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Men can have a bit of a jack-hammer approach to thrusting, which can be ok if you’re focusing on friction to gain arousal rather than feeling. To move into deeper, more connected love-making you’ll need to master a broader repertoire of thrusts.
We all know that it’s good for couples to have a mutual hobby. You’re having sex and being intimate anyway, so why not give it the same focus and attention that you give any hobby?
If you’re the lower desire partner (LDP) you have a major impact on how often and how well you and your partner have sex. Sex is meant to be creative and playful and pleasurable and ever-changing and satisfying.
Ladies, just because he’s erect, it doesn’t mean he has to have an orgasm. He might possibly like one, but that doesn’t mean he has to have one, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you have to drop everything and give him one.
Plenty of people, male and female, enjoy anal play. It can be great combined with other oral or manual stimulation or when playing when toys.
There's so much diversity around what we think of as 'normal' or 'abnormal' - far more diversity than you'd think if you based it on the media or general opinion. So what is normal? And the answer to that is simply: what is right for you.
One of the key elements of Kink is playing along the borders of pleasure and pain. We all have pain thresholds, and the area around that threshold can be exquisitely delightful - if approached in a safe and relaxed manner.
Good sex is like good food. So what’s missing from your love larder? What can you do individually and as a couple (if you have a partner) to stock it up?
It's obviously not high literature, but then again, it's not trying to be, it’s just a good romance. Ignore the standard 'bodice ripper' elements and you basically have a love story which has important elements that all couples can relate to.
Sensual Kink is not for everybody. But hey, it might be, and wouldn’t it open up a whole range of possibilities? Start with a blindfold at the most basic level, and see where your explorations take you…