Mixed messages- The road to convincing her

So it is Firday date night. Where to go, what to do, we need and liked to be entertained. So we decide the pub is a good place to go and we get ready. I as per usual I am ready in 15 minutes but she is a different story. Some time later she is ready looking and smelling fantastic. She has on a black denim button front dress on, black tights and sexy little high heels.

We have a couple of drinks and head out to the pub and quickly find a table and begin to drink and chat about family and life.

The entertainment has started and Im next to sing. Had a good sing and next it is her turn. She is as per usual very sexy, almost suggestive body language and it happened.
A younger guy say early 30's good looking younger guy spots her and is drawn to her while singing. So the song ends and she is trapped there talking to him.

She comes back to the table a little flustered and announces she has an admirer. I didnt say anything as this is what I want but she has never been obliging to my request. She is a little giddy and I and decide I needed to go to the toilet to see what might transpire while im gone.
When I return she is chatting and a little flirty so I sat back and watched for a good 10 minutes and when she returns she is super flustered so I asked if she is enjoying herself and she says yes but is not doing anything wrong (by me) and I assured her all is ok. I tell her how sexy she is and I get it other guys see what I see. The night rolls on and there is more interaction so I launch a plan.
I offered if she would like to take it further that I am ok as long as what ever happens then it is together.
She was not happy with my suggestion and shortly after he came over to our table trying to chat her up. She shut him down very quickly. I knew then that the alcohol had taken its toll, she is not happy and its time to ring our lift.

We get home, go to bed and discuss what happened etc.. she said that she couldnt do anything like that, I then say but you flirt like you want to be a naughty girl and......

We start kissing and getting into it and I unbutton your dress kissing you all over and say this is what your admirer wanted to do to you, then start playing with her clit again telling her this is what he wanted. She was so wet but said to stop with the talk.
I keep going, fingering her telling her she is a naughty girl and I bet you wish you took the offer. She came hard at that moment and then said I need you, so I climbed on and made love and kept telling her how sexy she is and its ok to be naughty, i asked her are you a naughty girl and she said yes, I then said if your admirer was here would you give in and be naughty, through her next orgasm she said YES. I know tomorrow she will "forget" about our night.

Winning but not convinced.