Do you dare to hair down there?

by Emma Sachsse - 07 May 2016 - 78 Member Comments
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It is an occupational hazard that I often end up shocking the people I am talking to especially if they don’t know me well or have just walked into a sex talk with Emma and weren’t expecting it. Heads up, if you walk up to my group at lunchtime we will more than likely be talking about sex. We might be discussing consent, what a sex party is like, how to write a good dating profile or techniques for giving head. 

However, apparently the most shocking thing for everyone was when I stated that I had pubic hair. My colleagues found this to be my most outrageous comment yet. "Inconceivable" they cried. A woman can’t have hair down there! Well, they can. And they do. 

I remember when, twenty years or so ago an older, more experienced lover suggested I try shaving my pubic hair. Not all of it, just the undercarriage, as it were. It was shocking and scary and felt amazing when he went down on me again. When I described it to people suggesting they try it I said “you know how when you have just shaved your legs everything feels like silk? Well, imagine a tongue…” Needless to say a few of my more daring girlfriends tried it.

I enjoyed being so risqué, so out there, it was unusual and it wowed the men I slept with. Then it became a bit more mainstream. I got more extreme with the amount I removed at times. Occasionally I would even remove the lot! Shocking! And uncomfortable as it grew back and frankly I thought it looked ugly and like I was a prepubescent girl. Not for me.

And then it became the norm for everyone to wax the lot. All the time. There was a time before this. Historical documents refer to Carrie on Sex it The City accidentally getting one (Season 3, episode 14, 200) and thinking it was too much. “My insides are on my outside” Carrie says. Then they trick Charlotte into getting one too. Maybe that is how it started, one girl getting one, it hurting and then tricking another friend into it as a joke. One of my colleagues has been getting her vulva completely waxed from the age of thirteen. No one else even saw it until she was 16. That was an approximate $1,440 and three years of unnecessary pain and regrowth she did not need to endure. Let alone the rest of her life, a further $20,000 at least if she stops at say 60 and the price doesn’t go up.

I personally prefer to shave and to be honest I like to change things up depending on my mood, my preferences that week, my partner's preferences (if they fit with mine). For me, hair down there is for fun and style and shapes and non-conforming. Not for me to pay someone $40 to remove at all times no matter what. At least for a while there was the argument that if men didn’t do it why should I? Now, however, male pubic hair is also going the way of women’s and disappearing completely. Note, some judicious trimming and grooming has always been a good idea gentlemen. 

For a while now the medical articles have been coming out about how we actually need pubic hair.  How it is actually healthy for us to have some hair down there and that removing it may make us more susceptible to infections like genital warts and molluscum contagiosum. Removing your pubic hair can also increase the likelihood of boils and abscesses. 

Look we know that removing it all at all times without thought is commercialism gone wild. We understand that the continued policing of beauty standards is wrong but I don’t see how we convince a bunch of prepubescent girls that that hair that is now growing there isn’t gross when the whole world is telling them it is unnatural and young boys have never seen a bush. Of course, they are going to be repulsed by something they find strange and unfamiliar. We have hijacked pubic hair and removed the choice for young people about what they think is sexy for them. That is what bothers me the most. Choice should be just that choice. I never felt I had a true choice about shaving my legs when I was young, it is what all women did. So I started shaving at 13 when there really wasn’t any hair yet and no one was looking anyway. Sound familiar? It hasn’t been considered feminine to have leg hair for quite some time now, since about the 50's or 60's.  To this day, no matter how much I want to get my feminist on I can’t bring myself to sport leg hair in public. It saddens me that young girls feel the same way about their pubic hair even though they should feel safe to be individuals and not to conform. By teaching that pubic hair for young men and women is “dirty” and “disgusting” aren’t we perpetuating the idea that your genitals are dirty and disgusting and must be sterilised and uniform in appearance to acceptable? Let's celebrate diversity and choice in our expression of our sexuality instead. Dare to hair. Or not. It is up to you. Just put some thought into it.

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  1. start.stop

    4 days ago
    Played with a couple the other week, and Mrs had the full bush.... was delicious, a refreshing change :-)
  2. ToEnticeU.

