I'm 41 and love old sexy people, they don't play games and say what they want,
    >4w
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  • OldCasanova

    OldCasanova
    57M Melbourne, VIC,
     AU

    Dear Eva,
    So happy to read this article, I was starting to think that members on the AMM site are Ageist. As per the definition: tendency to regard older persons as debilitated, unworthy of attention, or unsuitable for employment. Or this case sex.
    I won’t bore you the old joke about the Old bull and Young bull looking down the hill at all the cows. With the punch line been the old bull saying “let take our time and do them all.
    Again I speak about days gone by, when I was a younger man and enjoyed the elderly ladies. However, whilst I find the younger one visually stimulating. I’m sure that some out there may think that I’m just a dirty old man in a rain coat trying to entice someone ladies with lollies. I do have a hidden addenda, that “to produce as many as possible male heirs before I leave this earth” Ideally if the opportunity we to come about, I would warm up to a young lady who would like to sire with me, a breeder. (Dare use the term cow in a nice way).
    I keep on digressing. Coming back to the topic. I think the movies tell the story who is the old master/sensha/Top gun aviator who enlightens/teaches the young Shaolin monk /fighter piolet.
    I will end on that note, I do feel now is the time pass on the knowledge/torches.
    Thanks for taking the time to read this comment
    Yours truly,
    An Old Casanova, Esq.,
    >4w
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  • Areyoukinky2

    Areyoukinky2
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    I have been continually surprised at why it's assumed that single senior ladies would hook up with a man her AGE OR even older. Maybe I'm different but this isn't for me. I have always preferred a younger man or two in my life while I'm singl . After reading the article Embrace Your Inner Slut I have accepted an offer from a man who is quite a bit younger than myself. I decided to explore my spanking fantasies with a little light bondage when I was recovering from the fifteen double doses of radiation therapy whilst in a High Care level nursing home. To me it's like the song Live My Life and I'll live while I'm alive.
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  • Areyoukinky2

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    Thank you very much for your very informative article.
    As a brain cancer survivor whose life was turned up side down and had fifteen double doses of radiation therapy whilst in a High Care level nursing home I decided that I was going to explore my spanking fantasies with a little light bondage as well.
    I have been surprised at the number of males younger than I am who have approached me. Not that I'm complaining lol I have found that a lot of men prefer to be with an older lady such as myself. I have previously read an article on AMM about ladies embracing their inner slut. My reading this article made me think about younger males in a completely different way. Now after many texts and phone calls I'm about to meet a man who is a lot younger than I am. We will fullfill each others sexual fantasies.
    I don't have a problem with teaching a climax as I'm multi orgasmic and proud to be so. My brain cancer has been stable for three and a half years so just like the song It's My Life and I just want to live while I'm alive.
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  • CURVYLOVER1

    CURVYLOVER1
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    Enjoyed reading your article and perspective on mature people's sexuality.
    Like they say " use it or loose it" is just so true and our efforts are rewarded.Also as I grow older I find that of course I like to take it slower and have defintetly become more sensual and creative.
    There still lots to enjoy!
    Pete
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  • Zamboon

    Zamboon
    66M Bridgeman Downs, QLD,
     AU

    I’ve always enjoyed older women, it’s not in the perfect bodies but as to how comfortable you are in your own skin, admittedly there are still things you can do to look your best but we all know we aren’t fooling ourselves. Older women are more relaxed about life and its hassles they’ve been there and done that and they have a lot more time to play - bless you all and enjoy your nudity and sex have a ball - have 6 ;).
    And don’t settle for second best - I had a meet with a 70 yr old lady November- we had a good chat and a coffee and said our goodbyes - I sent her an amm message saying that I enjoyed our chat and she said thanks but I’m not interested in meeting again - fair enough I chuckled for the rest of the day - good for you Lady!
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  • Ghost Rider

