Cliteracy 101 for Clitoris Owners & Lovers!

Photograph of an orchid to represent a woman's genitals and clitoris

Just the Tip of the Iceberg

Before I go on to say anything else I need to make the most important part of understanding the clitoris very very clear. No matter what you hear about the “button of love”or “bean flicking” or anything that suggests the clitoris is just that little bud that sits snugly between the vulva and labia, it is wrong. Entirely! It is absolutely imperative to understand that the clitoris is Not Just A Button. In fact, that little pinky-white nub that you see is just a hint of a far greater organ hiding underneath. The best way to describe the full shape of the clitoris is that it looks a bit like a thin wishbone sitting astride a more puffy wishbone-shaped pillow. With the little nub stretching it's neck out and poking out up the top, and the long wishbone arms, and soft spongy pillow running along the length the labia, all the way to the vaginal opening, it really isn't small at all. In fact, the average clitoris is between 3.5 to 5 inches long and up to 2.5 inches wide, so it's very important to keep this in mind and not neglect those areas when you're heading down to Pussy Town for a visit. 

Feelin'Good

Just like a penis, when aroused, blood begins to flow to the clitoris and all the areas around it making everything bigger and warmer and even more sensitive - and when I say sensitive, I mean it. Whereas the head of the penis has 4000 nerve endings, the glans of the clitoris has double them at 8000! Yep, and all 8000 of them are concentrated into that teeny little button you see, and flow down the “wishbone-like” arms and around the vulva carrying tingly, feel-good sensations to your vagina, your spine, and your brain. Speaking of feeling good, the clitoris is the only part of the body with the sole function of creating and delivering pleasure. Every other part of us that creates pleasure, be it sexual or other, has another purpose within the body*. 

Where is the clitoris!!?

Considering it's actually so big and such an important and necessary part of female sexual pleasure, it is frustrating to see how often it is neglected in pornographic representations of sex, and also in real life, according to many personal stories I hear. It brings to mind those old-hat, not-very-funny “jokes” about not being able to find it, and why even bother anyway.. But at the same time it's not hard to see where these sort of attitudes come from. It's not new news that female sexuality and, more specifically, their pleasure has been a long-ignored field, but did you know that up until 1998 there wasn't a single formal study or medical paper, or even proper anatomical diagram of the clitoris that fully explored or realised its depth, size, physiology or workings? It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. It wasn't until 2009 that we had a proper 3D sonograph of it showing it in all it's lit-up, aroused glory, and we are still, in 2016, learning more and more about it every day.

Learn to Love the One You Have

Like penises, although they all look kinda the same, every clitoris is different and responds to different stimulation. It's important to take the time and care to learn all about the one you're going to play with (yes, whether it belongs to you or someone else) and find out all the right things to get it humming perfectly. Some clitorises like being touched directly, others can have the owner of it kicking their legs into your face if you even hint at direct contact. Some like to be touched hard and fast, some slow and soft. Some clits love toys, other prefer mouths. Some clits like a circular motion applied to them, others a flick... And then, of course, not every clitoris responds the same way it did last night, with many needing the clit routine regularly changed-up to keep orgasms easily achievable, and even menstruation cycles will make our bodies react differently at select times of the month.

Savour it, Don't Rush to the Finish Line

Yes, there are some moments where a quickie is all you want or need. It's often great to just rub one out quickly and get on with your day. But when it's time to really get into it don't allow the clitoris to just be your one-stop-pop-shop. Let it overtake and consume the build-up, the excitement, the whole experience. Whether you're playing solo or with someone else, take the time to really explore and discover the fascinating functions of the most interesting body part in existence. Follow the lines of the wishbone arms and tease all the little hidden places those nerves and receptors go. Change your rhythm, your style, your technique. Try a toy with a pulse function. Try a lubricant with an added “sensation” ingredient. Tease and tempt it and draw out the most exquisite feelings you can. After all, that's exactly what it was built for!

* On the subject of erogenous body parts with no other function but to give pleasure, I wonder if, at least for some guys, perhaps male nipples are nature's way of balancing that out, albeit with far far fewer nerve endings and far fewer orgasms. Something to ponder on.

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  • Traveller89

    Traveller89

    More than a month ago

    "Whereas the head of the penis has 4000 nerve endings, the glans of the clitoris has double them at 8000!"

    It's well documented that the foreskin has approximately 20,000 free nerve endings (FNEs), that's 5x the nerve endings in the head of the penis. Still only a small portion of the whole body.

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  • ApheliaButtmore

    ApheliaButtmore

    More than a month ago

    Thats a good article for both sexes altho I just can't believe people can't find one! Ha. There is only one place it could be.
    As a conissour, I think pleasuring a woman with my mouth is one of the most awesome things to do. I would do it 24/7 if it was humanly possible.

