How many of these Sexual Identity Labels do you know?

by Adult Match Maker - 22 April 2016 - 9 Member Comments
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When talking about sexual identity tags it's usually the most common ones that we think of first. You know, the ones from the famous acronym: LGBTIQ. But what if we told you there's a whole alphabet of letters and a range of tags that help people categorise the preferences, identities and sexualities they align with.

Not all of them are exclusive to one person/one tag, you could be a polyamorous trans lesbian or a monogamous androgynous bisexual, and not all people like to use tags or labels to identify themselves, but they can be a useful way of sorting out in your own head where you lie in the scale of sexual identities, and can also be useful in the fight for equal rights and equality to show that really, there is no such thing as “normal”. There are so many different people on different levels and who identify in different ways and every single one of them is valid and deserves respect and acceptance.

Please note that the tags and descriptions below are by no means a concrete nor complete list, and many people fall in between categories, or identify differently within the boundaries.

Agender: A term that describes people who do not subscribe to any gender or who feel genderless or a neutral gender.
Androgyne: A non-binary gender identity associated with androgyny. Androgynes have a gender which is simultaneously feminine and masculine, although not necessary in equal amounts.
Androgyny: A combination of masculine and feminine characteristics and can also refer to biological intersex physicality.
Androgynous: An expression of gender that is neither masculine nor feminine but has elements of both. 
Androsexual/Androphilic: Being attracted to masculinity or males.
Antisexual: Having a generic dislike of sexuality of sexual activity.
Aromantic: Having little to no interest in romantic relationships or experiences little or no romantic attraction.
Asexual: Having little to no interest in sex, sexual relationships or sexual desire. The colloquial abbreviation of Asexual is "Ace".

Bigender: Identifying as neither male nor female but a blend of both, or even a third gender.
Bicurious: Having a curiosity for having attraction to or  sexual experimentation with the same gender or sex.
Biflexible: A person who isn't necessarily bisexual but has its tendencies.
Biological Sex: A medical term used to refer to the chromosomal, hormonal and anatomical characteristics that are used to classify an individual as female or male or intersex. Often referred to as simply “sex,” “physical sex,” “anatomical sex,” or specifically as “sex assigned (or designated) at birth.”
Bisexual: Being attracted sexually to people of both genders. It doesn't have to be a 50/50 split in attraction
Butch: A person who identifies as having masculine traits which could be physically, emotionally or mentally. Usually female, but not always. Can be used as a slur, but is also reclaimed by lesbians as an affirmative identity label.

Cisgender: A person who identifies their gender with the sex organs they are born with. If you are born with a penis and identify as male then you are cisgender, same for people born with a vagina who identify as female. Basically, if you're not trans, you're cis.
Closeted: An individual who is not open to themselves or others about their (queer) sexuality or gender identity. 
Constellation: Often used to describe the arrangement or structure of a polyamorous relationship.
Cross-Dresser: Someone who wears clothing society deems are for the other gender. Most often used by men who dress in women's clothing but not necessarily limited to men. Cross-dressers are most often not transgender or transsexual. 

Demiboy: Someone who identifies as partly boy and partly something else, but without defining the other part.
Demigender: Partially identifying with one gender. There does not need to be a large or small percentage of identifying. Some demigender people may identify with two or more genders or they may not. 
Demigirl: Someone who identifies as partly girl and partly something else, but without defining the other part.
Demiromantic: Needing to feel a strong emotional bond with someone in order to develop a romantic attraction. 
Demisexual: Needing to have a strong, emotional connection to someone before being sexually attracted to them.
Drag King: Masculinity as a theatrical expression, usually performed by women. (often exaggerated and highly stereotypical).
Drag Queen: Femininity as a theatrical expression, usually performed by men (often exaggerated and highly stereotypical).
Dyke: Often used to refer to masculine presenting lesbian.  While it can be used degoragorily it has been adopted by many members of the gay community as positive self-identity term.

Femandrogyne: (feminine androgyne) an androgyne who feels more feminine than masculine.
Femme: Identifying as feminine. Usually used by lesbians but not exclusive.
Fluid(ity): Describes an identity which may shift or change over time between the mix of options available. It is generally linked with another term, eg. gender-fluid.
FtM (F2M) and MtF (M2F): Describing trans people's transitions. Male to Female and Female to Male.

