How to Get More Sex Using Adult Dating Sites

by Cam Langdon - 06 February 2012 - 32 Member Comments

Are you using dating sites with the motive of increasing the amount of sex you get? Or, have you joined an adult dating site to just get “any sex” because you are currently like the proverbial Nun, i.e. gettin’ none?

If you answered yes to either of these questions, then I have some fantastic news for you. And it doesn’t matter if you are male or female, gay, bisexual or straight. And that good news is – there are thousands of like-minded folks out there with exactly the same agenda as you. There is no need to feel any guilt about your desire to meet people online for the exclusive purpose of having sex with them. Put aside any hang-ups you may have about your urges and desires. You are perfectly normal, and so are the other horny folk out there just waiting to meet you.

But before we start targeting and contacting every person that takes our fancy as a potential sex partner, slow down and take a breath. You still need to approach the matter with a bit of strategic thought.

Yes, I know I said there are thousands out there waiting for you to contact them for sex. But there are others out there competing with you for the same thing. Many guys (and girls) scare off potential fuck buddies by being way over the top, both in their profiles and their initial contacts.

Here are some simple guidelines that will boost your chances of getting sex – fast and regularly – with women and men you meet online.

Be Sex Positive but Respecful in your Approach

Many women and men love dirty talk and a filthy mind. But, you will get more responses and, consequently, sex by working your way up to this level of intimacy. Guys, never put on your profile that you are looking for multiple sex partners, that you are a love-making machine, or any of that crap. And girls, don’t write that you are looking to fuck as many men as you can. That might get you lots of responses, but think about the kind of guys that would be replying to a profile like that. Creeps, mostly. Once you have established some communication with a person, you will know instinctively how much of a potty-mouth you can be later. And once this comfort level is established, then you can go for broke in your explicit sexual language.

Keep Your Dirty Photos for the Private Gallery

It’s sometimes not the best idea for men to post shirtless or sexy photos (what you think makes you look sexy and reality may be poles apart) of themselves on their profiles unless they really have the ripped body of a male model. Women, too, should keep their main profile area a skank-free zone. Guys, you can post all the cock pics you like in your private gallery. Ladies, you can also put your titty and pussy shots in you private member’s area, if you feel that way inclined. Of course, once you hook someone you want to have sex with, give them access to these intimate photos to spark their sense of urgency.

Set a Deadline for Filtering Time Wasters

A lot of women, and even guys, are full of fake bravado online. Bearing that in mind, set yourself a timeframe for meeting the potential sex partners you are communicating with, and if they keep stalling, move onto someone else. Some people are living a cyber fantasy online and have no intention of meeting you – they are either married or have some other issues. There are enough genuine X-rated folks on your dating site to give you the sex you crave.

Target People in a Different Age Bracket

Guys, the phenomenon of the cougar is real and growing. AMM, for example, has lots of females who are of mature years and seeking guys that can keep them satisfied sexually. So, if you are a younger guy and looking for quality sex from experienced ladies that won’t drive you mad with emotional bullshit, you would be well advised to include the older babes in your searches. And, if you are a more mature man, the opposite is also true. Studies into the online dating habits of younger women show that they appreciate the sexual skills that an older gentleman can bring to the bedroom. In short, men and women these days are quite content to ignore age gaps when it comes to getting it on in the bedroom.

Make the First Sexual Encounter a Pleasant One

If you find a great little rooter online, don’t spoil your chances of getting a repeat performance with her (or him). The two main ways people stuff up in this area are:

Drinking too much. If you get totally wasted and can’t get it up, fall asleep or chuck all over your brand new fuck buddy, you will probably never see them again. Keep the alcohol for after you get your rocks off, not before.

Lack of hygiene. I’ve heard plenty of horror stories from women who meet guys online to have sex with them, only to be shocked by a total lack of genital hygiene. Guys, women don’t like sucking dirty penises. So guys (and girls) make sure everything is clean, trimmed and sparkling downstairs if you want more sex from the people you meet online.

