Cliteracy 101 for Clitoris Owners & Lovers!

by Eva Sless - 17 December 2016 - 36 Member Comments
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Just the Tip of the Iceberg

Before I go on to say anything else I need to make the most important part of understanding the clitoris very very clear. No matter what you hear about the “button of love”or “bean flicking” or anything that suggests the clitoris is just that little bud that sits snugly between the vulva and labia, it is wrong. Entirely! It is absolutely imperative to understand that the clitoris is Not Just A Button. In fact, that little pinky-white nub that you see is just a hint of a far greater organ hiding underneath. The best way to describe the full shape of the clitoris is that it looks a bit like a thin wishbone sitting astride a more puffy wishbone-shaped pillow. With the little nub stretching it's neck out and poking out up the top, and the long wishbone arms, and soft spongy pillow running along the length the labia, all the way to the vaginal opening, it really isn't small at all. In fact, the average clitoris is between 3.5 to 5 inches long and up to 2.5 inches wide, so it's very important to keep this in mind and not neglect those areas when you're heading down to Pussy Town for a visit. 

Feelin'Good

Just like a penis, when aroused, blood begins to flow to the clitoris and all the areas around it making everything bigger and warmer and even more sensitive - and when I say sensitive, I mean it. Whereas the head of the penis has 4000 nerve endings, the glans of the clitoris has double them at 8000! Yep, and all 8000 of them are concentrated into that teeny little button you see, and flow down the “wishbone-like” arms and around the vulva carrying tingly, feel-good sensations to your vagina, your spine, and your brain. Speaking of feeling good, the clitoris is the only part of the body with the sole function of creating and delivering pleasure. Every other part of us that creates pleasure, be it sexual or other, has another purpose within the body*. 

Where is the clitoris!!?

Considering it's actually so big and such an important and necessary part of female sexual pleasure, it is frustrating to see how often it is neglected in pornographic representations of sex, and also in real life, according to many personal stories I hear. It brings to mind those old-hat, not-very-funny “jokes” about not being able to find it, and why even bother anyway.. But at the same time it's not hard to see where these sort of attitudes come from. It's not new news that female sexuality and, more specifically, their pleasure has been a long-ignored field, but did you know that up until 1998 there wasn't a single formal study or medical paper, or even proper anatomical diagram of the clitoris that fully explored or realised its depth, size, physiology or workings? It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. It wasn't until 2009 that we had a proper 3D sonograph of it showing it in all it's lit-up, aroused glory, and we are still, in 2016, learning more and more about it every day.

Learn to Love the One You Have

Like penises, although they all look kinda the same, every clitoris is different and responds to different stimulation. It's important to take the time and care to learn all about the one you're going to play with (yes, whether it belongs to you or someone else) and find out all the right things to get it humming perfectly. Some clitorises like being touched directly, others can have the owner of it kicking their legs into your face if you even hint at direct contact. Some like to be touched hard and fast, some slow and soft. Some clits love toys, other prefer mouths. Some clits like a circular motion applied to them, others a flick... And then, of course, not every clitoris responds the same way it did last night, with many needing the clit routine regularly changed-up to keep orgasms easily achievable, and even menstruation cycles will make our bodies react differently at select times of the month.

Savour it, Don't Rush to the Finish Line

Yes, there are some moments where a quickie is all you want or need. It's often great to just rub one out quickly and get on with your day. But when it's time to really get into it don't allow the clitoris to just be your one-stop-pop-shop. Let it overtake and consume the build-up, the excitement, the whole experience. Whether you're playing solo or with someone else, take the time to really explore and discover the fascinating functions of the most interesting body part in existence. Follow the lines of the wishbone arms and tease all the little hidden places those nerves and receptors go. Change your rhythm, your style, your technique. Try a toy with a pulse function. Try a lubricant with an added “sensation”ingredient. Tease and tempt it and draw out the most exquisite feelings you can. After all, that's exactly what it was built for!

* On the subject of erogenous body parts with no other function but to give pleasure, I wonder if, at least for some guys, perhaps male nipples are nature's way of balancing that out, albeit with far far fewer nerve endings and far fewer orgasms. Something to ponder on.

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  1. justforfun558

    More than a week ago
    Why do some men have so much trouble finding it? I myself found that I had to tell the majority of men "higher".....
  2. downundermumma

    More than two weeks ago
    Loved reading the article. I found it very succinct. I recently watched a very funny movie called Dinner for Smucks. The male character was hilarious when saying his wife left him because he couldn't find her clitoris. He was very amusing saying he looked every where for it, under the couch etc, ha ha. I myself find the clitoris very erogenous.

  3. Fitbit73

    More than two weeks ago
    Fuck I love to eat pussy, and the clitoris a very important part of it just like my nob is on the penis, cant do with out it
  4. FriendlyGuy1965

    More than a month ago
    I for one, am a shame to say that I was not as informed about the beautiful sexual sensation that a woman can feel on/around the clitoris. But I have had only a few encounters with a woman in my life
    as I was always shy (still am a little today) to meet/go out. It would be nice to meet a woman here that wants to show me how to explore her body in the way that SHE wants so SHE is satisfied and less about how I or a man thinks he knows how to truly satisfy her to ecstasy. I am glad i have read this article and hope to meet someone to research the topic further (haha) Cheers everyone.
  5. Missboru

    More than a month ago
    Amen to that!!!
  6. Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    I've seen plenty and they are all very different :))

    Mines very obvious but neatly tucked away :)