Gay: Being attracted to the same gender as you identify with. Most commonly used for men, but is often a blanket term for any homosexual or member of the queer community.
Gender Binary: The idea that there are only two genders, male and female and that there are no grey areas.
Gender Fluid: A person who identifies with two or more genders and may shift in which they are most strongly identifying with.
Gender Identity: The internal perception of one's gender and how they label themselves.
Gender Non-Conforming: Not conforming to society's ideas and definitions of gender specific personality traits.
Gender Normative or Gender Straight: Some whose gender presentation, whether by nature or by choice, aligns with society’s gender-based expectations.
Gender Variant: Someone who does not conform to gender-based expectations of society.
Genderqueer: An identifying label that denounces labels of binary gender and allows the individual to make their own claims about their own gender. Similar to gender fluid.
Graysexual: A more fluid identity which sits between being sexual and asexual and may experience low sexual desire. They may also identify as gay or straight or any other sexual identity inside or outside of the binary.
Gynesexual / Gynephilic: Being attracted to women/females or femininity.

Heteroflexible: Identifying as heterosexual, with minimal attraction to same sex or other sex. Not necessarily bisexual. Often classed as “mostly straight”.
Heteromantic: A person who is romantically attracted to a different sex or gender.
Heteronomativity: The idea that there are no other sexualities but heterosexual, and that heterosexuality is “normal”, and that gender is determined by genitals. Leads to invisibility and stigmatizing of other sexualities.
Heterosexual: Being physically, sexually and romantically attracted to members of the opposite sex. Also known as "Straight".
Homoflexible: Identifying as homosexual but with occasional attraction to other genders and/or able to derive pleasure from sexual encounters with genders other than their own.
Homoromantic: A person who is romantically attracted to the same sex or gender.
Homophobe/Homophobic: A person or action negative and discriminatory towards people who do not identify as heteronormative and heterosexual.
Homosexual: A person who is physically, sexually and romantically attracted to people of the same sex.

Intergender: Identifying as in the middle of binary genders, and maybe a mix of both.
Intersex: A person who has a combination of both male and female hormones and sex organs (often but not always internal). This used to be referred to as hermaphrodite but that term is now considered old fashioned and offensive.

Lesbian: A woman who is attracted physically, sexually and romantically to other women.
LGBTIQ: Shorthand for people who have a non-normative (or queer) gender or sexuality.LGBTQ is Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Intersex & Queer.
Lipstick Lesbian: A feminine lesbian. 
Lithromantic: A person who experiences romantic love but does not want their feelings to be reciprocated.

Mascandrogyne: (masculine androgyne) an androgyne who feels more masculine than feminine.
Metrosexual: A man who spends time and money on his appearance and grooming.
Mx: A gender neutral pronoun, in place of Mr, Mrs, Ms etc.

Neutrandrogyne (neutral androgyne): an androgyne who might feel a relatively even mixture of femininity and masculinity, or perhaps none at all
Neutrois: A blanket term to cover people who identify as gender neutral, or having no gender. 
Non-Binary: A blanket term that describes people who identify as neither masculine or feminine, and who identify outside of gender binary terms.
Non-Gender: A blanket term to describe people who identify outside of the gender binary norms

Omnigender: Treating all genders as one with no distinguishing or discriminating between them.

Pangender: Identifying with all genders and not prescribing to gender binary norms.
Panromantic or Biromantic: A person who is romantically, but not sexually, attracted to people regardless of their gender or sexuality.
Pansexual: A person physically, sexually, emotionally and romantically attracted to people regardless of their gender or sexuality. 
Polyamorous/ Polyamory: The practice of ethically, honest consensual non-monogamous relationships with multiple partners. Being attracted to, and forming relationships with, more than one individual at a time. Some poly people have a primary relationship and then secondary relationships. 
Polygender: Identifying with multiple genders; male, female and non-binary genders too.
Polysexual: May be attracted to some gender variant people but not have the capability or desire to be with some others.