If you have the right mindset and target appropriately, there is no reason you shouldn’t be putting more notches on your bedpost after meeting and having sex with people you meet online.

Remember, there are thousands of potential randy women and men out there, and the only thing preventing you from meeting some of them for fun, erotic encounters is a lack of attention to detail and a lazy attitude. Follow the above advice, and target thoughtfully and appropriately. You will then find you are getting all the sex you can handle – and then some!

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  1. Fitbit73

    More than a month ago
    I use to be a paid member of AMM 5 years ago and I managed to meet 3 stunning girls at the time; I have recently returned and it seems like there is far less women online this time; like usual a huge amount of men to compete with; AMM is more a couples seeking couples site these days.. or have i lost a bit in the attraction section i dont know ?
  2. allinmymind

    More than a month ago
    I think the snipe about married is unjust. But then again it holds me back, or in reality if I wasn't married I wouldn't have an excuse, so the issue is with me and what I think about the whole idea. I have heard of those with bravado that don't come through, how many are married, come on. Are you talking guys or chicks?

    In my experience being married, many expect me to be the exact opposite and it is hard to live down.

  3. jayson1767

    More than a month ago
    The biggest thing I have herd from woman( and after seeing some of the guys profiles on here ) I have to agree with the woman ! Woman feel like they are being treated like pieces of meat and frankly as as guy I think that is disgusting ! Just because a woman puts nude pics up of her boobs and pussy does not mean they want to be disrespected or treated like a slut ! However that is what guys do and you guys out there wonder why woman won't talk to you ! Hell I am a guy and like all guys, I do think of sex but shit there is more to life than sex ! However most of the guys on these dating sites have no respect for woman and only want to get their load off ! Then when an actual gentleman gets on these dating sites ; the tools out there have pissed the woman off that much they don't know who to believe !! For all those tools ; wake up and stop treating woman like shit !!! Is that how your mother bought you up !?....... A woman still wants to be romanced and treated with respect and I believe if you give respect then it will be returned ! To those ladies who have been disrespected and treated like meat ; I am sorry that guys like that even live !!


    More than a month ago
    Writing proper grammar helps to...
  4. PLoverOz

    More than a month ago
    I do agree with some of the comments here, been on here for awhile and the experience isn't great, half of the responses I get are the same "sorry but you are not what Im looking for" I do read the profile before contacting and I have done everything from all the advices they give about how to get the most response and almost all the messages I send are not read or you get no response back. There is always a new article on how to but still the responses are the same. I guess I'm gonna keep on trucking
  5. NoHarmInAsking

    More than a month ago
    "MORE SEX", fuck I couldn't get any less !!!
  6. Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Billyboy - many women do not like cheaters, zonavar - you're profile makes you sound like a complete tosser - THIS is why you guys are not having much luck.
  7. sexywisey

    More than a month ago
    Billy boy and cumfybanana, i a hearing you and both of you are 100% correct
    been on here for about way to long, spent way too much and got way too little return
  8. tanned97

    More than a month ago
    What a waste of time this article was......i want my 5 minutes i can get rejected by more ladies
  9. Dave4615

    More than a month ago
    been on under a week and already had a date
  10. paddy138

    More than a month ago
    It doesnt matter what I say, what age they are How big they are all responses are the same.
  11. nickyeahhh

    More than a month ago
    ive got plenty of sex off here and still am it's hectikkk ;)
  12. Floyd.Rose

    More than a month ago
    I have always followed the guidelines you have mentioned in your little script. BUT you let out one thing. All of what you say is true and correct but I still get very little in the way of responses if any at all. And I am an intelligent decent looking and behaving bloke. So what you missed out is the fact that as a male on her you have to "Carpet bomb" every night. That means send as many emails as you can. it's roughly 1 reply to every 20 sent

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