What do you wear to a kink party?
So you’re planning to step outside your comfort zone and check out a kink party! Fantastic! We know you’ll have an awesome time. But the big question, especially for females, is what do you wear to a kink party?
Party Organisers will usually mention the dress code and if it’s a theme night that makes it much easier to plan. But “no street clothes” or "strict fetish" leaves us clueless while “We like formal, fancy dress, leather, latex, PVC, cross-dressing, burlesque, punk, uniforms, goth, industrial, cyber and crazy home-made creations” puts our stress levels into over-drive.
So here’s our checklist of what do you wear to a kink party.
Basic Black
You can’t go wrong with basic black. I wore a slinky black evening dress to very first BDSM party I went to and I didn’t feel out of place. A little black dress in latex or PVC is the ultimate fetish wardrobe essential which you can accessorise to create different looks.
Leather
While leather itself is a sub-culture of the BDSM community you don’t have to spend a fortune to incorporate it into your outfit. Grab a leather jacket to wear over a corset or bondage bodysuit for an instant wow! Or team a faux leather skirt or pants with a mesh top, corset or bondage bra.
Latex
Fetishists love this slippery, shiny fabric and while black is the first colour that springs to mind latex comes in a whole rainbow of incredible colours. There are even metallicized and very sexy transparent options.
Corsets
We've written a whole blog article dedicated to corsets. To me they are the next essential after a basic black dress. Make sure you get properly fitted for your first corset and shown how to lace it correctly. Different corsets achieve different looks, eg. over bust, under bust, flexible boning so do your research and invest in one which you can wear to create different looks.
Body Stocking
Perhaps for the braver amongst us bodystockings are undeniably sexy and can be worn under corsets, over lingerie, the possibilities are endless.
Wear your own Ink
Got ink? Make it the hero of your outfit by sticking to block colours with very little detail.
Wearable Bondage Lingerie
Lingerie designers realised a number of years ago that the fetish scene was a lucrative market so bondage style bras and bodysuits are readily available. You can also wear them over fishnet or latex for a more covered look.
Stockings
What’s not to love about a sexy stockinged leg. You will have fetishists literally falling at your feet to worship you.
Wear your Underwear as Outerwear
So many lingerie companies have capitalized on the outerwear craze that you’re bound to find something on Instagram to suit any kink event.
Fishnet
From stockings, bodysuits, dresses and gloves, fishnet can be added as an accessory or can be your actual outfit. Mesh size can also vary ensuring you can be as daring as you wish. For a very polished leg wear a shiny dancers tight under your fishnet stockings.
Fetish-goth, Fetish-punk, Fetish-cyber
The key here is alternative dress code, just think black and accessorise. Steampunk and renaissance are also popular options with the younger kink crowd.
Add Accessories
Think collars or cuffs, wigs, masks or leather caps, chains or spikes - creating an outfit is often just about the small details. And don’t forget a kick arse pair of stilettos, boots or platforms.
Go with the Theme
Regular parties often have a theme and it’s no different from any other costume party, well other than the X frames and occasional nudity lol. So uniform, naughty schoolgirl, sexy secretary, nurse outfits will often be seen at fetish or kink events.
If you’re still looking for inspiration then we suggest you head down to Fetish Expo in Melbourne on 14 October. As well as 60+ stalls of BDSM gear they have a Fetish Fashion Show featuring some of Australia’s most innovative designers. Follow them on Insta
We also want to give a shout out to one of our fave latex designers right here in Sydney, the amazing Matt Bylett Designs. Check out his Insta and his incredible creations.
8 comments
Bluey1968
More than a month agoGreat article but, I just don't have the figure for any of those outfits..... what should I wear ?
Replyxtasea4u
More than a month agoWhat do guys wear besides a smile
ReplyMsMischief13
More than a month agoWell for your first party less is more until you get a feel for what you like and what the people at the parties you go to are like. Just one big piece of advice for ladies who are wearing a corset for the first time, never ask a sadistic gentleman to help lace you up even if he is a friend as he's never tried to breathe in a corset that's too tight let alone eat or drink anything.
Replybadthoughts63
More than a month agoI usually wear goth stuff, pvc, silk, see through material, fishnet tshirt, etc. occasionally I like wearing a mini skirt. I miss the old hellfire club. Maybe I should start my own club.
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ReplyKinkyGirl101
More than a month agoWe all miss Sydney Hellfire Club
badthoughts63
More than a month agoYes. Met some lovely people there
Itstimeforme470
More than a month agoMy girlfriend and at the time had our first partner swap experience at the old icebox club in the cross there on hellfire night oh the memories haha
shevek69
More than a month agoUnforgettable times at the Hellfire Club!