How to help her love blow jobs as much as you do!
If there were a few simple boxes you could tick to suddenly make your partner give up all her usual hobbies and take up sucking you off instead, there would be a lot more guys walking around with goofy grins on their faces.
Sadly, it's a little more complicated than that. Here are some of the more common concerns and how you can potentially resolve them.
Hygiene
This is generally top of the list on a blow job flow chart. Nothing will dampen her enthusiasm more than if she's heading towards your crotch and gets a heady whiff of sweaty balls or has to pull aside dirty underwear with urine stains.
Why not take foreplay to the bathroom and suggest showering together? Not only will it guarantee that she knows you're squeaky clean, it could turn into some wet'n'wild fun and you might not even make it to the bedroom!
The taste
First things first here, take the pressure off and let her know that unless she's comfortable with it, she doesn't have to finish you off in her mouth. A BJ can be part of foreplay or you can opt to ejaculate somewhere else on her body. And if she doesn't want you to come in her mouth - don't! Trying to "sneak one in" is immature and doesn't encourage her to trust that you won't do it again. So be respectful of her limits and give her plenty of warning when you're on the path of no return so you can shift to Plan B.
Diet can have a major impact on the taste of your come. Former porn actress, Annie Sprinkle claimed that vegetarians taste best and that eating fruit or drinking fruit juice a couple of hours before sex improves the taste. There's plenty of evidence that meat, nicotine, alcohol, coffee and asparagus make semen less palatable. One couple even conducted their own taste tests and published the results.
While there is no conclusive scientific evidence, fruit juices such as pineapple or cranberry may help as they make the body's pH more acidic, counteracting the alkalinity of semen that contributes to its "bleachy" quality.
Of course flavoured condoms are an option too - there are edible lubricants and body paints which can all help disguise the taste plus add some fun. Our favourite adult store, Max Black, recommends Candiland Sensuals Massage Gels which come in a variety of flavours and are safe to ingest.
Unintentional tooth floss
We touched on this in our article The Bush is Back.
Phillips conducted a global survey in 2010 and the Australian results found that one in four women find ungroomed pubic hair on men a big turn off. 23% of Australian women would like a bit of a trim, 20% like it neatly groomed and trimmed short, and 5% want it completely bare.
So while most women won’t care if you’re a bit hairy down there, no one likes a pubic hair that gets stuck between the teeth. You don’t have to go for the full Brazilian, but a little manscaping is to be encouraged.
Porn is porn
Porn stars might be able to give head for hours but we should remind you that it's not realistic! Don't try to fuck her face, thrust your hips towards her or hold her head in position so she can't move or breathe. In other words, let her be in control.
And let's not get started on deep throating! If she starts to gag then pull back and let her continue at her own pace.
Make sure she understands that swirling her tongue around the tip of your penis and running her tongue down the shaft is every bit as pleasurable for you. You want her to enjoy this experience and until she's more confident, keep the porn star moves on the screen where they belong.
Logistics
Giving a blowjob takes a fair amount of physical stamina. Specifically, keeping her jaw in that position for any length of time can become challenging, if not quite painful. If she pulls away for a moment to relax her jaw to ease the tension, be patient and let her continue in her own time.
If you feel her tensing (and wondering if you're ever going to come) then take the hint and perhaps take her hand in yours and move it towards your penis. Show by example how hard and fast you prefer. If she understands that sucking you off doesn't have to be the goal for every BJ she'll relax more as it removes some of the pressure.
Sometimes women aren't sure they can get you from flaccid to throbbing so try to be a little bit erect before starting.
And if you feel yourself losing your erection (and it does happen) we suggest switching it up, ie offer to go down on her, swap positions, tell her you'd love to watch her pleasure herself. Basically anything to distract from the moment so she doesn't feel she's done something to cause it.
Talk it up
Women who enjoy giving BJs get pleasure from giving pleasure. So make sure she knows that you're REALLY enjoying her lips around your penis. Keep the compliments flowing or perhaps some subtle dirty talk about how much you're enjoying what she’s doing, how good she looks while doing it, and how incredible it’s making you feel. When you lose the ability to speak, grunts and moans are perfectly good as well. There's nothing a lady likes more than hearing that she's pleasing her partner although a word of warning don't compare her to previous lovers, ie. "you do that so much better than XYZ did". This is a fast track to zero blowjobs, possibly zero sex, and probably a stint on the couch as well.
Your positive feedback will build your partner's confidence. Let's face it, high school Sex Ed classes don't typically take you through the logistics of a blow job. Many women aren't confident that they're doing it right. After all they don't have a penis, just like we don't have a clit and we all know how confusing that little button can be. What they don't realise is the fact that they're naked (or partly naked) and in our bed and willing to have sex with us is a turn on in itself, the BJ is just the whipped cream on the cake.
