Well, gang, we made it! We made it through what could possibly be one of the most tumultuous years in recent history. Major celebrity deaths (I'm still not over Bowie, and I don't think I ever will be), huge political upheavals (Brexit, Trump, the resurgence of Pauline), more mass shootings in the US, and terrorist attacks around the world.
It's been a big one, and I think among all the shit and debris we have kind of forgotten to look on the bright side. So here is my plan: I am going to make my new years resolutions one of positivity and fun. Of sex and sexiness. Of looking after myself and my loved ones.
I am going to enter 2017 with a spring in my step, a wiggle in my walk, and a view to having the best and sexiest year ever.
Won't you join me?
Letting Go of Self Shame
Even the most confident and switched on of us struggle with self esteem and self forgiveness. Whether it's regretting a one night stand, or berating yourself for buying the extra nuggets, we all do it and it's time to let go. It's time to realise that we deserve pleasure and treats. And it's totally okay to eat the extra nuggets or have a night of wild abandon with someone you'll never see again. Give in to hedonism once in a while. You deserve it!
Consciously Sex Positive
We've talked about sex positivity before and what it means and there's always room for improvement. Make a conscious effort to think more positively about all things sex, and by that I mean not just about your own sex. Let's stop shaming people who sex differently to us. Let's stop hating on naked celebrities and outlandish outfits. If someone wants to vagina flash, or twerk, or whatever they do that makes you cringe a little, just let it go. It's not your vagina they're flashing. Move on. Celebrate their uniqueness and their quirks. After all, it takes all sorts to make the world spin, why hate on those having a great time for themselves?
Make Time For Intimacy
PUT DOWN YOUR SCREENS! This is something I personally need to do more of. I am a Facebook, Netflix, Twitter addict and I know it can often get in the way of intimacy with the loves in my life. Set up screen-free date nights. Make the effort to share stuff about your day with the people who mean the most to you. Keep phones and tablets out of the bedroom on certain nights. Be there. Be present. Kiss. Touch. Hug. Look up from your internet life and make real time for your real life.
Know Your Own Body
This is not just a sex thing. This is an everything thing. Be aware of your health, your fitness, your body's signals. Learn a new physical skill. Go to yoga. Take up pole dancing. Do a tantric sex course. Buy sex toys you've never used before. If you're a bullet on the clit girl, try something to use internally, guys try a sleeve masturbator or maybe a prostate massager if you haven't before. Learn how to breathe properly, learn to stop, take stock, and enjoy the skin you live in. It is truly beautiful and unique and all yours!
Do a George Costanza
If something isn't working the way you want and it's a regular thing, like you're always attracting the wrong type of partner, or you're stuck in jobs or a career path you hate. You know what I mean, you keep on keeping on doing the same thing and you always end up at the same place that doesn't really make you happy? Try doing what George did in Seinfeld. DO EVERYTHING OPPOSITE! Just try it for a day or so. Always order red wine? Try white. Applying for an office job? Look for an outdoors one. Always date professionals in suits? Look for a tradie. Like big boobed blondes? Try a petite brunette. Just stepping outside your comfort zone and what you're used to can be a huge way to change your outlook and perhaps garner different results.
So there's my list, feel free to make some or all of them yours too, and I'd love to hear some of your sexy new year’s resolutions in the comments too!
And a happy, sexy new year to you Matchmakers!