How to give the perfect hand job

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Penises. I love them. Big, small, fat or thin, each penis is as unique as the person attached to it and, just like the attached human, has different things that it likes and dislikes and has specific ways it enjoys being touched.

If you listen to stereotypical “jokes” about men and sex you may be under the impression that “hey, as long as they touch it the job’s almost done” but, in the great scheme of things that’s not only absolutely untrue, it’s also completely insulting to the penis owners of this world.

Yes, okay, there are some men who don’t really give a crap about the who, how or why, just as long as they’re getting off… But it’s time we stopped listening to those sort of men as they do nothing but a disservice to all the incredibly sexual and sensual men out there who are looking for far more than a quick tug, and actually want to experience the closeness and mutual satisfaction that can come from the intimate touch of a partner.

Choking the Chicken

I think a lot of the issues that come with hand-jobs are the nicknames we give it. Jerkin the Gherkin, Bashing the Bishop, Choking the Chicken… These terms are all very… well… Violent! They make it seem that the only way to touch a dick is to grab it in your fist and pump it up and down like you’re trying to unclog a drain… And while that sort of action does have a place, it is not the be all and end all of cock stimulation and can actually be uncomfortable and even painful for many guys. So relax, girls (and guys who like penises), it’s not a race to the finish…

Slip and Slide

Like I say so often in articles about stimulating women, getting the area wet and slippery is one of the most important parts of pleasuring a woman, and it is the same with guys. Just tugging and rubbing along dry skin with your dry hands is a recipe for rope-burn. Ouch! Lube is absolutely your friend and even the act of applying it can be considered foreplay. Drizzling it slowly over the head and using the tips of your fingers to slide it down the shaft can be incredibly sensual. Make sure the whole shaft is covered and slippery and trail your fingertips along it. Tease it with gentle squeezes and strokes, but keep it light to start. One of the most awesome feelings in the word is feeling a cock begin to grow and harden in your hands, responding to your touch and it should be something both you and your partner savour.

The Art of Tease

Like I said above, slow and sensual is as good for guys as it is for girls and tempting and teasing them to the edge of ecstasy is something heaps of guys enjoy. Getting nice and close to their cock, so they can feel your breath on it is an amazing feeling. Especially if you look up every so often and connect with eye contact… Slowly lick your lips and go back to concentrating on their shaft… Will you lick it? Are you going to put it in your mouth? Ohhhh the waiting and wanting can be incredibly intense for them and you never even have to put it near your lips.

Don’t Get Shafted

While I have mentioned the shaft many times in this piece, that really is just one part of the penis and it’s important to remember that other areas can be just as, if not more, enjoyable, than just stroking the shaft. The head of the penis, and the frenulum (the seam bit that attaches the shaft to the head) are usually the most sensitive part, so making sure you don’t ignore them is a huge part of giving a great hand-job. Tickle your fingers over it, squeeze it gently as your fist or hand moves over it, blow onto it with gentle breaths. Use your thumb to gently massage the frenulum as your fist strokes or squeezes. The testicles are also incredibly sensitive and pleasurable to the touch and should not be ignored! I know there is often a bit of fear about touching balls, it’s no secret that they can be a source of great pain and discomfort if not treated carefully, but gentle strokes and squeezes as you play with the rest of the penis can illicit amazing sensations.

Two to Tango

You have two hands, use them! Having one hand stroking the shaft and the other tickling the head or the balls is a fantastic way to change up the sensations all at the same time. Gripping the shaft between two hands is another way to change the game, not only does the cock get double the touch, but it also does something else… It makes the penis look and feel even bigger and what guy doesn’t want to think he has a monster cock that needs two hands to stimulate? Instead of stroking up and down use one hand after the other to stroke/pull up. As one hand is slipping off the top of the head the other is starting its slide upwards … Start off slowly and build up speed with the two hands moving in synchronicity together.

