How to Make a Woman Squirt
Eva Sless
on 10 August 2023
34 comments
Okay, so before we begin I am going to nip the comment section in the bud.
Yes. We know some of you think female ejaculate is purely urine.
Yes. We know you've read so and so study that claims one thing or another. We've read it too.
Yes, we also read the other study that said the opposite!
We also know a study is not truly a scientific study when it uses less than a thousand participants...
And we also know, from experience, knowledge, having the bits, feeling, touching, and tasting the stuff that comes from the bits, that female ejaculate is a lot more than just urine, and squirting is a very different experience and sensation than urination.
So yes.
We get it.
Thank you for your input...
Now let's begin.
What Is Female Ejaculation?
Basically, female ejaculation, or squirting as it is most commonly referred to, is exactly what it sounds like. A rush or squirt of liquid from the vaginal area that is usually accompanied by, or brought on by, an orgasm.
It is thought to originate in an area of the body called the Skene's glands, which are situated near the urethra and bladder, and it is most commonly thought that these glands swell and fill up with certain fluids when aroused; a sort of blend of things that includes very similar ingredients to male ejaculate (no sperm obviously) including prostate-like enzymes, as well as other components like urea and creatinine (found in urine, yes, but not its sole ingredients).
The fluid itself is usually a sort of clear yet milky liquid (it will vary in person to person, and from squirt to squirt), with slight viscosity, and an often sweet smell and taste.
So How Does Squirting Happen?
While a lot of the actual mechanics of squirting are a bit of a mystery, that's mostly because science has long been pretty uninterested in the sexual pleasure of women, but that is changing and we are starting to learn a lot more about it. From the few small studies that have been done, and the tireless amateur studies millions of people around the world have engaged in, it would seem that when aroused, the Skene's glands fill with this ejaculate liquid, and as the pressure of manipulation and orgasm build up, the liquid is released in a fast and furious gush. Often creating rather a lot of mess, and sometimes surprise and shock if never experienced before.
Breaking the Damn Wall
Something that is really important to note is that for some people squirting just isn't going to happen, and for others it can happen too fast or too often for them to enjoy. Like all sex and sexual play, it is individual, subjective, and absolutely different for each person, and again, each experience, so please don't get too caught up in the idea of this (or anything really) being the be all and end all of pleasure.
Yes, it's fun to give it a go and see what your body can do and feel, but don't let the end result get in the way of the journey you take to get there. You never know what cool stuff you might miss if you're too focused on the end.
With that being said here are some of the best tips and tricks we've come across (pun possibly intended) that can help get those juices flowing and those geysers exploding.
Get To Know Your G-Spot
Seriously. If you've not really explored the inside bits of your vagina it's time to change that. Don’t feel like you're alone, though. It's not that uncommon at all as so many women find penetration secondary to clitoral stimulation, and so don't masturbate internally, but now it's time to give it a go and find your G-spot.
You can do it alone or with a partner's help, but I always think with almost all sex stuff it's often best to work it out on your own first, as then you can better guide someone else to help you out.... But regardless of how or who, the key is to explore and find that spot inside...
It's usually about two to three inches inside the front wall (sort of around the belly button area but can be higher or lower) and the skin feels slightly rougher or firmer than the rest of the vaginal wall, but it can be really subtle so it's important to also concentrate on how it feels sensation wise too.
Curl your fingers in a come-hither motion and push them in and out towards the front/belly button area.
It can feel a little interesting and weird, maybe like you need to pee or maybe like your clitoris is being touched from behind (newsflash it actually is!) and can be a little awkward and tiring to maintain the position and pressure... But there's help!
G-spot Specific Toys
You've seen them. Sex toys that are shaped a bit like a hook, with a large curled in knob at the top and a handle to hold onto. These are toys designed especially for your G-spot, and are your BFF in the learning to squirt game. The best ones are solid and heavy (like the amazing njoy wand) and give you a good angle, grip, and pressure, without having to contort your body too much.
Change Your Position
While many women say they find it easiest to squirt when they are lying on their backs, that isn't necessarily the same for all of us. If you're finding it isn't really doing it for you, see if changing your position makes any difference. Just raising your hips with pillows can be helpful, and one friend of mine swears it's the best when she is sitting up in a high backed chair. Doggy style is also an option but isn't as easy to manipulate solo, but really whatever works for you is the best way to do it.
Under Pressure
While the clitoris really loves vibration and usually softer manipulation, the G-spot is a different beast and gentle softness just won’t cut it. Pressure, and super hard and fast movement are the key to getting this little spot moving and it can be quite tiring and exhausting working it all out. It is worth it though!
It Feels Like Pee but IT ISN'T PEE!