    4 days ago
    Call me ole fashioned... but I like a woman to resemble being a woman.....a nice maintained strip is where its at for me.
  3. marty000

    More than a month ago
    Love the hair!

  4. alfa159

    More than a month ago
    I used to like shaven pussies but now I think manicured natural is the best. Very very sexy.
    Take a look at Japanese porn and notice how beautiful those hairy pussies are, yum.
    The bigger and juicier the labia too, love it, gorgeous.
  5. Dutchman68

    More than a month ago
    I love hair! It means I'm with a woman not a child. We are supposed to have a hair, the evolution and opposite is perversion.
  6. chikitikah

    More than a month ago

    Much prefer the post pubescent look myself.
  7. RobbieBxx

    More than a month ago
    I am happy to enjoy myself and provide pleasure either way. Some grooming is good, but for me, the pleasure is equal with neat hair or no hair.
    Yes, the silky soothes of freshly shaved is fantastic. It probably offsets the fact I have a beard!
    Care in our appearances is important but no-hair is not a requirement for enjoyment - just like me!
    Hmm, might be slightly biased there, but I am honest.
  8. justforfun558

    More than a month ago
    I have met quite a few men, and I am surprised how many men love hair, or just don't mind it. I myself love to shave. I love the feel of being shaved and love the feel of being licked when shaved. However, as I said, many men either don't mind it either way, or actually prefer hair. I have had quite a few offers to let it grow for them. I guess each to their own.
  9. wantfun069

    More than a month ago
    I'm getting more and more worried each and day that hairy pussies are coming back in.....
    common knowledge that pubic hair traps odour so I have been shaving for over ten years
    and have never had complaints also much nicer going down on a waxed pussy, a racing strip
    is ok but 2 inches of hair like a 70s is just nasty

    Dutchman68

    More than a month ago
    Natural scent will always prevail, u want smell of womenhood not a bar soap, I guess u never slept with a real man!
  10. Tju420

    More than a month ago
    I'll play devil's advocate and say I love some fur burger. Going down on it too. As long as its not totally wild, going hip to hip.
  11. Zamboon

    More than a month ago
    Personally I'm excited by a hairy woman - and it doesn't have to be just down there ...Then again its up to the lady

    might I just say that Im sorry for all the ladies having labioplasty only be cause a man has criticised them - that's so wrong - don't be pressured - celebrate your womanhood - I certainly will given the privilege...
    Love you all..
  12. Couple72g

    More than a month ago
    I love hair down there. I don't like my women looking prepubescent at all.
  13. downundermumma

    More than a month ago
    Well really its just another preference isn't it? If we all liked the same exact thing, not only in sexuality but in everything the world would be a very boring place. Each to their own I say.


  14. kinkcock

    More than a month ago
    A hair caught in your teeth or throat can be most unwelcome at a time of passion. Schmoove
    is better.
  15. setforu

    More than a month ago
    I suffered from severe eczema around the crotch and it was suggested to shave the hair to stop the moisture staying in the area. I loved the feel of it and it also reduced the occurrence of the rash so i have been bare for over thirty years. I still love the feeling after i have just epilated the area. So smooth
  16. icanseeu7310

    More than a month ago
    Shaved is good,but waxed is better...as long as it's done all over,nothing more unattractive than a bald pussy but hair around her asshole..yuk
  17. needthat2

    More than a month ago
    I suppose it all depends on who you want to please but its a fact that most males are visual creatures and are turned off by hair other than head hair on a woman

    Sb455t

    More than a month ago
    Since when?must have missed the memo hey!

    godown64

    More than a month ago
    Much prefer the natural beauty over the labiaplasty shaved pussies that have no character. In regards to who women want to please, most of the time they are only going on the fashion of the time.
  18. NAKEDHANDYMAN

    More than a month ago
    A Very Hairy Hairy Lady is the best.
  19. Darkstud

    More than a month ago
    Hair grows naturally on some human parts for a reason. Why shave it at all?
    Personally pubic hair turns me on...........the sight, the touch et all. However, I prefer trimmed to a bushy genital area. If it gets scanty as you go down closer to the clit and around, its a bonus.
    More important for me is a clean, hygienic and healthy pussy.
  20. BauboBelil

