And they say women are hard work

I have known this person for twelve months chatting every night, I lost my partner in death we met on here, he lost his partner from cheeting and lying he met her on another site. So we start chatting about every thing and any thing no real move to hookup. I tried several times to chat him up about meeting he turned a deaf ear. He was happy to talk dirty and go off and wank himself whilst I would do my usual BOB. A couple of times we organised to meet he never showed. It was always at my place which by 9 months later he had the address, he knew everything about me I knew little about him first name and suburb he lived I had his mobile number only but he stated he got bad service and would never reply to txt messages or calls. Finally we caught up he talked non stop about his profession and his looking for a new job. No physical contact made. More chatting by this stage it was 11 months down the track. He had slept with his x after she had been asked to leave but this was blamed on some wine he drank. I had not played around with any one in the time we had been talking. The second visit happened and it was very lustful and nice. Great lover knows what to do. He told me his x would show up a lot at his place at randome times so he couldn't invite me to his place. He wouldn't give out his email address, home address or home phone number, which he stated was for emergency only ???? ..Then back to chatting and xmas was looming I said I had a small gift for him and a lovely iced xmas cake. During the conversations we had he stated he didn't do anything for xmas day but caught up with his kids on Boxing Day. I asked if he wanted to have drinks xmas eve, I got shot down in flames and I have tried several times since to catch up to give the gift the cake was given to a neighbour, after several more attempts to catch up and sitting waiting only to find out it was a no show I had pretty much given up. Yet here he was every night all nice and wanting to chat via messages mind you we never chatted by chat. So 3000 messages later I said enough us enough, so I started asking questions about what he expected. I got shot down in flames being called too pushy and demanding. I put my heart on my sleeve and send a heart felt letter of how I felt about him, my response was GOOD BYE your too pushy ...... Well call me dumb but men think women are hard work this is just all to weird ..........