This is the bit that can get confusing, and can convince many people that squirting is just an unfortunate bed wetting accident that we've just renamed as something else to feel better about. It isn't... But the build up, the pressure, the way it all feels, really can feel like you're about to urinate, and that's what stops many people from following through.
It isn't pee. It really, really isn't. But it IS building pressure and liquid in those glands right near the urethra and bladder. And so that sensation can be quite familiar, and quite distracting.
This is another reason I suggest trying it out alone before adding another person into the mix, because you're going to be far more relaxed and less worried about the whole pee thing if you're on your own.
Just Relax and Let Go
I'm sorry in advance, but you're probably going to find this another really confusing bit of advice because, when it comes to it, the very last thing you think you can do in that moment is relax.
Your body feels tense. Your vaginal and stomach muscles are tense. Your brain feels tense.
But as that tension and sensation builds and builds, this is when it's time to start letting go.
Also, contradictory to almost everything I've said before, this is actually where a partner can really come into play. Keeping that pressure and rhythm going while you start to relax and feel that sensation build. It can also be really helpful to have them put a small bit of pressure on the outside (on your belly) to help create that perfect release from the area.
Always Know Where Your Towel Is
Quite similarly to men, the actual volume of ejaculate is only around a teaspoon of liquid, but all the other stuff that gets mixed in (yes, sigh, even a little bit of urine) makes it quite the flood, and can absolutely soak through a doona and sheet through to a mattress, so please be aware of that. This is where a moisture proof blanket or throw you can put down can be very handy.
It can also come out with quite a lot of force, so if someone is down there helping the situation out, they may cop a faceful, and it's probably polite to give them a warning.
Be sure to drink plenty of water too, as it can be very dehydrating losing that much liquid in one go.
All in all squirting is a fun, sexy, exciting thing to try, and even of you can't quite get it, like I said before, the experience and experimentation of working it all out can be just as fun as the act itself.
Good luck, and happy squirting my friends!
34 comments
AaliaTwinkTwonk
More than a month agoThe experience is a wonderful one as are many sexual escapades. I first experienced squirting only the once as a young woman while having a fiddle. Fast forward 20 years to a partner who could and yep, it was on the table from then on (or the floor, in the shower or the ... ). Totally agree with the advice to 'let go & relax' as it does feel like you're about to pee....if you are worried about this, go pee, then try again safe in the knowledge that your bladder is empty. A recent long term partner with unusually long fingers could have me going for hours - interestingly he could feel the mystery glands fill and knew when the dam was about to burst. Angle, depth, clitoral stimulation...the come hither gesture .... a combination of.....give it a try, persist a little to learn your responses and you just never know.....
ReplyKinkyGirl101
More than a month agoThanks again for another great article Eva. I always love reading the comments on your articles as it often helps you form an opinion of the person behind the profile. It's a far greater insight than reading a crafted profile blurb. People tend to show their true selves without realising.
ReplyMsBlue10
More than a month agoGreat article. Well written. I appreciate not only the practical tips but calling out the myths. Thank you. My partner is the first to really make this happen for me and now its non stop. But i havent cracked the solo. So thank you for the inspiration and information.
ReplyOzandViet
More than a month agoI've only ever squirted once and that was after a lot of vibrator and oral sex and it was a sensation that was so enjoyable. But unfortunately never have enjoyed again, but I have tried but when I think about it I suppose it'll never happen. So to me it's something that has to come natural and not try and force it and so hopefully one day I'll reach those heights again when I'm not expecting it.
ReplyAdell1
More than a month agoI don't care what it is, but the sensation of squirting is glorious and those who know how to get you on a roll, truly love it to soak them (you know who you are boys). Great fun! But agree, it's not the be-all and end-all of sex. Some men lose their mind when you tell them you squirt. I get it, they feel like they've achieved something akin to finding the Holy Grail when you squirt with them.... but can they give you deep vaginal orgasms, can they give you a full body orgasm, can they keep you cuming and cuming until you are close to passing out. They are the real gems, just sayin. And whoever invented Splash Blankets, THANK YOU.
ReplyLouiseS
More than a month agoSquirting is like the politics of sex the topic brings out the 'experts' (without vaginas), most have an opinion and many disagree. This is My opinion/ experience- If I pee on a towel/ playmat- it smells like pee, if I squirt on one it doesn't- occasionally it'll smell slightly sweet but usually it has nil odour. I don't always cum when I squirt nor do I always squirt when I cum but squirting is always pleasurable regardless. I often can't control/ stop myself from squirting- especially if it comes from internal stimulation it's gonna happen' ready or not. But please note not everyone squirts and not everyone who squirts does so everytime they play. Stop the focusing on making a woman squirt- especially with new partners- we're not a project to be worked on- let's both just focus on mutual pleasure if it happens, it happens but making that your only goal can be a turn off. Let's just have fun and do so on a play mat just in case😉
ReplyCleom80
More than a month agoSuch a good read.