    Ghost Rider
    78M Mornington, VIC,
     AU

    I have always loved older mature gals. At 21 I had an affair with a lovely 42 year old. She had a daughter 18 but I just lerved her mum! My wife (separated) and girlfriend are both older than me and I love 'em both but to quote my girlfriend; "I'm over it." She even put in a good word for me to her friends, all 65+ but apart from one who's in a relationship, they say the same, "I'm over it." I'm just about to hit 72 and have still got plenty left in the tank. As I lament, I have several gorgeous women in my life but none of them root! (Am I allowed to say that?)
    >4w
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  • real17

    real17
    66M 65F Maroochydore, QLD,
     AU

    We totally agree with all of this. Just about to hit 60 & our sex life just keeps getting better. Lubrication is definitely a biggy. We use lots of almond oil. ..... & sometimes..... I mean lots!!!!!. Body slide or massage anyone?. It's interesting that most people on swinger sites have a limited age preference. That's a pity... because the best fun we've had has been with over 50's & even over 60's.
    >4w
    • charliefredxl

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      I also agree with the article. Am about to turn 69 and sex life is great. Lubrication can be a problem but that can be over come. Also agree about swinger sites most seem to think that over 65 your out of the game so to speak. Perhaps there would be a club that would lift the lower limit to say 50 plus most suited have a feeling would be well patronized. Thoughts on that anyone
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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727
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    Great article, Eva and thanks so much. I am most definitely still interested in sex - especially after an enforced 2 months of celibacy (due to a bout with the big C). MY illness, however, has reinforced my view that life is short and uncertain so enjoy as much as you can. Sure, we more mature people are not as nimble and flexible as younger people but that's only in the body - the mind is still young and limber.
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  • Michelle112

    Michelle112
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    Thanks for this article Eva, as you said our bodies are constantly changing & so are the positions for sex. I'm glad I'm not one of the young & beautiful I'm actually grateful for the changes life has bought. Without change it stays the same. I appreciate every article that gets printed even if I don't agree, it gives us another chance to see something differently. Hopefully I'll be learning new ways forever
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  • coffeencream4u

    coffeencream4u
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    I appreciated the article (thanks Eva) but have been disappointed to see so many self serving comments.
    Young, old, in between...I believe what matters is all in the mind or to quote a favourite movie, it's the vibe..if it's there, it's there!
    oh, and one more thing..
    Happy New year :)
    >4w
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  • IntoMature

    IntoMature
    51M Clayton, VIC,
     AU

    I much prefer older women
    >4w
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  • massageguy676

    massageguy676
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    It is a subject that will effect us all; either now or it will later. We all have different outcomes.
    I consider myself lucky to be able to have all my equipment still work like a 30 year old and have the added advantage of being able to handle the excitement better than a 30 year old.
    >4w
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  • Desertstorm83

    Desertstorm83
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    I love meeting mature women, I find them extremely attractive and playful.
    Sadly so many younger guys around my age don’t have the same respect and in my state of Aus, many women are out off by younger guys wasting their time and not being mature minded about it all.
    >4w
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  • SassySandy

    SassySandy
    75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
     AU

    WOW!!!!! Sex it's better now than ever before at 68 specially with a younger guy who can still get it on nice and hard..unlike the older ones I've tried who either need Viagra or can only use fingers and tongue, I need to feel REAL HARD COCK all the way HAHA!!!! Thank goodness for my need for speed, will keep going to the bitter end....MMMMMMMM
    >4w
    • MeetsandTreats

      MeetsandTreats
      64M Capalaba, QLD,
       AU

      I think your comments are quite disrespectful towards older males. I rearley see men commenting about the biological changes women's bodies go through in their latter years. Yes I take Viagra, partly because probably age but mostly from having 2 serious medical conditions which I have recovered but now rely on the LITTLE BLUE PILL. I have never performed or lasted longer since taking the pill and in all reports, it has done the same for most males, so your comments seem to be somewhat unfounded. Nobody cares if you find younger men more appealing.... but respect those who don't fit your criteria.
      >4w
    • FatFeistyFun

      FatFeistyFun
      44F Brisbane, QLD,
       AU

      Respect us a two way street dude. How about you show her preferences some respect, show some of this maturirity you're supposedly endowed with and "take it on the chin". We all have preferences as I'm sure you do..... the lady was simply sharing her experineces...... how dare you say they're "unfounded" just because it's hit a nerve with you personally.
      >4w
    • SassySandy

      SassySandy
      75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
       AU