Queer: An individual who does not identify as heteronormative, heterosexual or within binary gender.
Queerplatonic: Relationships which involve close emotional connections, more intense than traditional friendships, but not romantic in nature.
Questioning: Unsure about, questioning or exploring one's own gender, sexuality and sexual identity.

Sapiosexual: People who are attracted physically, sexually and romantically to intelligence, regardless of gender or identity.
Sexual Preference: The types of sexual intercourse and gratification which a person likes to participate in and should not be confused with Sexual Orientation.
Skoliosexual: Being physically, sexually and romantically attracted to people who do not identify as cisgneder, ie. genderqueer, transsexual, and other people who do not fall into binary gender categories.
Straight: A person who is physically, sexually and romantically attracted to the opposite gender. 

Third Gender: Someone who does not identify as male or female.
Transgender: A person who identifies as the gender that is different to that assigned to them at birth.
Trans Person: A person who identifies as transgender or transsexual. The terms Trans Woman and Trans Man are also used.
Transphobe/Transphobic: A person or action negative and discriminatory towards people who identify as trans.
Transsexual: A person who identifies psychologically with the gender different to that which was given to them at birth, and who has taken medical steps to transition to their true gender identity. This term is often not used by transgender people as the “sexual” part can confuse others and lead to further stigma. Transgender is not a sexuality, it is an identity, just like male and female is not a sexuality.
Transvestite: A person who dresses in clothing deemed gender specific to the gender they do not identify with. It is often for fun and sexual gratification, and not the same as transgender or transsexual. Many transvestites are cisgendered and straight. It is not about gender identity.
Trigender: People who identify with three genders simultaneously. They can identify as male, female, and/or any of the non-binary terms as well.
Two-Spirit: A term that comes from Native American people to describe people who do not identify or live as as one sole gender,

Versandrogyne (versatile androgyne):  an androgyne who might feel a relatively even mixture of femininity and masculinity, or perhaps none at all.

Ze/Hir: Similar to Mx as a pronoun to use for people who do not identify as He or Her. 
Zucchini: A partner who is involved in a queerplatonic relationship, as in "he's my zucchini"

Remember labels and tags can be a great way to identify yourself or describe people in some ways, but it's always an absolutely individual thing. What you identify with, and what someone else does, is not wrong or bad just because it is different. It's also important to note that thrusting labels onto other people can be deemed as rude, so it's always a great idea to find out what someone identifies with themselves, and then speak, act, communicate within the boundaries and respectfulness of what that means to them. 

Now that you are au fait with all of the sexual identity terms, head on over to your profile and check out our full range of gender expressions and sexual orientations. We’ve vastly improved available descriptors as we feel that it’s only fair that our members have the ability to express their gender identity in terms that they feel comfortable using.

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  1. Firmyoungman

    More than a month ago
    If you label me, you negate me.
  2. Jay1331

    More than a month ago
    QUESTION?
    Who is someone predominately straight or 'technically' bi-curious male who is randomly interested in women, not men, but specifically prefer Transgender? M2F pre-op. Technically bi-curious but only male in female form?? Maybe the term would be just "Confused"?
  3. neykidplay

    More than a month ago
    Oh dear,I usually get my zucchini's at the fruit shop.
  4. leisurefun

    More than a month ago
    I sexually identify as an attack helicopter
  5. JydinTobio

    More than a month ago
    While a lot of people would try to tell me I'm a lot of those labels, at the end of the day calling myself a straight heterosexual male is the only one that really feels accurate for me.
    For a lot of people using all the different labels probably helps for them to feel unique... so if it works for them then it's all cool.
  6. Sweetangelic3

    More than a month ago
    Gosh.... if I wasn't confused before, I sure am now.. I think I am way too many of the above... but still think it's really just bi sexual that loves to play with most things.... lol
  7. NLindsayfan

    More than a month ago
    Does "sapiophile" not qualify for a mention in this list?

    AMM.Editor

    More than a month ago
    We included Sapiosexual which can be used as both noun and adjective and appears from our research to be the more widely used term.
  8. Mstr.Full

    More than a month ago
    Zucchini... fascinating...

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