ReplyI remember the first time I squirted. I didn't know what was happening. I was young and only been with my husband. I remember once stopping because I thought I was going to pee. I wish I had read this 20 something years ago.
Then fast forward 20 something years and hubby and I are now in open relationship. I've only met one man who has got me to squirt and not just once multiple times. At least this time I knew what it was and it was amazing. He was amazing just knew exactly what to do boom squirt bed standing, shower you name it he made me squirt.
I am one who orgasmes with penetrative sex but worked out its a combination of penetrative and my clit rubbing.
WndringMinstrel
More than a month agoEver since I can remember I have had difficulty orgasming with a partner but it is easy alone. Nevertheless I love all aspects of sex including a good gang bang. I was at a party one night, on my back being pleasured by a gentleman while surrounded by six others. The guy between my legs was alternating between fucking me very well indeed and rubbing the head of his cock up and down over my pussy. Suddenly I felt the most intense pressure followed by a 'rush' to the tunes of men moaning as all of us were sprayed with sweet clear liquid. I never believed I could squirt but apparently I can!!
ReplyYrthrillandmine
More than a month agoOn the few occasions it has been part of my experience, I have found it utterly thrilling. Men are visual creatures, so if a woman ejaculates and I get to see it it is just mind blowingly good.
ReplyMy experiences generally have followed the same path. She's usually (pretty much always) had a clitoral orgasm first, mainly through oral. Once that orgasm subsides enough to continue, stimulation of her G with fingers, (I guess the right shaped toys would work fine too) plus lots of vulva play, plus some intermittent clitoral stimulation will usually provide the desired result. Like all good things, it takes patience, passion and shared enjoyment for it to be really great. Timing, too. Your fingers or toy need to be out of the way when she lets go.
If she has asked, knows what's coming or wants to explore it, I love to make it happen. I'll happily let her squirt wherever on me she wants. I love the sensation of it on my face & in my mouth. I also love to watch. Never fails to get me aroused again if I've already come. And penetrative sex after squirting is joyous. Delicious feeling of both of us being wet with her ejaculate. Towels or something a must unless you're ready to change the bed immediately. Something I'd always like to discuss before attempting, because she has to be willing for you to really put the effort in, and she's going to be totally exposed to you when you do.
Love it. More please.
Another great article, thanks.
looking70s
More than a month agoTotally love it when a lady squirts, then cums again and squirts more, only better is when its all over your face. such a total turn on
Replyjohnno040555
More than a month agoMy GF nearly drowns me, and it isn't pee! we always have a towel in the right spot!
Replyerynne
More than a month agoI used to think chics that squirted weren't really squirting but peeing I'm the bed... until I squirted myself for the first time!!
ReplyTotally different sensation to actually urinating (for me anyway) but the build up can feel like you all of sudden have to pee.. But it smells different and tastes sweet and feels amazing so who cares where it comes from really!!
badthoughts63
More than a month agoUrine or girl cum….. doesn’t matter. I love tasting both. Bring it on girls!
ReplyGANG.BANG.BOYS.
More than a month agoRegardless of the amount of time you spent making sure no one was allowed to have an opinion that disagrees with you, there is no where in the human body that can possibly hold enough fluid to explain female squirting except the bladder. Rather than fantasise about where it comes from, people just need to except it and enjoy it if it happens. So yes we get it, you can not get your mind around urine being squirted into your mouth, but don't expect people who have experienced it hundreds of times including actually seeing it coming out to go along with your fantasies and delusions.
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ReplyKinkyGirl101
More than a month agoThere's nothing women love more than comments from someone who doesn't own a vagina.
GANG.BANG.BOYS.
More than a month agoWhen you have made as many of them squirt and cum as I have I might think your opinion is worth something
KinkyGirl101
More than a month agoIf you owned a vagina I might think your opinion was worth something
swimandswing49
More than a month agoIf you have made as many women squirt as you claim, then you would have noticed that she can saturate a sheet or bed and it doesn't smell. Hours or even days later. If it was urine it would.
lock'n'load
More than a month agoGangbangboys has it right
Daddbod
More than a month agoKinkygirl101 just because Gang.bang.boys doesn't own a vagina doesn't mean he can't comment or say his opinion! You need to grow up & stop manbashing, go find a feminist site and let the adults talk here.
LATINCDQLD
More than a month agoThis is a piece on a subject long in need if having been discussed in depth, (pardon the pun),
ReplyI had the good fortune of having met a lady when I was much, much younger, who took the time to guide me on how to please a lady so that she would reach levels of pleasure beyond imagination of the uninitiated.
