Let’s Bust Some Myths about Sex After 50

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There's a pervading myth that once you hit a certain age sex and all things related to it become unimportant, unnecessary, and unwanted but that's simply not true. Our sexpert breaks down the most common myths surrounding sex over fifty.

Getting older is a bit of a trip. Everything you thought you knew in your twenties and thirties has changed or evolved. Your priorities have shifted and your personality has grown, and for so many of us we begin entering a new age of sex and sexuality

It's a time when many people find themselves suddenly single after decades of partnership. It's a time when (women especially) begin shedding the shackles of parenthood, housekeeping, and looking after every other person but themselves. It's a time when men are rethinking their health, and often becoming far more aware of body image (balding, dad bods, erectile issues). It's a new time and a new place in the journey of life, and one that is rife with the lies you told yourself about "old people" and sex when you were young.

Yes, lies. Well at least a bunch of misinformation and urban myth. So let's tackle some of the more common myths about sex after fifty, so you can stop worrying, and start getting your over-fifty playtime on.

Menopause makes women hate sex

When it comes to the medical field, and more specifically the research and resources put into women's reproductive health, there are serious deficiencies. For centuries no one really cared about what happened to women's bits after their boobs sagged and their baby-making capabilities dried up, and so the very real hormonal, physical, and mental side effects of menopause were put down to hysteria and nagging and it's really no wonder women didn't want to fuck their husbands anymore. But the thing is, while yes the changes in your body (and the world's attitudes to older women) can make arousal, libido, and desire lessen, the actual want for intimacy and sexual pleasure is still very much a priority for many women of a certain age. And with the newer and more specific medical areas focusing on women's health, especially hormonal and reproductive health, there are now many, many more very happy, sexy, horny and satisfied women entering their next phase in sexy times.

Old men can't get it up

Look first, fifty is not old, and secondly this is mostly bullshit. I mean yes, because of the changes in hormones and general physical wear and tear, some people might start to find their erections changing over time. They might take a bit longer to get as hard as they once did, or might not last as long - or end up lasting longer - and maybe you're out of breath a little quicker than you remember, and what happened to your knees?? But overall, if there aren't any underlying medical issues (please start getting your prostate regularly checked if you're not already, it can be done now with a non-invasive blood test) most men find that sex over fifty, while maybe a little slower and less acrobatic, is just as fun and enjoyable as it always was.

Old people don't find old people sexy

You can tell a young person came up with that because it's just dumb. Life, time, aging, all that stuff is relative. For example, when I was a teenager I was so madly in love with Edward Furlong from T2 I couldn't even deal... Recently I found an old poster while moving house and omg HE IS A CHILD and I felt a little uncomfortable in the memory. Similarly when I was around that same age Sean Connery in Indiana Jones was old and wrinkly and ewww... but when I watch it now... Mmm why hello, you silver fox, come discover my holy chasm! But in all seriousness, if you, as a fifty year old, are still attracted to the same people you were attracted to in your teens, you might want to reassess a few things.

Can't get pregnant, don't need a condom

False false omg so false. Did you know one of the fastest growing demographics to be infected with STIs are senior citizens in nursing homes? Now I know at fifty you're still a few years away from the old folks home, but you are still very, very capable of getting and spreading STIs. Especially those newly single, haven't-been-on-a-date-since-the-nineties-and-forgot-how-to-casual-sex people. The world is a bit different now. More aware. More, dare I say it, woke. 

Sex isn't just for the young, beautiful, and flexible, it’s for anyone who wants to have it (with consenting parties of course) and it's the responsibility of all involved to take care of their own sexual health, as well as protecting the health of those they sleep with. So put it on before you get it on.

Less sex means less love

As I've mentioned a number of times in this piece, getting older changes you, and for many people, especially those in long term relationships, that absolutely can include sex and the frequency in which you partake, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

It doesn't mean you and your partner have run your course, or that they don't find you attractive or arousing any more. Yes, massive sexual incompatibilities can be a problem in relationships and there are steps you can take to address those, but just slowing down on the physical sex a bit doesn't have any correlation to feelings and emotions and in fact can often show a very strong bond between people who find intimacy and connection in myriad ways other than the physical. 

Yes, life is different when you get older, but moving and growing with it is part of the beauty and wonder that surrounds our existence. Don't try and dig your heels in to a time and age you've outgrown, all that will do is stunt you. Evolve and thrive in your new chapter. You deserve it after all these years.

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  • GANG.BANG.BOYS.

    GANG.BANG.BOYS.

    More than a month ago

    I have been holding Gang Bangs for around 25 years and the age group of people wanting to attend has increased over the years. Although I do get a few couples in their 30s and 40s inquiring, almost all the keen players are over 50, mostly between 50 and 65. Where as 25 years ago, most interest was from people late 20s to late 30s. In my experience people who were teenagers in the late 60s and 70s are very open minded and sexual adventurous.