Cut or Uncut

There are some very subtle, and not-so-subtle, differences between a circumcised and uncircumcised penis and it really is important to note that the way you touch them can be different. Whereas with a circumcised penis the head is always visible and “out”, that isn’t the case with most uncircumcised ones and so it means the head is often far more sensitive to the touch and may need you to take a gentler approach. It is also important to note that the foreskin is (like the head) full of nerve endings and playing with it can bring out some amazing and different sensations than the rest of the penis. When a penis hasn’t been circumcised the outer skin is often far more flexible and moveable than with a cut one, so you can use the skin as a “sleeve” and slip and slide it over and around the shaft. Be aware not to pull it back too far off the head, though (unless you’re asked to) because it can pull against the frenulum and be a bit painful for some guys.

Look, Listen, and Learn

Like with everything to do with sex, communication is vitally important to a good experience. Watch your partner’s face as you touch him. You’ll see it in his expressions that what you’re doing is good. Listen to his breathing and his moans (seriously, guys, make more noise… We love it) and remember the parts of his body and the way you touch it for future reference. Check in often, “Is this good, baby?” and ask him if there are specific things he would like you to do. Tell him how beautiful/big/smooth/hard he is and how much you love it. Use his breathing and body movements as a guide to what you’re doing, and to inspire you to keep going.

A Helping Hand

You know what’s really hot? And can also help if you’re not 100% sure you’re doing it right? Ask them to show you how they like it. Watch their hand move and gently place yours over the top. Squeeze their hand as they play, trail your fingertips behind their fist, watch and touch and learn their style. It’s such a great way to learn all about them, as well as sow them how much you’re into them and want to pleasure them.

Touch is such an important part of life, from a supportive hand on your shoulder, to a good ol rogering by someone you think is hot, and I truly think the more we learn to give touch to others, the more of a content and happy society we will become. Start to change the world, one touch at a time… And give loads of hand jobs… Your men will thank you!

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  • essensuallyman

    essensuallyman

    More than a month ago

    Excellent article Eva. Especially like your closing lines.

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    qick-e

    More than a month ago

    i just love the two hand action, one on the cock the other massaging the balls with the occasional
    finger running along to the anus, its an art some are better at it than others , plenty of lube is best ,
    and shaved balls of course

    Reply
  • niceguy6000

    niceguy6000

    More than a month ago

    It's like taming a dragon! Treat it warily at first but then show who's in charge and it'll breath fire for you.....
    Personally I find a nice firm grip around the base of the shaft and under the balls shows me who is boss of that cock!

    Reply
  • HeDomShesub

    HeDomShesub

    More than a month ago

    Well researched and written in a nutshell or two (excuse the pun )
    Spot on!!!

    Reply
  • Leolady727

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago

    I was told (many years ago, when I was young and inexperienced) "you're not trying to start a lawnmower"!

    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva

      More than a month ago

      Haha.
      Yes I had similar, but the plunger metaphor, which is why I used it in the piece. Haha.
      Ah... If only I had older me to teach younger me. Hahaha

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  • NoHarmInAsking

    NoHarmInAsking

    More than a month ago

    Hold me like a flower,....by the shaft !
    :-)

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    happylady398

    More than a month ago

    Could you put up some things that woman and woman can do together

    • sexygirl27

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      More than a month ago

      Lick each others wet pussy

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  • grownupfun

    grownupfun

    More than a month ago

    downward stroke is the most important - some women like to milk a cock as if they want to draw out our semen ...but we're built for thrusting so you want to be focussing especially on the down stroke (towards his testicles) whether its your mouth or your hands

    • magsluvsit

      magsluvsit

      More than a month ago

      I remembered being told that years ago by a lover and he was amazing at eating me also so i never forgot it :-)

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  • diabolicbutt

    diabolicbutt

    More than a month ago

    Thank u Eva for this, now who's my first appLicant I can try this to practice so I can do it perfectLy eventually

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      JasonClark

      More than a month ago

      Oh how I wish it could be me :) x

    • madmax72

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      More than a month ago

      Yes please. You can practice on me as much as you want!

    • paulfromsydney

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      More than a month ago

      I'll put my hand up or other parts up for you diabolicbutt.

