Make 2015 the Year of Sex Positivity


As a member of our horny little community, you've probably done your fair share of work when it comes to unpacking sexual baggage. It’s not easy to make it to adulthood without picking up some negative notions about sex, whether you get them from your religion, your parents, or a few embarrassing experiences during puberty.

But what if it didn't have to be that way? What if there was no inherent negative bias toward healthy human sexual expression? How much guilt, self-consciousness, and negative body-image thought patterns could we have been spared?

It sounds like a dream, but every day we inch closer to achieving it. That’s why a sex-positive movement exists to begin with - but it's certainly a worthy and noble goal worth striving for.

It may seem a little redundant to have an entire movement organised around a concept that's probably been around since the dawn of time, but if you're wondering how we got here, here's a very brief historical footnote:

The origin of Sex Positivity

In the early 1980s, the feminist movement experienced a bit of a civil war (known officially as the "Feminist Sex Wars"). Some feminists were campaigning against pornography as a function of patriarchal dominance and violence, but others - the prototypical sex-positive feminists - opposed this view. From where they were sitting, women's liberation hinged on their sexual freedom, and any attempt to control or censor female sexuality was a move in the wrong direction. In fact, the anti-pornography feminists were beginning to sound a lot like that other negative internal voice many of us grow up with - those voices that told us sexual fetishes and fantasies were something to keep behind closed doors.

Sex+ in all shapes and sizes

Today, sex positivity continues to be a major cornerstone of modern-day feminism, but its scope is certainly not limited to women. Sex positivity embraces human sexuality in virtually any form, so long as it's safe and consensual. It's also about advocating for comprehensive sex education that teaches acceptance and consent.

Unfortunately, there are a whole bunch of misconceptions out there about sex positivity and what it means. Though it's certainly about embracing (and not shaming) someone who loves to have lots of sex, it doesn't necessarily advocate for rampant, promiscuous behaviour if that's not your cup of tea. There's room in the sex-positive movement for both the nymphomaniac and the asexual advocate.

It's also entirely possible that one's perfectly consensual sexual behaviour isn't necessarily healthy or reflective of their own desires. Sex positivity is about knowing oneself well enough to recognise when your habits run counter to your best interests or happiness.

In its simplest form, sex positivity is about removing the stigma surrounding sex. That way, when we do engage with it, it's in a way that adds to our health, happiness, and freedom of expression, and it's always a mutually beneficial exchange.

So tell us, what does Sex Positivity mean to you and are you noticing attitudes changing?


  • XxxVIPxxX
    More than a month ago

    I want join there

  • Leolady727
    More than a month ago

    I was fortunate, in that I was raised by 2 very intelligent, free-thinking people. Back in the late 50's, early 60's. some of my Mother's friends were shocked at the things I was allowed to read, but my parents did not believe in censoring our reading or discussion. I feel very sorry for many people my age who were NOT brought up in such an environment - it has resulted in me having no real sexual hang-ups.

    • MrandMrsMichael
      More than a month ago

      Leolady727 I too had that type of upbringing, I now with my adorable partner have been engaging in the wonderful world of swinging. We have had no problems. We have the utmost respect for each others desires and pursuits. It stems from a great foundation by my parents of tolerance and open communication. I thank them for that.
      So does my partner.

    • hornyhillbilly Photo
      More than a month ago

      leolady727 the more censorship there is the more trouble people get into finding what there missing out on. u go girl there should b more like u

  • xanderking
    More than a month ago

    Everyone should be able to engage in consensual sex of any description, without fear of judgement or condemnation. Attitudes have changed dramatically in recent years but one thing we must all remember is that while we that consider ourselves sexually open would not like to be judged for what we do, neither should we judge those that choose to not be sexually adventurous.

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