Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys: Who really finishes last?

by Adult Match Maker - 06 November 2015 - 19 Comments

"Bad boys, bad boys, what you gunna do when they come for you?" 

You know who you are, and you know that the women really will come for you. 

Are you a bad boy?

It can be tough to put a finger on exactly what it is that makes a bad boy. The definition seems to change from one man to the next, and from one woman’s opinion to the next, too.

Could it be the hair, the casual tattoos, the badass clothes, or the motorbike? Those are certainly the clichés, but what really makes a bad boy seems to be a magnetic mix of the right attitude, that silver tongue, and the slight air of mystery that surrounds him. 

When researchers at the University of Durham asked 128 female undergrads to answer questions about how attractive they found a man’s personality to be, the results showed that the women were far more attracted to the ‘bad boy’ group than the standard control group used in the study. The ‘bad boys’ were those with a “dirty dozen” personality traits that included manipulation, a desire for attention, a lack of remorse, cynicism, and other unfavourable characteristics. 

So why the hell would women be attracted to a guy that, to be honest, sounds like a total dick?

The Durham University study had a couple of suggestions. 

Possible answer one: The women could be attracted to how ‘manly’ these guys appear to be. This is a deep-founded desire for good reproduction, where the bad boys of the world show more confidence, stubbornness, and risk-taking tendencies - making them that much more masculine and, therefore, appealing for mating.

Possible answer two: The researchers likened the situation to those of used-car salesmen. While you know that they might not be the most genuine human on the planet, there’s no denying they know how to sell themselves and be as charming as they need to be to seal the deal. The researchers called this theory ‘sexual conflict’, and suggested that bad boys are simply better at selling themselves. 

Can a nice guy be a bad boy?

But here’s the good news - just because someone appears to be something of a bad boy, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s going to mess a woman around. It’s entirely possible (and arguably even more attractive) for a bad boy to be a good man overall. Just because a guy respects and cares for women doesn’t mean he can’t enjoy all the benefits of being a bad boy, too. 

And by benefits, we mean wild hot sex. Lots of it. 

A decent man with a bad boy image and plenty of sex positivity is just about guaranteed to have women coming for you … so do you know what you’ll do when they come for you? 


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  1. 69madgray

    More than a month ago
    Never judge a book by it's cover.
    if you met me, I would come across as quite reserved, get me in a bedroom & get my motor revving see what you get, get me in a group WELL!!!!. (from the female)
  2. GenGuy73

    More than a month ago
    In my (male) view....the main difference between a 'bad boy' and a 'good boy' (WTF they're men not boys), is that the 'bad boy' doesn't give a shit what society thinks; while the 'good boy' is so obsessed with what others think they are rarely strong enough to be authentic, be passionate, stand up to conflict, be truly loyal, etc. to me, it's MEN (so called 'bad boy) Vs mummies boys (so called 'good boys).
  3. AtomicCouple

    More than a month ago
    Bad boys don't do it for me. Bad boys have Swag. Good boys have Class.
  4. ComputrSezNo

    More than a month ago
    What I find irresistible is a guy who is elusively cheeky. He's fun and has cheeky confidence and can make me laugh but when you look into his eyes, there's something he's hiding deep down inside. A mysterious part of himself that will never be revealed. You just want to know what's deep in his soul but he'll never give it up and it's an addictive drug. It just keeps me coming back for more!
  5. Lord Richard

    More than a month ago
    And gay guys are the same. I love a butch bad boy
  6. marz0000

    More than a month ago
    ok so l change be a fucking bad boy lol
  7. marz0000

    More than a month ago
    good guys always came last with women lol
  8. Doit2meagain

    More than a month ago
    Besides the bad boy being a greater lover and confident and lead an exciting thrill seeking life they are also the ones that really care and have manners and respect. They are also more honest....the good boy is the first sign of trouble...they are hardly ever very respectful....they are constantly judging others they make lousy lovers and are boring...not to mention the good boy has dirty little secrets more times than not its just a matter of time before they all come out. I could go on but i think i have explained the difference between the bad boy and the good boy well. Thats my opinion.
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    More than a month ago
    absolutely agree!!!!
  9. Mr.MrsSmith360

    More than a month ago
    My hubby looks like a bad boy, but is a true gentleman, with a naughty streak and that's a wicked mix as far as I'm concerned.

    More than a month ago
    Ive been the bad boy most of my life and got the girls every guys wanted to get, then i got married and had kids it was time to change my ways,
    now that I'm divorced and my kids are bigger I'm back to being me again the bad boy and the ladies love that.
  11. Wyldechase

    More than a month ago
    "It's sometimes good to be bad." Ozzy Osborne.
  12. Surrendertome

    More than a month ago
    Good guy in the living room, bad boy in the bedroom - easy...
  13. werbabylonkween

    More than a month ago
    im a good guy turned badboy turned good again whats that then?
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  14. 1easygoin1

    More than a month ago
    Always been the bad boy and had plenty of fun along the way.
  15. Bigheartedgirl

    More than a month ago
    Don't get me wrong all guys r great but there is something about a BAD BOY that is fucking HOT!!!!! They r just a big turn on for women :-)
  16. NoHarmInAsking

    More than a month ago
    It looks like I'll have to spruce up my bad boy image. :-)

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