Senior Sex! We’re still Sexy! We’re still Sexual!

If you listen to marketing and media (hell, even if you don’t want to, it’s hard to ignore), sex and all the sexy goodness that comes with it is for the young and the beautiful and everyone else is just ew icky!

The thing is, though, apart from being completely wrong - sex is for everyone - the whole “young” thing is totally misleading too!

I mean, when I was a teenager, the idea of 30 year olds having sex was ew! When I was in my 20s anyone over the age of 40 was old… Now I’m in my 40’s I realise my teenage daughter thinks I’m old and icky and shouldn’t be having sex, and god knows what she thinks of her Grandparents (I’m pretty sure she doesn’t think of her grandparents doing it… But you know what I mean.)

As mentioned in our At what age do you have the best sex of your life? article, sex is a journey of exploration and self discovery, and every age we are brings up new and exciting things to discover about ourselves and our bodies, just because we are getting older doesn’t mean our sex lives have to suffer, even if there are certain things we need to keep in mind.

Body Stuff

When we get older our bodies change. They just do. We can’t stop it (no matter what those sellers of anti-ageing potions try to tell you) and we shouldn’t have to want to. I’m of the school of belief that you should embrace yourself warts n all (Well, maybe not HPV warts… there’s a vaccine, you know) and love the body and skin you’re in… But, yes, I will admit there are certain things that come with ageing that can be detrimental to our sex-lives… But they don’t have to mean the end of it!

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The Dryness Within

For women, as we get older and our bodies begin to change through menopause, our entire reproductive system starts to shut down. In some ways this can be a bit of a blessing (yay, no more periods and cramps!) but in many ways it can be hard to deal with and a complete overhaul of the body we have known for so many years. Hot flashes, mood swings, rapid spikes and drops in libido are just some of the things that happen, and the physical side effects of these things can make sex a less than fun activity. Probably the number one complaint and issue I hear from women about sex through and after menopause is the lack of natural lubrication and the ensuing discomfort and pain that that can cause, and not just during sex. While lubrication is important for comfortable sex, sometimes, for women going through hormonal upheaval, just using regular lube can be slightly ineffective, and can often further irritate the already dry and sensitive vaginal skin. This can be helped, though, with the aid of a vaginal moisturiser. One company I know makes a specific product (System Jo Renew) that is a daily moisturiser for your vagina. It is NOT a lube, but a formula made with the intense moisturising properties of cucumber, aloe and bisabolol which help rejuvenate cell growth and replace moisture in the skin. Used daily it can help with the everyday discomfort that vaginal dryness can create and, during sex, matched with a good water-based lubricant (System Jo Agape is an excellent pairing) can make all the slippery difference in the world!

The Hard Truth

For men reaching a certain age the most common issue I get asked about is erections. As men get older sometimes the soldier doesn’t stand to attention for as long or as rigid as he once did, and this can greatly effect the self esteem and sex lives of men. My first suggestion when this starts to happen is go and see your doctor and get any medical worries out of the way first. Erectile issues can sometimes be a symptom of far more urgent problems like prostate cancer and even things like heart disease, so please make sure you see a doctor. If it turns out to be nothing too serious, just an issue with blood-flow and age, there are a number of things you can try to help fix it or compensate.

Yes there’s the pills which can definitely help, but before you go pumping your body full of chemicals see if something like a penis ring (a tight rubber ring at the base of your cock that stops the blood from flowing back down) can help. If the issue is getting erect rather than staying erect, often a penis pump and penis ring combination can be all you need to get back to your former glory.

A few men I know also use hollow strap ons. These are like a strap-on for guys to wear. The attachment is a hollow cock you slip your own into so you can still have penetrative sex with your partner even if yours doesn’t quite last the distance.

The Old Grey Mare, She Ain’t What She Used To Be

Something that effects both men and women with age is the loss of our agility, flexibility and mobility. We get stiff and creaky and cramped in body areas we didn’t know could cramp and creak and it can make “getting a leg over” an almost gymnastic feat… That’s okay. It doesn’t mean sex has to stop… It just means we need to find more comfortable positions to do it in. Pillows and cushions can become your best friend, and sex toys and accessories can also help in those moments where we’re not quite ready to stop, but the joints in our bodies are not in a happy place.

Regular exercise and movement can definitely help in keeping our bodies in shape, and never be afraid to talk to your doctor about how to keep your sex life alive and kicking though later years.