    More than a month ago
    Hair. There is some purpose to it, all the places it grows. I call it free range, and now it's grey/silver, I love it even more! I shaved my legs twice maybe, and my underarms once... so the hair there is soft and short. I have never, nor will ever, shave my sweet juicy vulva. Much more woman than "good girl". I find men that shave/wax a little disconcerting, like something is missing. As for the stray hair/flossing noise, it's part of the texture of a being a sexual human to me, loving the way that nature built it! So, being that I'm not up for doing what I am told, sex is best with those that celebrate the Whole of me, without the need to tidy me up... "it's like washing the fish after you cook it, I like the fish the way it is, it's why I ordered the fish!"... Thanks for the place to put this!

    Sb455t

    More than a month ago
    Exactly, well said!

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Really ???, nothing wrong with maintaining it. Think it's just laziness if you choose not to and most men prefer it maintained I'm pretty sure :))
  21. trythishard1

    More than a month ago
    A shaven haven is what I'm cravin' !! No hair for me , men or women !!
  22. mikey955

    More than a month ago
    no definitely not on a woman I may be with no hair so much better for oral
  23. oatlandspair

    More than a month ago
    For me, I just prefer hair free. What other people do is up to them but no bush for me please.
  24. Michaels12

    More than a month ago
    I prefer a lady with natural hair downstairs, Sadly society disagrees with me
  25. CoastalColour

    More than a month ago
    I love a hairy man, but do agree trimming is a good idea rather than full flowing.
    I shaved once long ago... Couldn't stand the itch on re-growth.

    Personally, I don't like shaved or lasered on either sex.... Prepubescent rabbits come to mind!!
    I am lucky that my hair naturally peters out further down, so never have had a problem.

    Fashion dictates do remove choice -such a pity...
  26. Thrillme11

    More than a month ago
    Pubes can look attractive if trimmed correctly. But only LOOK attractive. They're not attractive when stuck in your smile, and restricts the freedom of enjoying down there without hesitation.

    Been clean shaven for years, everyone i meet loves it. I would only ever go down if her undercarriage was clean shaven too. If i cant enjoy it, neither will she.

    My two cents.

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Exactly :))?

    SassySandy

    More than a month ago
    Fully agree!!!! Less and smooth is best, so is the fun without picking hairs from mouth and teeth YUK!!!!!

    Hot.aussie666

    More than a month ago
    I agree to the point I have just had my first session of IPL!

    hornyforcock

    More than a month ago
    well said. I enjoy smooth all over on girls and guys.
  27. Amoniker2016

    More than a month ago
    "molluscum contagiosum" sounds like a Harry Potter spell
  28. YasminaandJake1

    More than a month ago
    Good topic to touch on. I totally agree, it comes down to choice, everyone's different.
    Jake remembers when I asked him to shave a few years ago and he said no way. He obviously thought what a strange request, he was too macho for that. But I am glad to say we have been both clean shaven for some time now and will never go back. I am not into flossing when I have fun and he gets more oral than he ever dreamed of. In regards to meeting another couple on AMM, others look so hot but the hair down below is such a turn off for us. We understand and respect that some are quite the opposite and dislike the silky waxed hair free look hey the grass needs mowing from time to time, food for thought

    Sb455t

    More than a month ago
    Mowing yes, not spraying out! Otherwise it's just barren ground, but each to their own!
  29. confidant1

    More than a month ago
    Pubic hair is natural and welcoming. Personally, as a male, I like to trim up and stay tidy perhaps with the thought it makes me look a little larger. lol. Regarding females I find it very appealing to have a warm welcoming area that I can spend much time appreciating. Sure it might need a trim up occasionally but I find it the most divine area, the welcome mat to heaven. Ladies please do not listen to the media, many guys love the fluff. It is as sexy as boobs and bums. Great article.

    triXXXi66

    More than a month ago
    thanks for your opinion and comments on mine...hahhha its as big as it is and no amount of trimming or shaving will change that....you will be found out! hehheheh. Fluff wins! yay...good onya...smiling

    Mstaken666

    More than a month ago
    Well said confidant1 :)

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    I think you are a rarity :))

    Most men I know prefer waxed or shaved :)

