The Swinging Lifestyle for the over 50s


Life isn’t over when you hit your 50’s, 60’s or 70’s and in fact, for some it’s just beginning!  The kids have all grown up and left home (in your 50’s or earlier if you’re lucky), the mortgage is paid off or close and it’s time to really enjoy everything life has left to offer you while you can, right?

Right!  I certainly don’t plan to be retreating in retirement.

While it’s true that the bulk of the swinging lifestyle is made up of the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s, there are still events and options for the over 50’s to start with or just enjoy.

Some events such as Saints and Sinners in Melbourne doesn’t have an age limit and is great for those who are keen to enjoy dressing up, dancing, socialising and mixing or flirting with a bunch of swingers of all ages. There are some clubs in the bigger cities that also don’t have age limits and you can check them out in our Event section. But one of the best ways to meet other older generation, open-minded, free-spirited, fun and adventurous types is to connect online using sites like Adult Match Maker.  

Once you make a few new friends you can form your own swinging friendship group and enjoy more intimate fun rather than having to frequent clubs that have much younger crowds.   To be honest, younger generations are generally interested and attracted to people who are closer to their age, not always but unfortunately true. It’s a fact of life that as we age we don’t tend to look as trim, taut and terrific as we did in our 20’s, although I’m pretty sure there are some that get better with age!  I certainly know many become less inhibited as they get older and that’s what makes them more fun.  Attractiveness becomes more than just about looks and that’s one beautiful thing I learned by being in the swinging lifestyle.

Thankfully we’re also in the age of information and self-expression so swinging itself isn’t such a taboo activity, making it more acceptable and easier to find like-minded people no matter what age you are. Due to it’s popularity, there are now heaps of other options like Swingers cruises and holiday destinations that allow for, and/or encourage, swinging fun between those who are open-minded and playful.  

Some of the more famous destinations are Desire Resorts or Temptation which are both located in Mexico.  It doesn’t take much to do a Google search to find other holiday destinations where you can meet new potential playmates. Once you have a nice little Rolodex of swinging friends, they introduce you to others who then share holiday destinations and fun events they’ve been to, and off you go! 

One thing that is a little different to the younger swingers is that older couples aren’t as sexually focused; it’s not unusual for them to have less of a need to just focus on having sexual encounters such as orgies, threesomes, swaps and similar (although there are some of those people too).  In the older swingers crowd it’s definitely less wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am and more about socialising, flirting, and enjoying open-minded friendships that last longer than a night or two.  Many older couples, and even couples who have been in the lifestyle for a while, enjoy the dating and hanging out aspect of swinging.  While we do see this a lot in the younger generations, it is a bit more common in the older ones.

If you are new to the swinging lifestyle and just entering into it now, woohoo!  My hat goes off to you because it’s never too late to let loose and enjoy new things.  My suggestion is to take your time (yes you still have plenty), get very clear with your partner about what’s on your bucket list of things you want to experience, be clear about what you don’t want to do and have patience.  Keep in mind that finding your ideal playmates may still take some time.  Even younger swingers can take a while to find the right playmates so it’s not just because of your age.  

So it doesn’t matter what your age is, whether you’ve been swinging for a while or just discovered this new wonderland, the swinging lifestyle is for all!  It certainly can add a high level of spice and adventure to a long-term relationship, rejuvenate one’s soul and zest for life and personally I think everyone should get an opportunity to enjoy anything that can do that and bring a couple together.


  • FancyTicklers Photo
    More than a month ago

    Funnily enough, one of my least favorite things about Adult Matchmaker is the focus on age.

    Thinking back to my 20s, some of the most amazing sexual encounters I had were with people that I later found out were 20 or 30 years older than me..... I didn't know at the time... I'd just gone with their level of energy and attractiveness...... yet, of course, being in my 20s if I'd known they were in their 40s or 50s I might have turned away.

    I'm incredibly fortunate to have a partner who genuinely looks 15 years younger than her age. On this site, she could easily match it with the 20 somethings..... expect that AMM makes age one of the defining things about you!! More's the pity.

  • Mussypair Photo
    More than a month ago

    Yes and as we all get older. It dosnt mean we no longer enjoy making love or having a sexual romp with others. We us over 50 still know how to turn on our partners and after all there is more to the act of love making then just penetration. Personaly i love seeing the wife pleasured by guys.

    More than a month ago

    I've had a few threesomes and foursomes over the past 20+ years.
    The first when I was just under 30. This couple were in their mid to late 50's and we had awesome fun.Since then, with the exception of one couple who were about 5 yrs younger than me, they have all been older than me. In their 50s and 60s. Same with many single women - 50+ Seems to me that as people mature, they relax more and are easier to get along with. Also much more open to experimentation. "Times running out - lets play" is probably the thought process. Don't underestimate the more mature people out there -PLENTY of life left in them, and lots of fun to be had!

  • itsalwaysfun
    More than a month ago

    Thank god for intelligent thinking people like Chantelle and the four members whose great comments are much appreciated by those of us who are a little older. Contrary to popular opinion we are not all dead from the waist down simply because we are over sixty,seventy or eighty. The fact remains we are all sexual beings till the day we die. So how beautiful is it that we can still enjoy those wickedly deliciously beautiful intimate times with friends! I wish we had a dedicated web site for those say 55 to whatever. Many of our friends are Widows(mostly) and after a few wines often say they would love to have an intimate friendship. As Chantelle says with older folk it is much less likely to be a slam bam affair !!! But still just as much fun....respect being the key. James B

  • DiGe101
    More than a month ago

    While we generally love Chantelle's blogs this one misses the mark a little. We over 50's are still very keen on getting into the action. We are perhaps not in such a rush to hookup with those not suited and have a more laidback approach. We find some younger couples we have met at 'parties are too focused on body image. Embrace retirement it is great.

    • TandV2003 Photo
      More than a month ago

      Embrace indeed..
      Such better lovers now, learnt how to have real fun..

      XX Vee & T

  • Leolady727
    More than a month ago

    I just wish that more couples in this age group would not be so "ageist" when they seek single women!

    • TandV2003 Photo
      More than a month ago

      Your so so right...
      Its just amazing how good life, sex and fun is at our age... Just wonderful..
      Vee and Tony

    • Leolady727
      More than a month ago

      TandV - your profile proves what I'm saying - your upper age limit is 55!

    • sugarbuns Photo
      More than a month ago

      Quite so! We have a lower limit but not an upper one! And older swingers understand what they're there for and are themselves more accepting of others' foibles.

  • lotus1389
    More than a month ago

    We have found over the last 10 years of swinging.,things have changed for us from great parties each moth with ratio of m to F 5-1 to more relaxed areas and dinner parties for 2-6 couples & closer understanding of each other in friendships.
    All of these stages have been interesting in their own way, with some friends we've known for over 25 years plus other friendships growing in the last several years.
    These changes in the social scene of life keep us all younger in spirit, outlook, and of an open mind to life in general.

    • sbl2225 Photo
      More than a month ago

      My wife and I agree with you completely...have found over the years couples like us are decreasing. Like you guys we love to cruise here and overseas,and hope one time, to meet another like minded couple on a cruise, it would be wonderful........

  • swingingnomads
    More than a month ago

    We started swinging in 1970's. Most of Chantelle's comments are factual except we have friends still swinging in their 80's. True the social side takes equal status to the sexual side for us swinging seniors. The other thing that she did not mention is that youngsters like to have sex first and then go party, while for us senior swingers, swinging tends to happen later in the night.

    • allinmymind
      More than a month ago

      You mean like the traditional have sex in bed late at night thing?

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