The Fountain of Youth

I truly believe the more we connect to other people via touch and love, the happier and healthier we are in our overall lives. The more connected we are with our partners, the more life is a wonderful place to be, and the more orgasms and sexy tingles we get, the younger our bodies feel and look and act. So forget your oil of Olay and your expensive youth-spa treatments… Get you some senior sex with your sexy senior partner and put the spring back in your step.

(Advice… Please don’t spring too fast… Remember your knees.)

45 Comments

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    Zamboon
    More than a month ago

    I’ve always enjoyed older women, it’s not in the perfect bodies but as to how comfortable you are in your own skin, admittedly there are still things you can do to look your best but we all know we aren’t fooling ourselves. Older women are more relaxed about life and its hassles they’ve been there and done that and they have a lot more time to play - bless you all and enjoy your nudity and sex have a ball - have 6 ;).
    And don’t settle for second best - I had a meet with a 70 yr old lady November- we had a good chat and a coffee and said our goodbyes - I sent her an amm message saying that I enjoyed our chat and she said thanks but I’m not interested in meeting again - fair enough I chuckled for the rest of the day - good for you Lady!

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    Ghost Rider
    More than a month ago

    I have always loved older mature gals. At 21 I had an affair with a lovely 42 year old. She had a daughter 18 but I just lerved her mum! My wife (separated) and girlfriend are both older than me and I love 'em both but to quote my girlfriend; "I'm over it." She even put in a good word for me to her friends, all 65+ but apart from one who's in a relationship, they say the same, "I'm over it." I'm just about to hit 72 and have still got plenty left in the tank. As I lament, I have several gorgeous women in my life but none of them root! (Am I allowed to say that?)

  • real17
    More than a month ago

    We totally agree with all of this. Just about to hit 60 & our sex life just keeps getting better. Lubrication is definitely a biggy. We use lots of almond oil. ..... & sometimes..... I mean lots!!!!!. Body slide or massage anyone?. It's interesting that most people on swinger sites have a limited age preference. That's a pity... because the best fun we've had has been with over 50's & even over 60's.

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    Leolady727
    More than a month ago

    Great article, Eva and thanks so much. I am most definitely still interested in sex - especially after an enforced 2 months of celibacy (due to a bout with the big C). MY illness, however, has reinforced my view that life is short and uncertain so enjoy as much as you can. Sure, we more mature people are not as nimble and flexible as younger people but that's only in the body - the mind is still young and limber.

  • Michelle112
    More than a month ago

    Thanks for this article Eva, as you said our bodies are constantly changing & so are the positions for sex. I'm glad I'm not one of the young & beautiful I'm actually grateful for the changes life has bought. Without change it stays the same. I appreciate every article that gets printed even if I don't agree, it gives us another chance to see something differently. Hopefully I'll be learning new ways forever ??

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    coffeencream4u
    More than a month ago

    I appreciated the article (thanks Eva) but have been disappointed to see so many self serving comments.
    Young, old, in between...I believe what matters is all in the mind or to quote a favourite movie, it's the vibe..if it's there, it's there!
    oh, and one more thing..
    Happy New year :)

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    SirCumalot35
    More than a month ago

    I much prefer older women

  • sg7420
    More than a month ago

    It is a subject that will effect us all; either now or it will later. We all have different outcomes.
    I consider myself lucky to be able to have all my equipment still work like a 30 year old and have the added advantage of being able to handle the excitement better than a 30 year old.

  • Desertstorm83
    More than a month ago

    I love meeting mature women, I find them extremely attractive and playful.
    Sadly so many younger guys around my age don’t have the same respect and in my state of Aus, many women are out off by younger guys wasting their time and not being mature minded about it all.

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      DivingDiva
      More than a month ago

      Seeing that we are not young, sexy and attractive like the young girls, do you find them attractive?

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Yes of course i do. But like all humans we all have to look after ourselves and take pride in our appearance, health etc

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    SassySandy
    More than a month ago

    WOW!!!!! Sex it's better now than ever before at 68 specially with a younger guy who can still get it on nice and hard..unlike the older ones I've tried who either need Viagra or can only use fingers and tongue, I need to feel REAL HARD COCK all the way HAHA!!!! Thank goodness for my need for speed, will keep going to the bitter end....MMMMMMMM

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      MeetsandTreats
      More than a month ago

      I think your comments are quite disrespectful towards older males. I rearley see men commenting about the biological changes women's bodies go through in their latter years. Yes I take Viagra, partly because probably age but mostly from having 2 serious medical conditions which I have recovered but now rely on the LITTLE BLUE PILL. I have never performed or lasted longer since taking the pill and in all reports, it has done the same for most males, so your comments seem to be somewhat unfounded. Nobody cares if you find younger men more appealing.... but respect those who don't fit your criteria.

