Q: I’m a bit curious about facials, you know, the sex kind where he comes on your face, but I’m also a bit concerned. Are there health risks? Is it degrading? Any help or advice would be great, thanks!
Let me first start off by saying this: Anything in sex is only degrading if you feel degraded by it. We’re all so policed by other people’s opinions that we often forget we are individuals with our own likes and dislikes. One person’s idea of degrading is someone else’s idea of the best time ever, and that’s perfectly okay! As long as both (or all) people involved in the moment are consenting, happy and feeling good, then it actually doesn’t matter what anyone outside of that moment says or feels about it because it’s got nothing to do with them! If, however it is something you feel uncomfortable about or unsure, it’s important to work out if it’s something you actually want to do, or something you are doing to please someone else. While yes, it is good to listen to, and communicate with, and want to satisfy, our partner’s needs, sometimes there are certain things that just don’t sit right with us, and it is always okay to say no.
What is also okay is starting off slowly. As in, start lower. Having him come all over your belly and boobs can be super sexy for both of you, and can help you to build up to the facial thing.
Another thing that is really important is to make sure (unless it’s part of the play) he lets you know when he is going to come. This will help you prepare for the splash, the taste, the smell, and to make sure you close your eyes. This is, in my opinion, the MOST important thing.
I’m not gonna lie, one of the most uncomfortable and painful things I have ever experienced in my lifetime of sexy-times is getting cum in my eye. Seriously, that shit stings and can turn a super sexy, ultra horny moment into a “fuck fuck, my eye, get a cloth, fuck, where’s a towel ouch, fuck, ouch!!” moment.
Apart from the super sting and ensuing red, sore eye for a day or so, there are other health risks that you should take into consideration. The eye is protected by a mucus membrane, very similar to the mucus membranes in and around your vagina and your mouth so, even though it’s not quite as risky as unprotected sex, anything that has other people’s bodily fluids coming into contact with your body poses risks, and just because the risks aren’t as great, doesn’t mean you should be lax in your vigilance. Regular STI testing is definitely recommended for people who have lots of sex with lots of people, and even in monogamous relationships it’s a good idea to get tested, even if just for peace of mind.
It’s a really good idea to keep a wet wipe or towel or something nearby for wiping your eyes before you reopen them, because that stuff is dribbly and can find a way in easier than you think, but don’t stress too much about wiping it all off if you don’t want to, because according to a few different research papers I’ve read, semen is actually full of proteins that can be effective in moisturising and toning your skin, double-meaning for facial really!
So all in all I think the advice is the same for any sex act and curiosity you have. Be sure you want to, be sure you have consent, be sure you’re safe, and then go on out and enjoy yourself in whatever way you choose!