    What never works I guess :)

    Angie682

    More than a month ago
    A big majority of guys I have met or chatted to don't mind some pubic hair as long as its trimmed and short. I believe having hair down there helps with the 'slip n slide' of penetration :) I had an experience many years ago after which I decided it's much better to find out a guys preference before going down the 'meet' road, just in case it's a dealbreaker. I don't mind a guy having some hair, as long as its short and out of the road :P
  30. MissAffection

    More than a month ago
    I hope the male readers take heed of your suggestion "Note, some judicious trimming and grooming has always been a good idea gentlemen. "
    There is nothing worse than getting a nostril full of pubic hair when trying to deep throat.

    petershomealone

    More than a month ago
    Very well manicured ??

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    I wouldn't do it if it wasn't trimmed :)), yuck :(
  31. hotemp

    More than a month ago
    Yay, agree totally.
    Unfortunately society is totally screwed up about lotsa things, usually a consequence of the church
  32. Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Each to their own I guess. I've waxed for years, sometimes leaving a landing strip, other times all off. I don't think it is offensive nor do I think I look like a ' prepubescent girl. I do it purely because I prefer it that way. There are some incredibly ' unattractive vaginas ' on here and a wad of hair on them certainly doesn't help :))),

    Felurian

    More than a month ago
    Excellent body shaming. Well done you.

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    I stated an obvious fact, something I've seem for myself :))

    Didn't ' body shame ' anyone, get a life :))

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    I so agree, Felurian. Also, you know what, Melody - you're NOT seeing a "vagina" - what you're seeing (and obviously not liking) is a vulva. There are NO unattractive vulvas, but there ARE some some mighty unattractive people!

    KinkyGirl101

    More than a month ago
    Comments like this are the reason that 1 in 3 plastic surgeons have had a woman under 18 request labiaplasty and 1 in 5 Aussie women say they're not happy with their "vulva". Agree with @NLindsayfan that the MONA display should be compulsory.

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Please :))

    How surprising that the ' Queen Bee ' has something to say :)),

    Don't waste your time, you aren't a blimp on my radar but blab away if it makes you feel better :))

    As for women, or young girls changing their downstairs I'm not sure those stats are correct. Women are entitled to change whatever they like and I'm not sure every single one of them goes through with it.

    I've probably seem more ' Vulva's ' then all of you in my profession, some are not attractive that's a fact. It wasn't directed at anyone personally it's just an observation :)

    Maybe all of you need to get a hobby, honestly :)))

    KinkyGirl101

    More than a month ago
    Plastic surgeon stats were in articles published last week on news.com and other stats were from "The 2014 study from Flinders University SA systematically examined the role of the media, romantic partners and friends on women's consideration of labiaplasty and found 17% of women aged between 18 and 69 were interested in having labiaplasty. Our findings suggest a worrying trend of women becoming dissatisfied with the appearance of their genitals. It is possible that women (and their partners) are not aware that women in porn may have had surgical modification of their labia."

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Sorry I'm to busy ' living ' to bother reading articles like that :))

    Society is screwed, that's the least of our issues believe me :(

    trythishard1

    More than a month ago
    I agree with melody every day of the week . Some pussys are more attractive than others , just like some cocks are more attractive than others, same goes for faces and bodies in general , it's just a fact . We all need to be happy with what we've got.

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Melody - I'm still giggling at "blimp on my radar". My sister and I collect malapropisms and I've won this round with yours :-)

    RiverSweetie

    More than a month ago
    Hi 5 Leolady727 for your malapropism collection! I wasn't going to add to any of this thread, but I just have to pay that one. Chuckled on reading it & totally lol'd at your comment :D

    Rathin6

    More than a month ago
    Best looking pussy on amm Melody ;))

    chikitikah

    More than a month ago
    Speaking of unattractive vaginas....that aint no oil painting ya got there.

