Why do you want to be a cuckold?

A hotwife sit on the bed wearing lingerie whilst her cuckold partner looks on

While the term cuckolding dates back to around the 13th Century, for most people in today's world it's a pretty new and strange concept, and one that's surrounded by all the usual taboo and misinformation that sex, especially kinky, out-of-the-box sex, is.

Originally it referred to men who had adulterous wives who would run around behind their backs, but these days, while it's still sort of the same definition, there is far more consent (even if it's consensually non-consensual) involved by every person involved in the play. 

Generally a cuckold is a submissive male whose wife (the hotwife or cuckoldress) gets her sexual pleasure and satisfaction from another man (the bull). Quite often there is a humiliation aspect to the kink, with the cuck having to watch or be told later of his wife's exploits with another man. There are some D/s relationships involving the man directing his submissive wife and then there’s the recently coined term Vixen & Stag where the man proudly shares his wife and is not viewed as submissive but equal. 

So what is it all about? I mean sure the hotwife and the bull get their rocks off... But what's in it for the cuckold?

Ego Boost

You may think that being on the submissive end of a humiliation session where you don't even get your bits touched or acknowledged wouldn't come under the heading of "ego boost" but for many people who experience compersion (the opposite of jealousy) it is just that. The pride and pleasure they receive from watching their partner enjoying themselves is immense. If you also, on top of that, have a bit of a humiliation or submissive side, then adding that into the compersion mix can be mind-blowingly erotic, and sit in the fantasy pocket of your brain for many years to come.

Voyeuristic Intention 

Watching, listening, wanting, aching... Voyeurism is a huge kink or turn on for many people, even for some of us who don't really realise it's voyeurism (like watching porn or getting a fizzy tummy seeing a couple kiss in public) and for those who really do get off on watching other people cuckolding can be a great way to indulge that. The majority (but not all) of cuckolding fetishes rely on the cuckold actually being there, in the room, watching his wife get fucked by someone else. Often he is not allowed to touch, talk, or even be seen, but they both know he's there watching... and he knows they know he's there, and that submissive voyeurism can be a very powerful mindset indeed.

Tantalising Taboo

Oh how sexy is taboo. How deliciously debauched and naughty is the idea of being a little bit nasty. A little bit dirty. A little bit bad. For many men the general consensus by society on "how to be a real man" is thrust so heavily upon them that it hurts. While there is nothing inherently wrong with masculinity itself, there are often some very toxic elements to how it is performed or expected to be performed, and that can be incredibly damaging to all of us, regardless of gender. Being able to completely let that go and become the very opposite of what society expects of you can be not only completely freeing and liberating, it can also be sexy as fuck. Many, many cuckolds, while being incredibly important and "manly" in their business and/or social roles, prefer to let go and throw all of that out of the window when it comes to their sex lives and utterly immerse themselves in submission and humiliation. 

Safe Space

Kinks and fetishes can be a pretty scary and confusing thing to people, and I mean to the people who have them. Knowing the things that arouse you and turn you on are mostly looked at as weird, freaky, or downright terrifying to others can be a really hard thing to deal with, especially when wanting to form long-term, strong relationships with people. Having someone indulge those things for you, and explore those kinks with you, can be life-affirming and life-saving, and for so many men, having a fetish that leans towards the opposite end of the "masculinity scale" can be an incredibly tough barrier towards accepting and loving themselves, which is something we should all be able to do.

While sure, it's not for everyone, cuckolding really can be an amazingly powerful and liberating experience for many men and should be treated with the same respect as any kink or fetish. Just because it might not be your thing, doesn't mean it's wrong or bad, it just means it's not your thing. And for those of you who do love it, we hope your fantasies and kinks are always indulged... even if you are a worthless, small-dicked cuck (wink wink).

30 comments

  • Sh31sHav1ngFun
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    Sh31sHav1ngFun

    More than two weeks ago

    I loved the whole Cuckold play when i was with my partner.. Since we broke up i really miss it ! I used to that the biggest orgasms'

    I hope i have it again one day

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  • PeacheyTwo

    PeacheyTwo

    More than a month ago

    Nothing better than watching your wife being pleasured by another guy. Watching her suck his cock and letting him fuck her while you watch and wank.

    Reply
  • nudistsex

    nudistsex

    More than a month ago

    Used to love watching ex gf fuck others and then have the pleasure of licking her out afterwards

    Reply
  • JackNP

    JackNP

    More than a month ago

    Have loved my time as a bull. Nothing hotter than having a cucks wife praise my cock in front of him, and hearing her scream in pleasure. Huge turn on for everyone. For the cucks though, I think they’re very proud that their partner is so desirable to other men.

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    Pilgrrim54

    More than a month ago

    I’ve been a bull many times, and have also loved making lady friends deepest urges possible by arranging anonymous sex with willing strangers.