    • Brendanstime

      Brendanstime

      More than a month ago

      The 50 to 70 group would be the young ones from all those years ago and a few oldies now that wish we we there’ back then I would love to catch up with you guys one day

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  • Cecile1466

    Cecile1466

    More than a month ago

    My libido skyrocketed at menopause. But I must admit I enjoy more the company of young guys than old ones. The main reason being that most men do not look after themselves past 45 (or earlier). I am here to have fun. I feel like I am 30 in my body and I look after myself but older guys feel entitled because they are in my age bracket. Big potbellies, unkempt hair, poor oral hygiene, etc. do not to it for me. So please older guys, step up!!!

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  • Flyboi4u

    Flyboi4u

    More than a month ago

    I’m mid fifties and all I can say is that it’s never been so good. My imagination has evolved and women are more explorative.

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    Boldpromise

    More than a month ago

    I turn 52 this month and I'm hornier than I have ever been.I simply adore mature woman and really get turned on by a mature woman's body.

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  • Adell1

    Adell1

    More than a month ago

    I'm 57 and have never enjoyed sex more than in my 50s. I find that I am a woman who is blessed to be possibly more sexually responsive post menopause and I am so grateful for that. I love mature men (who to me means 45+ ). Everyone is comfortable with who they are, what they want, no inhibitions, open to discuss sex in a positive, fun and mature manner. It's fkn fantastic to be sexually aware and awake after 50. I look forward to many many more years of adventures.

    • SaphireTRANS76

      SaphireTRANS76

      More than a month ago

      Well written babe,You go girlfriend (woot woot).xox

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      Playman3333

      More than a month ago

      I’m in my 50s and I find older women couples r very horny and great to play with

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  • MsSquirts

    MsSquirts

    More than a month ago

    There is nothing for hotter for me as a "30 something" to have a hot session with a hot 50-60 year old man, woman or couple!!!! Probably more so now than when I was doing it in my late teens/early 20's.

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  • Langie12

    Langie12

    More than a month ago

    I'm well over 50 and having the best sex of my life. Some background. I've been in a ployam relationship with two ladies for over three years. Very open and honest relationships. They know all about the other but have never met, nor do they desire to do so. We all live alone but I'm usually with one or the other at least 4 or 5 nights a week and we alternate weekends. I average sex around 10 times a week.
    Sex for me is different from sex on my 20s, 30s and 40s. I have absolutely no issues with erections etc. I guess I'm lucky but I maintain a very healthy lifestyle. Sex is more sensual than it was when I was younger. With age comes knowledge and wisdom. Both my ladies are extremely orgasmic and appreciate the experience that ages brings, and the longevity of my erections - another benefit of age?
    What's the age old adage? If only I knew what I know now at 18? Probably doesn't matter, I'm more than happy with how I'm ageing.

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  • Wayno888

    Wayno888

    More than a month ago

    Not quite 50 but feeling like it some days, definitely spending alot more time with foreplay and enjoying playing more because of it, don't care about how we look/preform as much and just have fun.

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  • FuntimeCpl888

    FuntimeCpl888

    More than a month ago

    Grate Article, We still play ,when travelling around,mainly with mature ladies,(3somes)we all know what we want,all are front up,long foreplay,and lots of funtimes

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  • Pmdelight4u2

    Pmdelight4u2

    More than a month ago

    At 59, l still love sex and all that goes with it, lube is helpful but it is good to have handy anyway..
    Often find is surprising how many younger men prefer us older ladies, less hassle and we know what we like..

    Might take a bit longer, but not in a rush ,enjoy every moment.

    • looking70s

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      More than a month ago

      Agree 100% - I've always like and enjoyed mature ladies, at 53 I still enjoy and love sex, just a shame my partner doesn't

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  • santana2

    santana2

    More than a month ago

    We are in our70s and I find my wife very sexy and we meet other couples and play we are loving it never too old

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  • wife4men

    wife4men

    More than a month ago

    well it was for 1 of our 50th birthdays we had our first small group session, a few guys and a hotwife. that went so well now both 58 and now we do the group play stuff a few times a year and guys all ages involved, heaps of fun and its made our relaitionship and time together so much more stronger than we thought it would, we have had some guys not get as hard as they use to , they are or were smokers , something there? but usually all have a good fucking and a laugh, dont knock it try it ladies its a fun night

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  • OutdoorEd23

    OutdoorEd23

    More than a month ago

    Nearly 50 and have just as high a sex drive as I did in my 20’s and stay rock hard longer than I did back then.

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    Fuckudeep129

    More than a month ago

    Great article Eva, I'm 60 and still get horny, and find mature women sexy, i like all types and ages, i do believe in taking my time, and no wam bam thank you mam, i still haven't lost the urge

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