    Not everyone has a ' CLUE ' how to work it that's for sure :)

    trusted8

    More than a month ago
    Thats a great reason to show your next lucky participant exactly what and where you would like them to be and focus on....a bit like them reading your personal "road map" while your guiding them. Happy Climaxes. xx
  7. Shootersn

    More than a month ago
    Really if you look at different clits some actually look like a miniature peinus just with wings !! But more sensationalism....
  8. Shootersn

    More than a month ago
    Well if your head is not being crushed by her inner thighs your not playing with her clit the right way !! ??
  9. Cactus874

    More than a month ago
    Great Artical, good to know few more techniques .
    Thanks Eva ...
  10. BiMelbGuy2

    More than a month ago
    i was taught by my very first girlfriend (luckily she was a bit older) how to please a woman which involved clitoral play, all i can say isall girls friends since have thanked her
  11. OzandViet

    More than a month ago
    Great article and I actually hadn't had a man so interested in my clit until I met my husband and he actually showed me that he knew more than the females I'd had.
  12. marty000

    More than a month ago
    God I love how something so small can do so much. Gently suck, lightly lick, slow to start. Feel her leg start to tremble, her back arches, she shakes uncontrollably, screams then pulls your head off and tells you don't touch me. All this from such a tiny little thing.

    marty000

    More than two weeks ago
    Of course i do. I'd show you if you wanted me to.

    TEN4YU

    More than two weeks ago
    wow ,you do that ,do you?
  13. Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Interesting that so few guys have commented on this blog - probably still Googling what a clitoris is!

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    david - generally women seem to know more about it but ONE particular man I know has a Masters Degree in this subject ;-)

    david2641

    More than a month ago
    Great article on a subject that most men claim to know something about but a clit is just like a cock and needs differing types of stimulation some experimentation is needed as each lady is different
    Leo lady I'd love to find out more about yours and I ask you the question who treats your clit the best male or female lovers?

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Well, you believe what you want to believe. Speaking as a woman (which you are not) I can assure you that there are many men who do not know or care what a clitoris is, I would say that the comment in the article that " It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. means BY MEN.


    ASensualsoul

    More than a month ago
    Of course the "we" includes women, if it didn't then the acticle would have read " men" or "women", there have been female biologist and physiologists for decades. " Still googling what a clitoris is" is a slam to all men and I take umbridge at that thoughtless generalistic comment. All men are NOT the same and I'll thank you not to lump us all together, I bet you don't treat women like that, us Men deserve that courtesy too unless proved otherwise. At the end of it all positive comments are a far better way of changing things than negative ones. But I do not wish this to become a slanging match about a well written article with insights for both Men AND Women.

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Well, the only male comments on this blog were by 2 men who seem to know what they're talking about, one man who only wanted to boast about how great he is and one very defensive post (yours) - I wasn't "having a go" but, just because studies weren't made about the clitoris before 1998 doesn't mean it didn't exist - I certainly knew I had one long before then (and so did SOME men). Why do you presume that "we" in the article includes women?

    ASensualsoul

    More than a month ago
    Maybe you should stop having a go at men Leolady, as the article stated "until 1998 there wasn't a single formal study or medical paper, or even proper anatomical diagram of the clitoris that fully explored or realised its depth, size, physiology or workings? It was pretty much ignored and and dismissed as “unimportant”. It wasn't until 2009 that we had a proper 3D sonograph of it showing it in all it's lit-up, aroused glory, and we are still, in 2016, learning more and more about it every day." So clearly even women, the owners of the clitoris, didn't know much about it. Great article though, insightful to some, a refresher for others. Well written. It would be interesting to know how many women know about the clitoris.
  14. Heretoplease7

    More than a month ago
    Great article. Learned more. Guys if you want a return visit look after this area. Tease, all over that area.
    It is amazing what your tongue can feel. Use your fingers with a little oil over the whole area with a little touch on the button sets the lady off. Again great article.

    sweeth3art

    More than a month ago
    It's true...if you don't attend to my clit after I've mouth fucked you, you aren't coming baaacckkk ;) in fact, I've escorted men from my bed to the door because they fear mouth to clit.
  15. Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    They're all different and they're ALL beautiful.

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    As you know very well

    NLindsayfan

    More than a month ago
    How true - and they all respond given affection
  16. MadameR

    More than a month ago
    Thank you gorgeous Eva, you have written another titillating and provocably educational piece, about the world's most popular travel destination down under! The magestic & beautiful "Clitoris"; a place of succulent juicy indulgence, slow divine worship & the atomic power to explode its owner into sophisticated dimensions of sublime unadulterated bliss - if one is lucky...for hours!

    Such an excellent read indeed! Thank you from one clit owner to another. The Yoni Whisperer "Aleena Aspley" Brisbane
  17. NLindsayfan

    More than a month ago
    Ah, the clitoris...how beautifully their owners respond to one who has taken the trouble to learn its secrets and how wonderfully we are repaid if we learn to worship it. Truly worthy of worship.

    jambon007

    More than a month ago
    Great article great article

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Listen to the master, folks - this man KNOWS what he's talking about ;-)

    Titianslady

    More than a month ago
    And that's how it should be treated thanks NLindsayfan. Wonderful to read an article that describes not only the organ but the feelings and sensations associated but not always elicitated from it. It's all in the touch finger,tongue or toy etc. Dependant on the mood of the women as well if she's not happy you might have to worship for hours before eliciting a reaction. The Kama Sutra says the Mind is the most powerful sex organ of all good to know the Clit feeds the mind. Thanks for a great article

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