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    Let's hope I don't get as bitter as Leolady and RiverSweetie as I age, honestly get a life :)))))
  33. triXXXi66

    More than a month ago
    Great article,.. I get lots of comments about my bush... From either "do something about that hair" .. To the " i prefer to lick a smooth pussy".... What your preference is doesnt bother me... What my preference is is how it stays... I love the comments "omg! I love your bush"... "Wow... You have hair"... I have other decorations ... I dont need to undecorate! And as the article says... I am a woman... Not a prepubescent girl... And for the books... I dont see the need for a smooth hairless cock... I think its much more manly and real to have hair down there!

    confidant1

    More than a month ago
    Go girlfriend! I love the fluff. Great comments

    Life2.0

    More than a month ago
    I agree with you on all your points.

    As a personal preference while giving Cunnilingus, I grow weary of pulling loose hairs out of my teeth or accidently swallowing them. I also prefer there was no "forest" blocking the view.

    For a guy, especially with hairy legs and stomach, having a "Bald patch" in the pubic area looks weird. I do concede that well trimmed/short keeps the masculine look but isn't excessive.

    NiceAndSensual

    More than a month ago
    I personally love a hairy vagina.

    Now, this may be because I'm a hairy guy so perhaps I have a biased opinion however, having experienced licking bushy vaginas, totally waxed vaginas and in-between, I must say that I find a hairy/lightly trimmed vagina to be more inviting!

    I actually like to get the girl to spread her lips for me with her hands while I lick and finger her.

    So yeah, overall experience is better for me when there is hair down there.

    (For the record, I don't shave down there and no only 1 girl asked me to do it (not that I've had countless girls lol) although when it came down to business, she never said a word so obviously, she wasn't that serious about whether I shaved or not)

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    You don't have to justify not waxing it's a personal choice, I think men like women who maintain but that's just my opinion. I wax purely for myself not for a man, I much prefer to be ' hair free '. As for hanging things of my downstairs that's interesting to say the least, whatever works I guess :)
  34. Sb455t

    More than a month ago
    As you said found completely shaven to be a little unattractive, trimmed yes! Never trimmed myself though, wife of 35 years never mentioned it, now find myself in a different world after her passing. Maybe should just ignore the media, fashion hype!

    triXXXi66

    More than a month ago
    yes...ignore it...stay as you are....natural....if someone wants to change you or parts of your body and doesnt accept you the way you are then they are not for you...good luck to you honey... go for it

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    It's nicer if it's trimmed :)), but your call of course :)
  35. NLindsayfan

    More than a month ago
    I agree unreservedly. It saddens me to think that people - especially young women - are becoming convinced that the cosmetically - or digitally - mutilated bodies they see on TV and in magazines are 'normal'. and desirable. Cosmetic surgeons now make fat livings turning vaginas into stereotypes. Tasmania's MONA has a display of 64 casts of vaginas that should be compulsory viewing for teenagers both sexes.
  36. luv2cu7

    More than a month ago
    To have that little soft top is more sexy than completely shaven. At least you look like a woman not a young child
    luv2cu7

    triXXXi66

    More than a month ago
    agree totally...thanks

    THORGODOFTHUNDE

    More than a month ago
    Rock the " strip " men & women it's a great compromise

    Melody2973

    More than a month ago
    I like the strip :))
  37. Intimit1

    More than a month ago
    Disappointed that the nude pedunda has become de rigour, sometimes it is sexy to see pouting lips, other times the hint of undiscovered pleasures hold sway. Totally agree that the fashionista's dictate to an emotionally unhealthy degree.

    Titianslady

    4 days ago
    Well as a mature lady I must admit I've had hair down their all my adult life through three long term partners non of whom asked me to shave.
    Been a widow 10 years didn't bother looking down there.lol
    Then last year met a young man who asked if he could shave me. I thought say what!!!!!!. So decided to look down there lol and saw this grey very thin straggly mess of hair and said ok then and he was very good at it. So every morning I run a razor over it she likes it thinks it's a tongue I'd never go back to that.

    Titianslady

    4 days ago
    I must admit I do like my men shaven around the Cock and balls and that's also within the last year lol. Lots of interesting things happening. The reason is
    a I hate getting hair in my teeth it was a fact of life in my marriages never thought to ask them to shave.lol But after meeting a couple of guys that did shave oh my word how lovely.
    b It gets caught in all my Cock cages etc and if it's thick oh boy hopeless trying to get it on slips and slithers then usually falls off lol.

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