    Several times a year my current partner’s urge surfaces, and a fresh cock is needed.

    We like them to come and go.

    Our subsequent sex is explosive; I love her smell after she’s been fucked…she loves the wanton feeling…

    Reply
  • kinkybiguy4u

    kinkybiguy4u

    More than a month ago

    as a bi cuck "cumslut" i love watching my partner fuck someone else and then get the duty to clean her (and him if he wishes) they get their fun, i get mine .. everyone is happy and that's what it is all about

    • 3220couple

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      More than a month ago

      Love that as well.

    • glorycouple

      glorycouple

      More than a month ago

      Us too

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  • sbl2225

    sbl2225

    More than a month ago

    I have had the pleasure of "watching" my wife several times...
    It is a huge turn on to observe the guys face as she is orally pleasuring him before she in turn is being pleasured in all positions.... abandoning all her inhibitions go and enjoying herself!

    • Fuckudeep129

      Fuckudeep129

      More than a month ago

      Yes that is a good feeling, i have experienced that and it such a turn on

    • we_want_fun

      we_want_fun

      More than a month ago

      I think the hottest part is the look on her face when he first puts his cock in her

    • Genuineniceman

      Genuineniceman

      More than a month ago

      I agree.

    Reply
  • Hedotoday

    Hedotoday

    More than a month ago

    Have say I do agree with others here, never had even the slightest hint of jealousy in fact a lot of the time I think the male partner enjoys it the most.

    Reply
  • RazDazCpl

    RazDazCpl

    More than a month ago

    A great way of enjoying erotic opportunities for both of us…

    Reply
  • FuntimeCpl888

    FuntimeCpl888

    More than a month ago

    I am also a Female ,who
    Just enjoys watching my hubby playing with another fem turns me on,sitting back wine in hand,,and of course I join in...

    • jodesNskipp

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      More than a month ago

      Couldn’t agree more hun, love watching my hubby with another fem, it’s a real turn on, i masturbate whilst watching them then all of us play and enjoy sexy time. And I love and appreciate an experienced good looking fem

    Reply
  • 1DarkBull

    1DarkBull

    More than a month ago

    Not to mention the cuck's emotional roller-coaster ride.

    Caught and torn between contrasting feelings: excitement Vs. sick to the stomach; fear (of losing the loved one to another) Vs. relief (when parter returns home).

    I love this.

    • triXXXi66

      triXXXi66

      More than a month ago

      So you like making other men feel like that?

    • Zamboon

      Zamboon

      More than a month ago

      Absolutely - rub their faces in it - and I love it being done to me as well

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  • omnicplmelb

    omnicplmelb

    More than a month ago

    Nice article. For us, it’s about spicing things up, something so taboo and naughty.

    Two is company, three is amazing!

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    jenoo1

    More than a month ago

    Seeing your partner cross so many social barriers to enjoy pleasure, and please the bull and cuck, is liberating, thrilling and incredibly intimate.

    Reply
  • Fuckudeep129

    Fuckudeep129

    More than a month ago

    i don't mind being with a couple, where he cucks

    Reply
  • PeachyTwo

    PeachyTwo

    More than a month ago

    My husband loves it.
    He wants me to enjoy myself...he loves to watch and wank.
    We both enjoy with no jealousy.

    • DLou77

      DLou77

      More than a month ago

      Yeah while a do like fucking strangers myself, we both find the dirty slut aspect of her being fucked by random guys way more erotic . I get off watching “live porn” starring the girl I’m married to

    • PeachyTwo

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      More than a month ago

      Absolutely !

    Reply
  • LODAreturns

    LODAreturns

    More than a month ago

    Hi All, interesting article regarding the CUCKLOAD male. What about the FEMALE CUCK (what I am) most don't understand a FEMALE can enjoy the CUCK style too.

    • DV8Grrl

      DV8Grrl

      More than a month ago

      Agree. Love just watching my Mr with another woman. No participation required.

    • 2CasualFriends

      2CasualFriends

      More than a month ago

      Also agree. The fact that Mrs loves to watch Mr with another girl is what got us here in the first place (and still drives Mrs wild). I wonder if this is more common than is represented?

    • AMM.Editor

      AMM.Editor

      More than a month ago

      @2CasualFriends you only have to do a search on members Looking for one of the Hotwife options or have it listed under their Sexual Interests. The growth in this relationship dynamic is one of the reasons we added it as a separate Looking for option.

    • DeliciousEva

      DeliciousEva

      More than a month ago

      Hi Loda,
      I didn't mention them because that's a whole other article.
      The term "cuckold" is specifically reserved for men and that's what this piece was on. No one was left out or forgotten. Just like if I write about penises doesn't mean I'm deliberately not writing about vaginas.
      A female cuck is referred to as a cuckquean, and we'll get to them at some stage too.
      Cheers for you comments!

    Reply
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