An essential guide for your sexy encounters

Maybe your fuck buddy is available for a booty call, you’ve lined up a sexy hookup with a hottie on Adult Match Maker or it’s date night in with your partner. Your housemate is away or your kids are having an overnight playdate so it’s time to get ready for your own sexy playdate. Our resident sexpert has come up with an essential guide to help make your date night a deliciously sexy encounter.

Le Boudoir 

Tonight it is not the bedroom. Tonight it is le boudoir. A sultry den of lust and passion, of inviting softness and desires fulfilled. 

Clean, fresh sheets and covers are a must, even if you just did the laundry last weekend. Make it fresh and new and inviting.

Make the lighting as sultry as you can. Not only will it create a sensual mood, it can also have the added benefit of making your room look slightly different to usual, and help to disguise or hide things like jackets slung over doors or cluttered dressers. 

Candlelight is one of my favourites for "mood lighting", but it can be a bit dangerous, especially on nights where you may get a little distracted, but you can totally get fake ones that look and flicker like real candles, and they're usually pretty cheap too. 

Speaking of mood setting, are you a music lover? Do you and your partner like to play along to porn? What sort of ambience do you like to get you really into the moment? 

Making sure your playlists are set, your speakers are Bluetoothed properly, and your porn is cued (and paid for) will help with the seamlessness and smoothness of the night's activities. 

The Body Beautiful 

When it comes to body hair, it doesn't really matter what your preferences are. Whether you shave or wax or let it all grow free, that's all very personal, but making sure it's at its best, in whatever form that takes, is definitely important for not only your own confidence and self esteem, but also making yourself gorgeous for your partner to enjoy.

Moisturisers and lotions (yes guys, you too) will do incredible, touchable things to clean fresh skin, while also making you smell like a brand new day at an expensive David Jones counter. 

Do the little things that you might not normally think of before regular sex with your partner like trimming and cleaning your fingernails, touching up your hair dye, plucking that annoying nose hair, things that make you feel a bit pampered and special, which will translate and transfer into all aspects of your night.

A Feast for your Senses 

Sex can be vigorous work so making sure you have sustenance is key. Of course making that food and drink match the deliciousness of your evening is also important and can even add to the experience. If you're doing the whole dinner date night maybe splurge on something delivered or prepare something special you might not normally cook. Nothing too heavy but something delicious and maybe a little bit fancy. 

If a meal isn't on the menu think of things like strawberries, grapes, and nuts. Nibbles of cheese and other delectable treats that can be eaten and shared easily with just your fingers.

Feeding each other chocolate and red wine. The saltiness of an oyster, slipping into your mouth. Teasing your lover with strawberries dipped in cream and kissing away the drops that stay on their lips...  Oh yes... Food is definitely a must have for a luscious sexual encounter.

All the Trimmings

Do you like to play with toys and other accessories? Have you checked their charge levels and usability lately? If your date night is the one night you get out your whizz-bang super duper toy box and isn't complete without that amazing sex swing you have to hide away for the majority of the year, it's probably a really good idea to check them all before the actual day of your date night. Making sure everything is charged and safe and ready to use will help stop any frustrating moments that can occur when accessories suddenly stop working, and if you have to make a quick trip to your local adult shop or battery supplier it's better to know a few days before it becomes a panic. 

Ladies, if you're a lingerie lover, make sure your favourite pieces are clean and fitting you how you like, and even if you're not a fancy outfit kinda person, having clean, fresh underwear with no holes or stains on them is vital.

Even if you've been with your partner for a long time, and even if you have a good, regular sex life with them, getting a "date night" right can renew and relight that fizzy tummy feeling of excitement that those first dates, those moments with someone you really, really like and can't wait to see, and get to know better, can produce. And if it’s a first time sexy hookup then making an effort will make a great first impression and guarantee a follow-up performance if you’re both keen. 

As always, remember consent must be continual and enthusiastic, and safe sex is the sexiest way to play.