      O dear here we go!!!!! "Sour grapes" I'm NOT disrespectful to ANYONE!!!!!!! just stating FACTS!!!!!!! from my many experiences....and YES I WILL BRAG ABOUT MY SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!!!! which DOES NOT MAKE ME A TART!!!!! Just a woman who LOVES sex at 68, always have and always will.....so put that in your pipe and smoke it!!!!! ENVIOUS ARE YOU? HAHA
      >4w
    • SassySandy

      SassySandy
      75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
       AU

      Thank you FatFiestyFun!!!!....proves my point how insecure they can be.......I've dealt with these kinda men on the sites before......they're VERY bitter because they're NOT getting the attention from ladies like us.....BECAUSE OF THEIR ARROGANCE!!!!!! Enough said!!!!
      >4w
    • Perrcy

      Perrcy
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      You must have tried the wrong older guys. Good for you if you enjoy hard cock. i for one am not envious. Like you I have always enjoyed sex and always will. Have been with women older than you and they are quite remarkable
      .
      >4w
    • SassySandy

      SassySandy
      75F Ocean Shores, NSW,
       AU

      Perrcy....happy to hear youre having fun....different strokes for different folks....whatever floats your boat..ENJOY!!!
      >4w
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  • qick-e

    qick-e
    70M Tullamarine, VIC,
     AU

    A willing partner/partners can really help, one who knows how to stimulate a cock into action,
    for me nothing better than having my balls licked and sucked , creates an instant erection ,
    i like to use Cock rings they a great little sex toy , prefer the metal ones , that go over the base of the penis
    and the balls slip inside it ,, if you haven't used them before start with a rubber one
    >4w
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  • sweetobsession5

    sweetobsession5
    77M Thomastown, VIC,
     AU

    Agree totally with all your comments! As I'm approaching the age of 70 (still in that fine year of 69...what a wonderful number!), I find that there are fewer and fewer opportunities for me to indulge in sexual activities, and wonder why so many women STILL have inhibitions about their sexuality! I truly believe that any relatively inexperienced ladies would benefit from being taught about their bodies and feelings by someone older and with the experience to help them understand themselves!
    Cheers to all us "grey power" people out there
    >4w
    • FatFeistyFun

      FatFeistyFun
      44F Brisbane, QLD,
       AU

      I disagree with your comments about women "STILL having inhibitions" and "needing to be taught". I don't know your situation and feel you may perhaps be deflecting onto women due to age related rejections. I, for one (And not the only), have ZERO inhibitions and have experineced ALOT and definetely do not require "teaching" by men of advanced years.
      >4w
    • sweetobsession5

      sweetobsession5
      77M Thomastown, VIC,
       AU

      Thanks for your comments, Fatfeisty.....no disrespect to you or your sexual prowess, (I note that you prefer YOUNGER males, btw), but all I was saying was that there are a lot of women out there who have yet to discover their sensuality/sexuality, whether they're golden oldies, or younger ladies!
      I certainly hope you find what you're looking for!!
      >4w
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  • LadyDragon

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    Oh to have been as liberal & had such magnificent, mind & body blowing sex prior to 65! After nearly 3 years on AMM, & now closing in on 68, I found a friend & spectacular teacher, liberator, sex god! on AMM... thank goodness for your site - and my genetics!
    I had never had an orgasm like I have now with "the boy" - who is 71.
    We are acrobatic (occasional "stop! hang on! a cramp!"), & have lazy sex sometimes, but 3 or 4 sessions in 24hrs is not uncommon. It is marvellous to have got rid of hangups, embarrassment & just go at it like rabbits... every which way but loose!
    Brilliant. Thanks to grey power & enough energy.... EvereadyPussy I am!
    Thanks Eva for.the positive message x
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  • olderNspicy

    olderNspicy
    70M Caloundra, QLD,
     AU

    Why is it that the young think that once you turn 60 the wheels fall off. Not so i get horny the same as ever i last longer ,and i have fare more idea how a woman work. Just love to plese oh,and be pleased.
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  • letsmeet269

    letsmeet269
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    Never too old, in fact I've found I actually take much longer to cum now as I've gotten older which is great for both parties concerned
    >4w
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  • chesswiseagain

    chesswiseagain
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    I am a very lucky bloke in his 70's. I have a lady that I stay with a few days a week and have sex each morning (she is 71). I have a lady who visits me every few months from Brisbane and we have a great time... (I have had more orgasms in an hour with you than I have had in 6 years with my partner. So believe me when I say you completely satisfy me x) That was a great message from her a few months ago. She is 37 !!! I see her again early January.... NEVER TOO OLD!!!!
    >4w
    • FriendlyGuy1965