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  • THORGODOFTHUNDE

    THORGODOFTHUNDE

    More than a month ago

    If you can't find it, I'll give you a hand and anything else you may need x

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  • WhiteLuna

    WhiteLuna

    More than a month ago

    Great read , for me it took another women to find my clit, I loved it. After that some men "have found it" but mainly the females know exactly where & when to use their tongues or mouths. I personally would say , guys watch and listen to the female body on how she reacts to your touch and don't rush it

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    Nicesize1

    More than a month ago

    True words about finding and best technique in playing with a clitoris. I don't think I have ever found a woman who likes it the same way! I believe a mans penis is probably the same. I like the shaft of mine being stroked and can't handle having the head touched. I also like a firm grip, a soft touch or grip frustrates me. I have found that some women have a hooded clitoris and because they don't know any better they are quite defensive when one tries to talk about it. I know a lot of woman that cannot have a clitoral orgasm and I could guarantee that they have a hooded clit. A simple operation can remove the hood and clitoral orgasms can then be attained.

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  • justforfun558

    justforfun558

    More than a month ago

    Why do some men have so much trouble finding it? I myself found that I had to tell the majority of men "higher".....

    • just4fun444

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      More than a month ago

      Maybe they love licking ass?

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    downundermumma

    More than a month ago

    Loved reading the article. I found it very succinct. I recently watched a very funny movie called Dinner for Smucks. The male character was hilarious when saying his wife left him because he couldn't find her clitoris. He was very amusing saying he looked every where for it, under the couch etc, ha ha. I myself find the clitoris very erogenous.

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  • Slimshaddy

    Slimshaddy

    More than a month ago

    Fuck I love to eat pussy, and the clitoris a very important part of it just like my nob is on the penis, cant do with out it

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  • FriendlyGuy1965

    FriendlyGuy1965

    More than a month ago

    I for one, am a shame to say that I was not as informed about the beautiful sexual sensation that a woman can feel on/around the clitoris. But I have had only a few encounters with a woman in my life
    as I was always shy (still am a little today) to meet/go out. It would be nice to meet a woman here that wants to show me how to explore her body in the way that SHE wants so SHE is satisfied and less about how I or a man thinks he knows how to truly satisfy her to ecstasy. I am glad i have read this article and hope to meet someone to research the topic further (haha) Cheers everyone.

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    Missboru

    More than a month ago

    Amen to that!!!

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  • Melody2973

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago

    I've seen plenty and they are all very different :))

    Mines very obvious but neatly tucked away :)

    Not everyone has a ' CLUE ' how to work it that's for sure :)

    • trusted8

      trusted8

      More than a month ago

      Thats a great reason to show your next lucky participant exactly what and where you would like them to be and focus on....a bit like them reading your personal "road map" while your guiding them. Happy Climaxes. xx

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  • Shootersn

    Shootersn

    More than a month ago

    Really if you look at different clits some actually look like a miniature peinus just with wings !! But more sensationalism....

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  • Shootersn

    Shootersn

    More than a month ago

    Well if your head is not being crushed by her inner thighs your not playing with her clit the right way !!

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  • Cactus874

    Cactus874

    More than a month ago

    Great Artical, good to know few more techniques .
    Thanks Eva ...

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  • BiMelbNaturist

    BiMelbNaturist

    More than a month ago

    i was taught by my very first girlfriend (luckily she was a bit older) how to please a woman which involved clitoral play, all i can say isall girls friends since have thanked her

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  • OzandViet

    OzandViet

    More than a month ago

    Great article and I actually hadn't had a man so interested in my clit until I met my husband and he actually showed me that he knew more than the females I'd had.

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  • marty000

    marty000

    More than a month ago

    God I love how something so small can do so much. Gently suck, lightly lick, slow to start. Feel her leg start to tremble, her back arches, she shakes uncontrollably, screams then pulls your head off and tells you don't touch me. All this from such a tiny little thing.

    • TEN4YU

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      More than a month ago

      wow ,you do that ,do you?

    • marty000

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      More than a month ago

      Of course i do. I'd show you if you wanted me to.

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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago

    Interesting that so few guys have commented on this blog - probably still Googling what a clitoris is!

    • ASensualsoul

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      More than a month ago

      Maybe you should stop having a go at men Leolady, as the article stated "until 1998 there wasn't a single formal study or medical paper, or even proper anatomical diagram of the clitoris that fully explored or realised its depth, size, physiology or workings? It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. It wasn't until 2009 that we had a proper 3D sonograph of it showing it in all it's lit-up, aroused glory, and we are still, in 2016, learning more and more about it every day." So clearly even women, the owners of the clitoris, didn't know much about it. Great article though, insightful to some, a refresher for others. Well written. It would be interesting to know how many women know about the clitoris.

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      Well, the only male comments on this blog were by 2 men who seem to know what they're talking about, one man who only wanted to boast about how great he is and one very defensive post (yours) - I wasn't "having a go" but, just because studies weren't made about the clitoris before 1998 doesn't mean it didn't exist - I certainly knew I had one long before then (and so did SOME men). Why do you presume that "we" in the article includes women?

