How to heat things up in the bedroom with Ice Cubes


Sex is all about getting hot and sweaty but that's exactly why sensation play with ice cubes can be so much fun!

Think back to Kim Bassinger blindfolded and naked in 9 1/2 weeks as an ice cube teases her mouth, her nipple, her ... well I think you get the picture.

When people think of temperature play they usually focus on warmth but alternating hot and cold stimulus fires the neuroreceptors underneath the skin sending messages to your brain's pleasure centre.

And as long as you've got a fridge you've got a steady supply of icy little cubes to experiment with.

The obvious options involve sliding the ice cube over your partner's body but wait ...there's more! Here are 6 ways you can incorporate ice or temperature play into your foreplay.

1. Frosty Foreplay

Use an ice cube to trace a chilly path over your partner's body and then alternate with licks and hot exhalations of breathe. You can either have the ice cube in your hand or hold it in your mouth. Avoid any direct genital contact at first and, as you build arousal, those areas will become even more sensitive because of the lack of touch. Try blindfolding your partner to heighten their senses even more. 

2. Sensation Play

Imagine your partner's bottom all warm and pink from a spanking.  Now grab that ice cube and cool things down. The ice will intensify all the sensitivity you've created.This also works extremely well if you've used a Wartenberg pinwheel [a personal favourite] for a little sensation play. The interchange of hot and cold sensations will have your partner begging for more. 

3. Going down on her

When you're going down on her you can alternate with the ice cube and your mouth against her clitoris. Warning guys, don't leave the ice cube on her clitoris for too long as for most women it can be quite intense. And don't just focus on her genitals. Find her erogenous zones for a deliciously chilly foreplay session. Watch her reactions as you slide the ice cube along her inner wrist, behind her knees, inner thighs, soles of her feet and the back of her neck just under the hairline.

4. Going down on him

Begin by focussing on his penis without the ice cube until he's hard then either start again with a slightly melted ice cube in your mouth or just use your chilled tongue on the tip of his penis. The change in temperature will definitely curl his toes. Another option is to place 2 ice cubes in your mouth while you take his penis into your mouth and suck.  The double whammy sensation of the ice rolling around in your mouth will have him begging you for more. And for something a little different crush some ice cubes and indulge in a slushie BJ. 

You can also have your partner lie on his back, rest his penis back against his lower stomach and place the ice cube under his scrotum as you tease with slow circular motions as you move it towards the base of his penis. 

5. Incorporating a Glass Dildo

Glass dildos are not only beautiful to look at but unlike other materials they can be heated up or cooled down for temperature variation. And varying the temperature of a glass dildo can definitely intensify your orgasm! You can cool a glass dildo in a bowl of iced water or the fridge or freezer for up to 20mins depending on the intensity of sensation you want. Always check the temperature on your forearm and remove any icy bits before you begin play.

6. Sexy Massage

There are lots of warming massage oils and gels on the market designed to heat up passion in the bedroom. Start with a more traditional massage style and make sure you focus on all the non-genital areas with gliding, stroking and circling motions. When your partner is feeling warm and relaxed you can incorporate gliding the ice cube over their body.  Always check the product label to make sure the massage product is safe to use on genitals. 

And some lubes and arousal gels also provide the sensation of warmth or cool so they're worth checking out.

With some imagination and a willing partner trying some of these techniques will definitely have your partner squirming and you might be surprised how a little ice cube can really heat things up!


  • DeliciousDuo73
    More than a month ago

    I used ice cubes over my partners body, around his cock his balls and then I put the ice in my mouth and started sucking his cock. It was very intense for him and he really enjoyed me doing it, as I enjoyed doing it to him.

  • LadyDragon Photo
    More than a month ago

    My 'party trick' is to have (usually, because I'm normally drinking it) a mouthful of red wine prior to taking his cock in my mouth - last time I tried liqueur - and it seems to cause a somewhat different sensation! Good for both. I must try Cointreau with crushed ice... and hope he has no abrasions! ;-)
    Just be careful of red wine on white sheets...

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Yes. Cairnes is nice this time of year .

  • joncam Photo
    More than a month ago

    A handful of crushed ice on balls as he's coming is AMAZING!

  • Zamboon Photo
    More than a month ago

    Wow I once had a lady in a kind of Dom play put ice cubes in my arse - they were really large blocks and had ridges on which made it painful as well - she went straight for the ass so it was no fun at all - I stopped her and left - a beer and a pie was a better option...

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      Freaky chicks gonna freaky...
      I once had a girl that wanted to use the ice cube tray on me. That's when I knew I had a keeper.

  • quivertouch99
    More than a month ago

    There was also what Marlon Brando had done to him with an ice cube in the movie Last Tango in Paris.
    I have used an ice cube on a lady whilst performing cunnilingus and it has resulted in her experiencing a truly mind blowing orgasm. The secret is to take lots of time and allow her to relax and focus on the different sensations of hot and cold. Keep the ice cube moving and only slide it across the clitoris for a second or two and them warm the area again with the tongue. After 10 or 15 minutes of this she will be out of control and writhing.
    Definitely recommended for those willing to experiment.

  • jenoo1
    More than a month ago

    Great blog post.
    FYI Mints in the mouth just before oral is also great. Avoid chillies though ;) hehehe

    • Sassyass13
      More than a month ago

      Fruit timgles or sherbet do the trick too

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      A mate swears by the mint blowjob. It's on my to-do list. As for chillies, I once cooked with them and got into it with my gf without washing my hands. The heat was actually perfect, if unexpected, but we both decided it was a lucky accident and due to the time it lingered it was a BAD idea to attempt to replicate on purpose.
      Don't try this at home kids.

  • heretoplay13
    More than a month ago

    A frozen glass dildo is very worth trying

    • Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      I know what I would do to anyone who tried a frozen glass dildo on me - and it wouldn't be pretty!

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      its nothing painful, just a cool change. Also microwave the glass dildo for a warm feeling....its nothing dangerous or painful.

    • Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      I guess that the guys I know don't have any need for a dildo - hot or cold!

    • Account Closed
      More than a month ago

      A frozen water dildo is even better.
      Best to tie her down first though.

  • Leolady727
    More than a month ago

    Brrrrrr - not for me!

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