Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys: Who really finishes last?
"Bad boys, bad boys, what you gunna do when they come for you?"
You know who you are, and you know that the women really will come for you.
Are you a bad boy?
It can be tough to put a finger on exactly what it is that makes a bad boy. The definition seems to change from one man to the next, and from one woman’s opinion to the next, too.
Could it be the hair, the casual tattoos, the badass clothes, or the motorbike? Those are certainly the clichés, but what really makes a bad boy seems to be a magnetic mix of the right attitude, that silver tongue, and the slight air of mystery that surrounds him.
When researchers at the University of Durham asked 128 female undergrads to answer questions about how attractive they found a man’s personality to be, the results showed that the women were far more attracted to the ‘bad boy’ group than the standard control group used in the study. The ‘bad boys’ were those with a “dirty dozen” personality traits that included manipulation, a desire for attention, a lack of remorse, cynicism, and other unfavourable characteristics.
So why the hell would women be attracted to a guy that, to be honest, sounds like a total dick?
The Durham University study had a couple of suggestions.
Possible answer one: The women could be attracted to how ‘manly’ these guys appear to be. This is a deep-founded desire for good reproduction, where the bad boys of the world show more confidence, stubbornness, and risk-taking tendencies - making them that much more masculine and, therefore, appealing for mating.
Possible answer two: The researchers likened the situation to those of used-car salesmen. While you know that they might not be the most genuine human on the planet, there’s no denying they know how to sell themselves and be as charming as they need to be to seal the deal. The researchers called this theory ‘sexual conflict’, and suggested that bad boys are simply better at selling themselves.
Can a nice guy be a bad boy?
But here’s the good news - just because someone appears to be something of a bad boy, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to mess a woman around. It’s entirely possible (and arguably even more attractive) for a bad boy to be a good man overall. Just because a guy respects and cares for women doesn’t mean he can’t enjoy all the benefits of being a bad boy, too.
And by benefits, we mean wild hot sex. Lots of it.
A decent man with a bad boy image and plenty of sex positivity is just about guaranteed to have women coming for you … so do you know what you’ll do when they come for you?
19 comments
69madgray
More than a month agoNever judge a book by it's cover.
Replyif you met me, I would come across as quite reserved, get me in a bedroom & get my motor revving see what you get, get me in a group WELL!!!!. (from the female)
GenGuy73
More than a month agoIn my (male) view....the main difference between a 'bad boy' and a 'good boy' (WTF they're men not boys), is that the 'bad boy' doesn't give a shit what society thinks; while the 'good boy' is so obsessed with what others think they are rarely strong enough to be authentic, be passionate, stand up to conflict, be truly loyal, etc. to me, it's MEN (so called 'bad boy) Vs mummies boys (so called 'good boys).
ReplyAtomicCouple
More than a month agoBad boys don't do it for me. Bad boys have Swag. Good boys have Class.
ReplyComputrSezNo
More than a month agoWhat I find irresistible is a guy who is elusively cheeky. He's fun and has cheeky confidence and can make me laugh but when you look into his eyes, there's something he's hiding deep down inside. A mysterious part of himself that will never be revealed. You just want to know what's deep in his soul but he'll never give it up and it's an addictive drug. It just keeps me coming back for more!
ReplyLord Richard
More than a month agoAnd gay guys are the same. I love a butch bad boy
Replymarz0000
More than a month agook so l change be a fucking bad boy lol
Replymarz0000
More than a month agogood guys always came last with women lol
ReplyDoit2meagain
More than a month agoBesides the bad boy being a greater lover and confident and lead an exciting thrill seeking life they are also the ones that really care and have manners and respect. They are also more honest....the good boy is the first sign of trouble...they are hardly ever very respectful....they are constantly judging others they make lousy lovers and are boring...not to mention the good boy has dirty little secrets more times than not its just a matter of time before they all come out. I could go on but i think i have explained the difference between the bad boy and the good boy well. Thats my opinion.
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoAgree
69madgray
More than a month agoabsolutely agree!!!!
Mr.MrsSmith360
More than a month agoMy hubby looks like a bad boy, but is a true gentleman, with a naughty streak and that's a wicked mix as far as I'm concerned.
ReplyCOOLEURO
More than a month agoIve been the bad boy most of my life and got the girls every guys wanted to get, then i got married and had kids it was time to change my ways,
Replynow that I'm divorced and my kids are bigger I'm back to being me again the bad boy and the ladies love that.
Wyldechase
More than a month ago"It's sometimes good to be bad." Ozzy Osborne.
ReplySurrendertome
More than a month agoGood guy in the living room, bad boy in the bedroom - easy...
Replywerbabylonkween
More than a month agoim a good guy turned badboy turned good again whats that then?
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ReplyAccount Closed
More than a month agoSchizophrenic?
1easygoin1
More than a month agoAlways been the bad boy and had plenty of fun along the way.
ReplyBigheartedgirl
More than a month agoDon't get me wrong all guys r great but there is something about a BAD BOY that is fucking HOT!!!!! They r just a big turn on for women :-)
ReplyNoHarmInAsking
More than a month agoIt looks like I'll have to spruce up my bad boy image. :-)
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