Mind your manners
Women who enjoy giving BJs tend to be sexually satisfied themselves. So think of it like being out for a drink with friends - they shout a round, it's only polite that you reciprocate. And who doesn't want a horny and grateful woman in their bed!
A genuine "thank you" might sound corny but it only takes a second and it's cheaper than flowers - and she'll know you haven't taken her efforts for granted.
Basically, it’s going to take lots of encouragement and some open conversations about what it is that she doesn’t like, and how you can help navigate your way around that so you both get to enjoy yourselves in bed.
So there you have it, gentlemen. We hope some or all of the above help her to love blow jobs as much as you do!
43 comments
Poly.Sandra
More than a month agoSome women chose not to give head and that is a valid choice too.... one should never be expected to do it.... simple really.. no explanations needed, no being coerced or 'taught' how to enjoy it..... some do and some dont. people should stop having to justify who they are for the sake of what is popular or expected.
ReplyMelody2973
More than a month agoNot all penises are nice to suck but when I strike one I like I'm all over it ;)),
Replyblowjobrobbie
More than a month agoDont forget some guys luv giving BJ's too
Replyfriskypuz
More than a month agoOh how I like to give a mind blowing Bj.
ReplyMy husband always says thank you so nicely afterwards.
Also my lovers keep wanting more, have had a couple of men who would rather I suck them off than fuck to the end.
And yes diet has a big effect on the taste, both food and drink.
But I always like to have the favor returned.
justforfun558
More than a month agoI have found, as many of you probably have, that smokers cum is very bitter. I do not like the taste of a smoker's cum and prefer to meet non smokers. This is funny, cause a man told me that women who smoke have a very bitter taste as well, so this might work both ways.
Replyconnielipstick
More than a month agoGreat article, I love smearing my lipstick sucking a guy off, feedback when I'm doing it is mindblowing
Replylittleshy58
More than a month agoI love giving BJ and can deep throat with out gaging as long as guy lets me do my job the way I like giving them but allways like guy to let me know when they are going to cum as I don't like taste of it but will wank till they do as I like watching it come out especialy young guys as they shoot cum a long way
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agothis woman gives 1 great BJ best I had and can take it all to the balls thought she was going to suck them out off the knob of my cock
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More than a month agoI'd like to see that ;)
Trythishard1
More than a month agoIt's fact that some females get off on sucking cock and swallowing cum and some don't . It's not something a guy can " fix " . If she doesn't like doing it that's her issue . As a guy I choose to be with someone who does loves to suck cock and swallow . Easy !!
ReplyBeing sexually dominant , it's a huge turn on for me to fuck a girls throat mercilessly creating a gagging , slobbering mess and yes , there are submissive type females that love that !! Choose an appropriate partner !! Happy days ....
Que5tor
More than a month agoSo I don't have to perform like a porn-star? Whew! ( Not nearly as sarcastic as it seems )
ReplyOne day I'll get a tape measure out and measure the length of my erection. Actually, I probably won't.
Women are a bit afraid, men are a bit afraid.
After learning about procreation, and STD's, what about having fun with it?
AbOriginalAus
More than a month agoOne of my recent partners actively encouraged me to grab her hair and throat fuck her. Was a first for me. Extremely pleasurable but a bit unsettling at the same time.
ReplyDeepThroat181
More than a month agoI agree with everything in this article. I love giving BJs but I MUST have control. If you start grabbing my hair and forcing your cock down my throat...well....remember this...I have teeth and I'm not afraid to use them.
I've been told that I give incredible BJs, especially when I deep throat the guy. I never used to be able to deep throat (that damn gag reflex) but I most definitely can now. Plus I actually enjoy it and get turned on by it. But guys, you need to either trim or shave/wax "down there". Nothing worse than pubes stuck in between your teeth and in your throat.
Now if I can just find a guy who wants what I have to offer.....
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoReally now? Lol
Biandbeyond801
More than a month agoGood advice
Replynudeinterlude
More than a month agoA pet hate - those that can't keep it up and order the woman to "get me hard again" as though it is her fault - OMG! How offputting is a flaccid teeny weenie after you have already tried and tried ... it would be nice for men to learn that this might be the time to please the woman until they can muster up an erection, or (gasp) do something about their erectile problems.
ReplyMisterious1
More than a month agoNice article and sure these tips are handy for someone. In my experience, Pineapple/Pineapple juice or chocolate sometime before receiving a Bj can help "soften the blow." However for mine, i prefer going down on a fem than receiving Bj. Good hygiene either way would be most recommended for both parties to begin with.
Replyjambon007
More than a month agoWell said but it's all common sense
ReplyTwinklybrowneyes
More than a month agoLadies.
BJs are YOUR choice. This blog is disrespecting you, even in the mildest sense indicating you have to.
Look at the porn movies. How often are BJs forced on women. Men who torture women use this as a means of making them submissive, dominating them, belittling them, or "breaking" them.