It has resulted in me acquiring skills that I sometimes use to make a lady have multiple orgasms that culminate, not always but most often in a squirting experience.
I've a lady friend, a member here, that calls me golden hands.
This isn't a bragging comment, rather a statement of facts. A lady, if it came to that, would have a choice of the cost of a toy or the intimacy of a playmate with fingers that vibrate as a toy would and knows the right pressure levels required to achieve, if never had before, an experience to behold. A glass of wine and pleasant conversation is all I cost, by comparison
The whole scenario is something that can't be matched for pleasure and one I wish more women more would explore. It would increase the odds of being invited to deliver a moment I'd drop everything to do
Pmdelight4u2
More than a month agoLove to squirt, sometimes it's creamy and sweet, other times its just a big gush..
But bit of a turn off when a man feels he needs to make a woman squirt,
Being in tune with your body and your partner makes a big difference..
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ReplyKingHarry96
More than a month agoExcellent point, prepare without expectation but that goes for all sexual encounters in my book, should be organic.
heeriam
More than a month agoDoing a search on Dr. Google and most seem to favour this theory.
ReplyThe fluid released during squirting is essentially watered-down urine, sometimes with a bit of ejaculate in it. It comes from the bladder and exits via the urethra, the same as when you pee — only a lot sexier.
KingHarry96
More than a month agoWell written and accurate. Might add that setting the scene can be important for creating a relaxing experience albeit romance or hot sexual lust. Towels at the ready is a must, strategically placed under a light blanket/throw does the trick.
ReplyIVAONE60
More than a month agoVery good article I love making a woman squirt such a turn on for me. I love giving lots of oral first and have taught women how to squirt it's blown them away. Yes you get some pee but what a bit of pee between friends. One lady had never had an orgasm now she squirts everytime.
ReplyDarkstud
More than a month agoWhen there is a lot of squirting, I always thought it to be a mixture of pee with orgasm. Thanks for the clarification. And I never knew squirts smell good mmmm nice.
ReplyZamboon
More than a month agoOk so here are my observations;
ReplyFirstly it isnt pee
I love it and I readily get my face in the way, one lady needs her pussy spanked mildly to start squirting...
I know 4 ladies who squirt and they are all in their 50's and beyond - all of them only started squirting in their 40's and it was a shock to all of them - thank god for google, one lady went to the doctor!
It is messy and there are great protectors these days but I spent many an early morning changing sheets and sometimes a bedroom - one lady I know only does it in the bathroom and hubby needs a mop but he doesn't complain...
You are beautiful if you squirt and if you dont thats ok you're still beautiful ... all of you..
Thank you for giving us so much joy ...
deepblue181
More than a month agoLove it when a woman squirts - the feel, the taste, the sudden surprise gush of fun fluid - a real turn on for me. Can't wait to find another sexy woman who wants an explosive squirt with me as I cum hard too - bring it on
ReplyBoldpromise
More than a month agoI've managed to get quite a few women squirting.I usually start with lots of oral stimulation then insert a finger or two.Gentle rubbing of the gspot and suckling on the clit then increase the tempo with my fingers.You will feel some swelling beyond the gspot and pressure building.A woman's response shows the need for a huge release,I stop licking the clit and increase the speed and pressure with my fingers until the squirting begins.I have found that once a woman starts squirting,she can have multiple orgasms and keeps squirting until she is completely drained and overcome by the experience.
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ReplyAliGirl443
More than a month agoMay I ask: How are you using your fingers? I’ve had so much rapid fire fingering in my pussy, I’m now officially turned off to ANY form of it…☹️
Boldpromise
More than a month agoWhen I quicken the tempo it's not a hard vigorous action,more a speedy tempo lightly brushing the gspot.
Dken62
More than a month ago@boldpromise, I like your explanation. Are there any other motions that work for you?
Similar to you, I tend to go with the licking and rubbing the G-spot until I can kind of tell she is wanting to release. At this point,in my case, with my fingers in an L shape, my motion switches to an up down motion - to apply faster and rhythmic pressure on her g-spot - as opposed to the in/out motion. There's also one of my playmates who squirts from quickly rubbing the head of my cock up and down her pussy after I've been penetrating her.
@AliGirl, hopefully your experiences get better.
1justforU
More than a month agoExperience has shown there is no “one speed for all women” that will turn on the tap. In Some it can be firm and fast pumping motion, often with the entire hand, whilst others respond better to a single finger directly on the G spot and others react to fingers split either side of the G spot with a long slow raking action.
The nature and composition of the flows vary from lady to lady, but I have tasted both squirt and pee from the same woman and clearly they were of contrasting taste and texture.
The mysteries may never be solved but introducing a lady to her first squirt or having her husband learn how to give her the ultimate orgasm have been some of my most rewarding teaching experiences.