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      FatFiestyFun
      More than a month ago

      Respect us a two way street dude. How about you show her preferences some respect, show some of this maturirity you're supposedly endowed with and "take it on the chin". We all have preferences as I'm sure you do..... the lady was simply sharing her experineces...... how dare you say they're "unfounded" just because it's hit a nerve with you personally.

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      SassySandy
      More than a month ago

      O dear here we go!!!!! "Sour grapes" I'm NOT disrespectful to ANYONE!!!!!!! just stating FACTS!!!!!!! from my many experiences....and YES I WILL BRAG ABOUT MY SEXUAL EXPERIENCES!!!! which DOES NOT MAKE ME A TART!!!!! Just a woman who LOVES sex at 68, always have and always will.....so put that in your pipe and smoke it!!!!! ENVIOUS ARE YOU???? HAHA

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      SassySandy
      More than a month ago

      Thank you FatFiestyFun!!!!....proves my point how insecure they can be.......I've dealt with these kinda men on the sites before......they're VERY bitter because they're NOT getting the attention from ladies like us.....BECAUSE OF THEIR ARROGANCE!!!!!! Enough said!!!!

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      You must have tried the wrong older guys. Good for you if you enjoy hard cock. i for one am not envious. Like you I have always enjoyed sex and always will. Have been with women older than you and they are quite remarkable
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      SassySandy
      More than a month ago

      Perrcy....happy to hear youre having fun....different strokes for different folks....whatever floats your boat..ENJOY!!!

  • qick-e
    More than a month ago

    A willing partner/partners can really help, one who knows how to stimulate a cock into action,
    for me nothing better than having my balls licked and sucked , creates an instant erection ,
    i like to use Cock rings they a great little sex toy , prefer the metal ones , that go over the base of the penis
    and the balls slip inside it ,, if you haven't used them before start with a rubber one

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    sweetobsession5
    More than a month ago

    Agree totally with all your comments! As I'm approaching the age of 70 (still in that fine year of 69...what a wonderful number!), I find that there are fewer and fewer opportunities for me to indulge in sexual activities, and wonder why so many women STILL have inhibitions about their sexuality! I truly believe that any relatively inexperienced ladies would benefit from being taught about their bodies and feelings by someone older and with the experience to help them understand themselves!
    Cheers to all us "grey power" people out there

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      FatFiestyFun
      More than a month ago

      I disagree with your comments about women "STILL having inhibitions" and "needing to be taught". I don't know your situation and feel you may perhaps be deflecting onto women due to age related rejections. I, for one (And not the only), have ZERO inhibitions and have experineced ALOT and definetely do not require "teaching" by men of advanced years.

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      sweetobsession5
      More than a month ago

      Thanks for your comments, Fatfeisty.....no disrespect to you or your sexual prowess, (I note that you prefer YOUNGER males, btw), but all I was saying was that there are a lot of women out there who have yet to discover their sensuality/sexuality, whether they're golden oldies, or younger ladies!
      I certainly hope you find what you're looking for!!

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    LadyDragon
    More than a month ago

    Oh to have been as liberal & had such magnificent, mind & body blowing sex prior to 65! After nearly 3 years on AMM, & now closing in on 68, I found a friend & spectacular teacher, liberator, sex god! on AMM... thank goodness for your site - and my genetics!
    I had never had an orgasm like I have now with "the boy" - who is 71.
    We are acrobatic (occasional "stop! hang on! a cramp!"), & have lazy sex sometimes, but 3 or 4 sessions in 24hrs is not uncommon. It is marvellous to have got rid of hangups, embarrassment & just go at it like rabbits... every which way but loose!
    Brilliant. Thanks to grey power & enough energy.... EvereadyPussy I am!
    Thanks Eva for.the positive message x

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      stato100
      More than a month ago

      Hey nice to hear that theres hope for when i get older,, lol,,
      Hope i can be as lucky as you in years to come,,
      cheers

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Agree with you Dragon and good for you!

    • jaycee51
      More than a month ago

      I had the pleasure of meeting LadyDragon at a party at my place 15 months ago. This lady is shortselling herself, she is vibrant, happy, great to be with and she loves sex. Great memories.