If YOU want to, fine. that's between you and the man.
If you feel you are being forced to, DON'T.
If's NOT a man's right to demand a BJ. It's YOUR right to give them one because YOU WANT TO!
I wrote this because I like to be respected. BJs are fine, and many people love them, both males and females, but repeat, it's YOUR CHOICE.
Have a lovely weekend.
Don't You?
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ReplyAMM.Editor
More than a month agoWe are sorry that you feel the article is not respectful towards women. We post a broad range of topics and in fact one article posted in July was aimed at men on the flip side of the coin: "Oral Sex: How to get a guy to go down on you!". We feel both articles are balanced and respectful as they talk about respecting limits and not forcing anyone to do anything they don't want to do.
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More than a month agoYes you're right, he has no right to expect any thing. And neither does she! So I suppose you don't have a problem with men who don't put in a effort to please you during sex? I suppose you don't expect men to do anything that doesn't not stimulate his penis, just because you enjoy it and he might enjoy that? Yes lets all be self centered, how dare "men" expect pleasure in return. Thank god my wonderful lady loves to make me happy.
MsShazza94
More than a month agoGood advice. I have learnt over time how to give a good blow job and the point about encouragement is the best one, I think. Nothing worse than a guy giving you no feedback at all.
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoI think I'd be too busy with my face in your bum Shazza. :)
sensualover122
More than a month agoBJs are only great if the woman giving it knows what she's doing & is passionate about doing it AND she WANTS to do it; otherwise I'd rather have my cock deep inside her pussy & using her mouth on my mouth.
ReplyCunnilingus takes as much stamina as fellatio does & it too can give you lock jaw...but what a way to get lock jaw...wooo hooo!
Friendlyfun069
More than a month agoReceiving is nice but I'm more into the giving, and plenty of it until she can take no more :)
Replycuddlypairrback
More than a month agoMy wife - (Mrs Cuddly) gives an excellent blow job. She swallows as well. She loves sucking cock. I am so lucky !
ReplyBuxombabe68
More than a month agoLove to give a good Bj. Been told I do a great job. Now to find a man who wants one on a regular basis
Replyluvvies
More than a month agoSwallowing seems such a waste of good proteins - Luvvys says its good for the skin and she has lovely skin...
ReplySassySandy
More than a month agoGREAT!!!! LOVE THE TOPIC!!!! Love blow jobs and been told I give a GOOD one, prefer almost smooth downunder as hairs in throat are a NO NO or dental floss, I have plenty of that don't need his!!!! Can go for hours with blow job..HE HE!!!!! YUM!!
ReplyDragginBallZ
More than a month agoHaving had a lot of sexual experience as a mature fella, I'd have to agree with everything written here. Good advice! :)
Reply1easygoin1
More than a month agoA great session of oral sex is a great prelude to the main event. Prefer pubes to be smooth or trimmed, avoids feeling either way of munching on a shag pile carpet. :)
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoA great place for a " strip " lol
43amgame
More than a month agoIts been that long since I got a blowjob, I forgot what they taste like.
ReplySexyalejandro
More than a month agoI have my experienced women knows what to do !!
ReplytriXXXi66
More than a month agoA bloke can tell when you really enjoy a BJ, and responding with appropriate comments about your style and expertise is very encouraging and inducive to receiving more and better BJ in the future... Every good cumslut likes to know they are the best at their sucking ! :)
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Replypiediluvvaa
More than a month agoWell put.
The more communication there is about what is liked and what is not is usually better the first few times. As more BJ sessions come ( pardon the pun ) less and less conversation is required and more and more grunting and moaning ensues.
At least, thats what I've experienced ;)
HardandActive
More than a month agoWe use oral sex for foreplay I usually do her first and always take my time. I love it when she gets going, rolls me over and kneels above me, It gives me greater access to her pussy. Quite often she comes a little, this lifts my morale as It shows me that she is enjoying it, then we do a 69er, followed by great fucking. I hold off until my partner comes.
Replysweetangelic2
More than a month agoI love most things to do with giving BJ'S but hate when a guy grabs my head and tries to force it.. I agree about letting her do things at her pace but don't be scared to tell her how you like it either.. eg: more teeth, faster, stronger, deeper...
And don't forget the ball/ass play.. guys will soon tell you if it's a no go zone... just enjoy teasing them....
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Replychilli333
More than a month agoI wise woman once said, let go of my ears I know my job!
2sexymen4u
More than a month agoWe both love getting blow jobs.
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoMmm we loving giving head to
Bigheartedgirl
More than a month agoI did a great BJ and the guy cum deep in my mouth
I choked on his cum and his cum ended in my lungs I couldn't breathe he had to help me
:)
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoThat's a girl ... It sure does takes 2 to tango hey . lol .. sounds like fun ?? That is before you got choked out !!!!