    • ASensualsoul

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      More than a month ago

      Of course the "we" includes women, if it didn't then the acticle would have read " men" or "women", there have been female biologist and physiologists for decades. " Still googling what a clitoris is" is a slam to all men and I take umbridge at that thoughtless generalistic comment. All men are NOT the same and I'll thank you not to lump us all together, I bet you don't treat women like that, us Men deserve that courtesy too unless proved otherwise. At the end of it all positive comments are a far better way of changing things than negative ones. But I do not wish this to become a slanging match about a well written article with insights for both Men AND Women.

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      Well, you believe what you want to believe. Speaking as a woman (which you are not) I can assure you that there are many men who do not know or care what a clitoris is, I would say that the comment in the article that " It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. means BY MEN.

    • david2641

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      More than a month ago

      Great article on a subject that most men claim to know something about but a clit is just like a cock and needs differing types of stimulation some experimentation is needed as each lady is different
      Leo lady I'd love to find out more about yours and I ask you the question who treats your clit the best male or female lovers?

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      david - generally women seem to know more about it but ONE particular man I know has a Masters Degree in this subject ;-)

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      lovetotaste78

      More than a month ago

      Agreed ASensualsoul :) - maybe read my profile Leolady727

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  • Heretoplease7

    Heretoplease7

    More than a month ago

    Great article. Learned more. Guys if you want a return visit look after this area. Tease, all over that area.
    It is amazing what your tongue can feel. Use your fingers with a little oil over the whole area with a little touch on the button sets the lady off. Again great article.

    • sweeth3art

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      More than a month ago

      It's true...if you don't attend to my clit after I've mouth fucked you, you aren't coming baaacckkk ;) in fact, I've escorted men from my bed to the door because they fear mouth to clit.

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  • Msiwonder

    Msiwonder

    More than a month ago

    Great article, thanks :)

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  • Leolady727

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago

    They're all different and they're ALL beautiful.

    • KaifraDuet

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      More than a month ago

      How true - and they all respond given affection

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      As you know very well

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  • MadameR

    MadameR

    More than a month ago

    Thank you gorgeous Eva, you have written another titillating and provocably educational piece, about the world's most popular travel destination down under! The magestic & beautiful "Clitoris"; a place of succulent juicy indulgence, slow divine worship & the atomic power to explode its owner into sophisticated dimensions of sublime unadulterated bliss - if one is lucky...for hours!

    Such an excellent read indeed! Thank you from one clit owner to another. The Yoni Whisperer "Aleena Aspley" Brisbane

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  • BorisnDoris

    BorisnDoris

    More than a month ago

    Ever since I was old enough to know,I think I found out all about the clitorious,in all its wonders of pleasure,thru a friend of my sisters,& hers was like a very small penis,& it was a great way learn,she sat down over my face(something I still love to do today)& ground her way upon my tongue & nose to a very intense orgasim,in that process nearly drowning me(yes a squirter)& I was hooked,so still being at school(we both was)it was study up on this wonderful enlightenment,& I have been the absolute fan of ms clitorious ever since,& never missing any chance I get to arouse her,rub her with my hand,fingers & mr wobbly,yes I don't yet think I've had any complaints about my delicate tongue work over the years of taste testing vaginas,but my current partner has the sexiest & most delicious looking pussy I have ever cum across,& I so love to go down & give vagzilla,her dues & tongue treatment,& my lord she is delicious,& I wish it was a stable food source,cause it's all I would eat,& trust me I've had many a great meal over my lifetime,but my partners is the 'vagina to the stars' & vagzilla never fails to impress me,her swollen labia minors when so aroused,I love to edge her often just to see how big they can swell,& run my tongue around the opening & push the tip hard into that swollen wall,just above the entrance,then when I know it's built up to near demolition explosiveness I apply the fingers insert & let them do the walking,while I enjoy the flood of juices,& do my best to have my partner all tempted,& wanton for mr Wobblies great entrance..

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      OMG - it's all about YOU, isn't it?

    • Mynxiee

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      More than a month ago

      haha touche LEO

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  • KaifraDuet

    KaifraDuet

    More than a month ago

    Ah, the clitoris...how beautifully their owners respond to one who has taken the trouble to learn its secrets and how wonderfully we are repaid if we learn to worship it. Truly worthy of worship.

    • Titianslady

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      More than a month ago

      And that's how it should be treated thanks NLindsayfan. Wonderful to read an article that describes not only the organ but the feelings and sensations associated but not always elicitated from it. It's all in the touch finger,tongue or toy etc. Dependant on the mood of the women as well if she's not happy you might have to worship for hours before eliciting a reaction. The Kama Sutra says the Mind is the most powerful sex organ of all good to know the Clit feeds the mind. Thanks for a great article

    • Leolady727

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      More than a month ago

      Listen to the master, folks - this man KNOWS what he's talking about ;-)

    • jambon007

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      More than a month ago

      Great article great article

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