How do you control a Gag Reflex?

While it might look like it in porn, not all women enjoy gagging on a big, fat cock, and while there is definitely sensuality and arousal that comes from pleasuring your lover orally, so often it can be ruined by that eye-watering, tummy-churning moment where you're sure you're about to lose your lunch all over his balls.

Seriously there's nothing worse than having your horniness interrupted by nausea and it can be so bad and sensitive in some people it can turn them off the act altogether!

But don't panic! All is not lost. There are ways you can help train that reflex so that it becomes a lot easier and a far more pleasant experience for everyone involved.

Before I go on, though, it's important to note that your gag reflex, while unpleasant, is there for a reason and that reason is mostly to keep you alive, so don't hate on it too much. Just be aware that it's absolutely normal and natural and there's literally nothing wrong with you if you can't deep throat like a porn star, nor is there anything wrong with you if you don't want to learn how to do it either.

Practice Makes Perfect

It sounds simplistic, and really, for many people that's all it really takes. Practice and time to get used to it and the feelings you get from it, and working out in your own head and time what works and doesn't work. If you would prefer to practice on your own you can try and test your gag reflex with your fingers. Try and get it to that just-before point and hold it and breathe slowly and steadily through your nose. And then do it again, going a little deeper each time. It's not going to happen overnight, but it won't take long for your body to re-learn it's triggers.

Slow, Wide, and Flat

This was a tip I once got from a porn star I worked with at a magazine. She was a deep throat queen and I asked her once how she did it and she said "Keep your mouth open, wide but loose, and keep your tongue low and flat." She said a lot of people would try and loosen their throat muscles but forget about the mouth and tongue muscles, which, when tensed up, were just as sensitive to the gag trigger as the throat. I have to say I've put it into practice and it really does help lower the risk of gagging.

Fake It Til You Make It

Probably the best advice I ever got about playing with penises came from an old 1980s Penthouse magazine I found under a tree in a park when I was a teenager. It basically said "For the best hand jobs use your mouth and for the best blow jobs use your hands" and omg it changed my life. Getting your hands all lubey and slippery to grip the bottom of his shaft as your mouth takes it as far as you feel comfortable with can simulate that deep throat feeling for him without ever going near your spew spot. Changing the motion of your fingers and tongue to complement each other... Oh yeah. It's hot as fuck for all involved and totally won't make your mascara run.

The Super Cheat

While I will never stop warning about the dangers of using numbing sprays and creams on your butthole for anal sex I have no issue with those who like to use them for oral sex. Basically it's like that spray you get at the chemist to help ease the pain of a sore throat (although these days a lot of sex toy companies make it too and you can get it in any sex shop) and it works as a topical treatment that numbs the surface area of where it's sprayed. I wouldn't recommend using it if your oral sex is a little rougher than usual as you can damage the area and not realise it, but for the most part it's perfectly safe to use for your deep-throating needs.

Remember everyone is different and our bodies all react differently so don't be discouraged if one thing doesn't work for you. Humans have an uncanny knack of solving problems and if there's a will, we can be guaranteed to find a way.

What are some of your deep-throating tips? We'd love to hear in the comments.