Think of erogenous zones like the keys on a piano. If you only hit one or two, you can make a melody, but there are plenty more keys to play, and a whole songbook of possibilities waiting for you when you do.
We already know the joys of the penis, the scrotum, the clitoris and the breasts, but humans have so many hot spots that we’re practically walking, talking erogenous zones just waiting to be licked, flicked, touched, sucked, caressed and gently blown on.
Orgasm is the build up and release of sexual tension, so the more tension you build up during foreplay, the greater the orgasmic release. Here are some often ignored but unbelievably sensual spots to try.
Ever wondered why the massage from the hairdresser just feels so damned good? This zone is perfect for men or women and doesn’t take any real skill or practice at all.
A little gentle hair tugging can be a turn on for both sexes. And if your female partner seems really into it (and her hair is long enough), you can give her ponytail a tug while taking her from behind.
Then there’s massage, which is just about guaranteed way to start steaming things up. Use your fingers and thumbs to apply pressure in slow circles from the hairline to the nape of the neck. Extra for experts: Whisper something sexy in their ear while you’re at it.
The Lower Stomach
So close, yet so far.
Pretty much anywhere near those serious hot spots is enough of a tease to get anyone worked up, and the lower stomach is one of them. This area of skin is not often singled out to be touched, but we highly recommend it.
Start at his belly button and work your hands south, suggests Ian Kerner PhD, a NYC sexpert and the author of many books, including She Comes First . “The area of the abdomen between the navel and pelvis is a fun area to tantalize, and as blood flows to the pelvis and sexual tension gathers, it’s a good area to simulate. By going from genitals to other areas and then back again you will develop sexual tension throughout the body.”
Sounds like a great excuse to explore that gloriously soft patch before you head all the way down.
They’re good for more than listening, and they’re certainly good for more than keeping your sunglasses up. The ears might even become your new favourite erogenous zone.
Whether it’s running your thumb slowly up and down the side, gently using two fingers to tug at the lobe, or getting in there and performing those actions with your lips and teeth, these caresses can light up the bundles of nerve endings around the ears and turn your partner on in ways you never thought possible.
The skin around the neck can be quite delicate and extremely sensitive to touch, and who doesn’t love a good bit of neck kissing?
Sadly, this erogenous spot often sees only a little action before a partner moves on to other areas. Next time, give that neck some TLC with soft kisses, playful nips and gentle stroking - particularly around the nape at the back.
One of the best things about this erogenous zone is that it’s accessible from all angles, so you can include it in all sorts of foreplay.
Of course, there’s nothing stopping you from sharing the love around several zones at once. Just like playing a piano, your partner will be so grateful you have two hands to work your magic.