    • looking468

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      More than a month ago

      PICK ME PICK ME PICK ME

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  • iPlay4me

    iPlay4me

    More than a month ago

    I adore the way you write, Eva...like chatting with a girlfriend you have starry eyes for! X

    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva

      More than a month ago

      Aw thank you!
      I do try very hard to talk like I write... Usually with a lot less swearing though. Haha.

      I love that you love it xxx

    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva

      More than a month ago

      Omg. I have to say... I went a-stalking to your profile and your opener, about not looking like their pics... I laughed so hard.
      Brilliant. Seriously.

      If you're ever over on the Sunshine Coast and would like to meet for a drink I'd be so into that. I think we could be great mates. Haha.

    • iPlay4me

      iPlay4me

      More than a month ago

      I think that would be hell fun! The same for you....although I am on Straddie now...so if you are ever over the waters, you MUST let me know...drinks it is! xxx

    • maddoo

      maddoo

      More than a month ago

      are men allowed to ? ummmm PLZ lol

    Reply
  • MeetsandTreats

    MeetsandTreats

    More than a month ago

    Only one person that can give me the perfect hand job ..... ME

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      And I'm sure you get plenty of practice :-)

    • MeetsandTreats

      MeetsandTreats

      More than a month ago

      and I do Leo Lady

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      One certainly gets that impression!

    • MeetsandTreats

      MeetsandTreats

      More than a month ago

      Masturbation Leolady,, is having sex with someone you love !

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      So they say - but I usually get enough action elsewhere. I think masturbation is like eating a bag of chips when hungry, rather than having a proper meal. Still, if that's all that's on offer, I guess beggars can't be choosers.

    • MeetsandTreats

      MeetsandTreats

      More than a month ago

      Thank you for your offer Leolady, but I'll stick to my bag of chips. I won't lower my standards to become less picky.

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      WHAT offer?

    Reply
  • looking468

    looking468

    More than a month ago

    How many guys would be interested in trying to stoke another guy or do you think it is a bi thing ? and how many girls are interested in just pulling a guy without anything in return ?

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      JasonClark

      More than a month ago

      I'd stroke it for you :)

    • looking468

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      More than a month ago

      thanks Jason

    Reply
  • cowgaluvoldrmen

    cowgaluvoldrmen

    More than a month ago

    I actually love giving hand jobs, no matter where it is especially outdoors! Love to have the man buckle and his knees n moan ! The best with his dick in the control of my hands, but it's gotta be done right ! Especially watching a guy wank outdoors is awesome but only if he has that wow factor n does it right very nice !

    • looking468

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      More than a month ago

      I would love you to play with my dick cowgaluvoldrmen even if it was out doors or even better would be to have a swap where I can also play with your pussy while you stroke me

    • Lingam63

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      More than a month ago

      Cowgal , you sound like an absolute treasure ! So many women just grab and pull . A lady who really gets off on it can make a hand job absolute bliss . Especially if she keeps dipping her fingers in her pussy juice to use as lube . Mmmmmm................

    • cowgaluvoldrmen

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      More than a month ago

      It's all in the art of how you grip it and how tight you've got him

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      JasonClark

      More than a month ago

      Love your comments cowgaluvildrmen, please keep me in mind ;) x

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    Extrafun4u2

    More than a month ago

    Pre cum is a great lube and usually "on tap" to spread around the head. Most woman grab the shaft to tight. A swirling stroke light and slow does it for me.

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  • manjoy

    manjoy

    More than a month ago

    Eva your a goddess thankyou for responding to my suggestion and the article was very well written and thoughtful i love the suggestions you have written about how to stimulate in different ways.

    Eva is absolutely brilliant. :)

    • MissThatTouch

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      More than a month ago

      Eva sure has a unique and brilliant way with words, and how best to bring them together, doesnt she?
      After reading her work on here for a while, I was thrilled to find out she would be the one to create the article on my own suggestion I took to AMM. I could not have been happier in the published, powerful result :) Eva rocks!

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      Just to clarify MissThatTouch it was definitely manthunder who suggested this topic via a comment on our "How to Finger a Woman" post and we added it to Eva's to do list that day. :-) But yes your topic suggestion was brilliant and we loved what Eva wrote too.

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