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      LadyDragon
      More than a month ago

      Jaycee51, thank you. Enjoyment of each other is the key, to what-, how-, where-, why-ever we get up to, whatever our age. xxx ;~D

  • olderNspicy
    More than a month ago

    Why is it that the young think that once you turn 60 the wheels fall off. Not so i get horny the same as ever i last longer ,and i have fare more idea how a woman work. Just love to plese oh,and be pleased.

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      CuriousForFun98
      More than a month ago

      I don't think the wheels fall off, in fact I like men and women much older than me because experience counts!

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    letsmeet269
    More than a month ago

    Never too old, in fact I've found I actually take much longer to cum now as I've gotten older which is great for both parties concerned

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    chesswiseagain
    More than a month ago

    I am a very lucky bloke in his 70's. I have a lady that I stay with a few days a week and have sex each morning (she is 71). I have a lady who visits me every few months from Brisbane and we have a great time... (I have had more orgasms in an hour with you than I have had in 6 years with my partner. So believe me when I say you completely satisfy me x) That was a great message from her a few months ago. She is 37 !!! I see her again early January.... NEVER TOO OLD!!!!

    • FriendlyGuy1965
      More than a month ago

      Oh wow !! You are a lucky bloke ,Well done you !! I am in my early 50's and I still have not met any women from here . I am guessing your success with women boost your confidence too, and to keep on going for years to come - Good on you. Cheers.

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      chesswiseagain
      More than a month ago

      Thanks for your comment Friendly Guy.. I have been on AMM for many years, even as a couple, yonks ago... I have met so many women and couples on here for a lot of pleasure on both sides. BUT, you must be a Gold Member at least to have any luck at all if you are a man!!... Without being able to chat personally, one has no chance!

  • nautycol
    More than a month ago

    70 & 71 year old, married 50 years and still having fun, in the bedroom and others not as regularly of course, no where near as agile, keep our selves' fit so as we can have fun out of the bedroom as well.
    A couple of "oldies" leading a bloody good life
    Good article Eva

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    DeliciousEva
    More than a month ago

    Absolutely loving all your comments!!

    Go, grey brigade!! Show em how it's done!!

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    NLindsayfan
    More than a month ago

    Thanks Eva. At 77 I still pride myself on being a sensual and erotic being - and a satisfying and cooperative lover. So what if the old man lets me down at times? I learned in my early teens that penetration is not the be all and end all and with old age comes enlightenment - you stop thinking with your dick, a philosophy that should be taught early in life. Society would gain if it were acceptable for people of all genders to take older lovers at some time in their lives to help them discover themselves. Again, thank you Eva.

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      DeliciousEva
      More than a month ago

      Oh if only all boys on their early teens could learn that lesson... Haha. The world could be a far nicer place.
      :)

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      Pleasuremywife2
      More than a month ago

      Which is one of the many reasons I offer Charmaine to be pleasured. Whilst it's wonderful for her to be with (mostly) younger men, she is a great mentor, and each one of her lovers gets to add a new perspective to their lives. There is no doubt that an active mature woman can do wonders for a man, whether he be young or old. There's so much to learn, and it isn't all about simple penetration.

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      Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      Very true. And, let me tell you folks, this man knows what he's talking about ;)

  • nudge1955
    More than a month ago

    My semi regular partner is 63 and I am 62. She is even better at oral now than ever and more experimental. Her orgasms seem to be stronger and she is patient with me as it does take me longer to climax but that also means we last longer.

  • easeytime
    More than a month ago

    A great article,.my wife has the dryness within thing, were it got to the stage sex was out. ok with oral so she has seen her doctor who has subscribed a cream so now waiting to take its course. I am sexualy active and at 73 still find a cpl or sometimes a lady (with my wife permission of course) to get that extra enjoyment.

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    Pleasuremywife2
    More than a month ago

    There is a saying that you're only as old as the woman you feel. Another is use it or lose it.
    Our sex life is still going gang busters despite our advancing years.
    Thanks for the article Eva.

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    Nicegentleman4u
    More than a month ago

    Well said Eva. Many of us oldies are still active and sexy. My body, although 78 y/o is still performing well thanks to an active lifestyle and a little medical help. I spend 2 hours a day keeping fit and my only problem is finding a partner. My dear wife has medical issues and is encouraging me to find a playmate but, as you point out, many people just write off the older generation. Seems a shame that such a lot of experience, passion and enthusiasm is just going to waste.

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