      FriendlyGuy1965
      59M Box Hill, VIC,
       AU

      Oh wow !! You are a lucky bloke ,Well done you !! I am in my early 50's and I still have not met any women from here . I am guessing your success with women boost your confidence too, and to keep on going for years to come - Good on you. Cheers.
      >4w
    • chesswiseagain

      chesswiseagain
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      Thanks for your comment Friendly Guy.. I have been on AMM for many years, even as a couple, yonks ago... I have met so many women and couples on here for a lot of pleasure on both sides. BUT, you must be a Gold Member at least to have any luck at all if you are a man!!... Without being able to chat personally, one has no chance!
      >4w
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  • nautycol

    nautycol
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    70 & 71 year old, married 50 years and still having fun, in the bedroom and others not as regularly of course, no where near as agile, keep our selves' fit so as we can have fun out of the bedroom as well.
    A couple of "oldies" leading a bloody good life
    Good article Eva
    >4w
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  • DeliciousEva

    DeliciousEva
    48F Reservoir, VIC,
     AU

    Absolutely loving all your comments!!
    Go, grey brigade!! Show em how it's done!!
    >4w
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  • KaifraDuet

    KaifraDuet
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    Thanks Eva. At 77 I still pride myself on being a sensual and erotic being - and a satisfying and cooperative lover. So what if the old man lets me down at times? I learned in my early teens that penetration is not the be all and end all and with old age comes enlightenment - you stop thinking with your dick, a philosophy that should be taught early in life. Society would gain if it were acceptable for people of all genders to take older lovers at some time in their lives to help them discover themselves. Again, thank you Eva.
    >4w
    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva
      48F Reservoir, VIC,
       AU

      Oh if only all boys on their early teens could learn that lesson... Haha. The world could be a far nicer place.
      :)
      >4w
    • Pleasuremywife2

      Pleasuremywife2
      78M 76F Gold Coast, QLD,
       AU

      Which is one of the many reasons I offer Charmaine to be pleasured. Whilst it's wonderful for her to be with (mostly) younger men, she is a great mentor, and each one of her lovers gets to add a new perspective to their lives. There is no doubt that an active mature woman can do wonders for a man, whether he be young or old. There's so much to learn, and it isn't all about simple penetration.
      >4w
    • Leolady727

      Leolady727
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      Very true. And, let me tell you folks, this man knows what he's talking about ;)
      >4w
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  • nudge1955

    nudge1955
    70M Hamilton, NSW,
     AU

    My semi regular partner is 63 and I am 62. She is even better at oral now than ever and more experimental. Her orgasms seem to be stronger and she is patient with me as it does take me longer to climax but that also means we last longer.
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  • easeytime

    easeytime
    80M 71F South Townsville, QLD,
     AU

    A great article,.my wife has the dryness within thing, were it got to the stage sex was out. ok with oral so she has seen her doctor who has subscribed a cream so now waiting to take its course. I am sexualy active and at 73 still find a cpl or sometimes a lady (with my wife permission of course) to get that extra enjoyment.
    >4w
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  • Pleasuremywife2

    Pleasuremywife2
    78M 76F Gold Coast, QLD,
     AU

    There is a saying that you're only as old as the woman you feel. Another is use it or lose it.
    Our sex life is still going gang busters despite our advancing years.
    Thanks for the article Eva.
    >4w
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  • Nicegentleman4u

    Nicegentleman4u
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    Well said Eva. Many of us oldies are still active and sexy. My body, although 78 y/o is still performing well thanks to an active lifestyle and a little medical help. I spend 2 hours a day keeping fit and my only problem is finding a partner. My dear wife has medical issues and is encouraging me to find a playmate but, as you point out, many people just write off the older generation. Seems a shame that such a lot of experience, passion and enthusiasm is just going to waste.
    >4w
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