- Fantasies becoming reality! How many people get to the end of their lives or even just get married and say “I wish I’d done
when I was single”. Well as a swinger you get to say “I did everything I ever wanted to try” and can sit in your rocking chair at the end of your life knowing there wasn’t anything you didn’t try or do repeatedly! Whatever you have on your fantasy bucket list is on the menu to try at some point and while some of you are worried that the reality might not stack up to the awesomeness in the fantasy, I can tell you that you’d be right sometimes BUT in my experience, you often have to do it a couple of times for it to get better and surpass the fantasy level. It’s like the first time you have sex with anyone new, it often takes a few sessions before you really get familiar with the other person to heighten every aspect of the experience so give your fantasy a chance!!
- Exposure to new ideas and things to try! It’s the age old adage – you don’t know what you don’t know. Well in our journey into the swinging world, tantra, kink, anal and squirting were not on the agenda but somehow through meeting different people and having various experiences, they led us into exploring those (some in much greater depth) which would never have happened had we stayed with just the 2 of us. We are grateful to the playmates that instigated a desire to explore them! #playmatesrock
- New friends who are open minded and easy to hang out with because there is nothing you can’t talk about – you can just be your cheeky, flirtatious selves along with everyone else.
- Your sexy outfits get more wear than an hour before then end up back on the bedroom floor in the one and only bedroom other people’s sexy outfits would only ever see.
- You’ll create a much stronger bond between you and your partner because you’re having new conversations about your sex life and sexuality, you are daring to be even more real and vulnerable with your partner by asking for what you want, sharing what you think and feel AND accepting each other as you are.
- Ongoing sexual stimulation from new experiences; new playmates, new conversations before and after every event! Flashback energy is amazing and makes you feel completely alive on a Monday morning when everyone is flat due to being back at work! The water cooler conversation is far more interesting when you are either honest when asked “what did you get up to on the weekend?” or you choose to lie and say “it was just regular kind of weekend for us” with at cheeky grin, neglecting to mention a “regular” weekend included a threesome or foursome and no sleep due to hours and hours of orgasmic playtime…
- You get to have your cake and eat it too! You get to be in a relationship and somewhat single at the same time (to varying degrees depending on your relationship set up). There’s nothing like having the security and ongoing companionship of a primary partner while still getting to enjoy the newness and initial sexual attraction of a new potential playmate. There are some things you just can’t recreate in the same intensity when you’ve been together for a number of years but this way you get to have it both ways!
- Holidays are a whole lot more fun! Whether you decide to go on a Swingers cruise, to a swingers resort or convention, or you just happen to meet new playmates on a regular holiday somewhere, it’s sure to be a whole lot more exciting and energising than the typical holiday you experienced pre-swinging. You tend to dress to impress more and connect with new people just to see what happens and sometimes you get the bonus plan!
- Your wardrobe gets a whole lot more interesting, more so for the girls but still, with the many events and clubs with theme nights, it means more clothing and costumes need to be bought; corsets, fishnets, sexy dresses, leather shorts (every man should have a pair of those), sexy net tops and a whole bunch of awesome accessories for any themed occasion! You almost need different cupboard space for your sexy wardrobe options and you know you’ve made swinging your lifestyle when that happens.
- Every other area of your life is also impacted positively! You feel more alive and in love and when you are feeling so damn good, good things happen to you! Business success and creativity are increased, you find yourself being a whole lot more relaxed and stress free, patience your ability to cope with things is increased. You’ll also find yourself wanting to be fitter and healthier so you can attract even sexier playmates so all in all, swinging is good for you.
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