One thing I hadn’t expected when we entered into the swinging lifestyle was the supercharged effect it had on my libido. My husbands was already quite healthy, as most men’s are, however, me being a full time worker, wife and mother, suffered from a low libido at times and especially before we contemplated swinging.
Thankfully that all changed once we started talking about the idea of inviting someone else to join us. Just talking about it was enough to inspire some strong desires to drag my husband to the bedroom or just jump him then and there (which he wasn’t saying no to!) He was enjoying my newfound reservoir of sexual energy, and initially the fact that he was gaining most of the benefit from it was enough for him to entertain the idea of taking it further.
It obviously didn’t stop there and after talking to a number of other couples, we realised that what we were experiencing wasn’t uncommon.
The idea of enjoying a physical experience with new sexy people was a complete turn on, and the idea that we might actually get to experience some of our wildest fantasies increased our libido on it’s own, but then we found another very unexpected reservoir of sexual inspiration…
After enjoying a night of hot sex with playmates, no matter how many or who they were, once they were gone and it was just the 2 of us again we discovered that we were still turned on enough to grab each other for at least one more round. This seemed to be prompted by a few things; one of which was just a need to reconnect or “reclaim our territory” (a phenomenon that other couples have also named similarly), and a fresh desire to enjoy each other in the moment!
Now that alone is already more sex than most regular couples have but add to that the week afterwards where we would have even more sex, sometimes daily and then some. This was largely inspired by both the new movie-like images that we were replaying in our minds from our night of swinging fun, and from talking about it with each other.
Surprisingly the post conversations were just as inspiring as the movie-like images as they often focused on what we enjoyed most, what new things we experienced and what new things we discovered we wanted to experience in the future… the nearest future we could possibly arrange too!
Everywhere we turned, once we got into this lifestyle, led to more sex which makes me wonder why there aren’t more couples jumping on in and enjoying both the relationship bonding experience swinging has to offer, and the truly supercharging effect it has on the libido. How many other couples can boast that they have sex no less than 3 times a week and sometimes more than 10? And that’s just with each other!
A healthy relationship and a healthy sex life makes for 2 very happy people, anyone else had their dose of swinging fun today?