Everything you're bursting to know about Golden Showers!

by Eva Sless - 11 November 2015 - 30 Member Comments
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Fetishes fascinate me. They always have. As a “sexpert” I've had the opportunity over the last almost fifteen years to examine, explore and experience other people's fetishes. Sometimes in the name of research, sometimes in the name of fun, but most often a little of the two combined.

In this time I have discovered something about myself. I think I have a fetish. It's a bit of an odd one I think. It's not about anything particularly specific. My fetish is other people's fetishes. Like I said at the start, they absolutely fascinate me. I love finding out what it is that makes someone tick.

What little quirk or kink they need to get to that sexual bliss of satisfaction. And being able to find that place with someone, to give them that ultimate experience, well that turns me on incredibly.

I've had knives run over my body. Been covered in hot wax. I've trampled stiletto heels over a naked man. I've tied and been tied up. Spanked. Had my toes sucked. Been wrapped in plastic wrap so tight I could only just breathe and nothing else. I've dressed men in sexy lingerie. I've been called Mummy. I've knelt, eyes down and called someone Sir. I've worn strap-ons and latex. I've done a lot of things that step away from what we're told is “normal” sex and I've enjoyed every moment. Some I have gone back and played again for my own satisfaction, and others I have put in the “experiences” box, but all of them, for the moment they were happening, was a moment of extreme sexual satisfaction.

There are, however, a few fetishes that I come across that I've never thought about trying. Some of them are either a bit too painful (getting hooked is something I don't think I could try) or they seem (to me) a little bit, well to be blunt, gross. Scat and vomit and blood just don't do it for me. At all. The smell. The hygiene... The smell. No. Without taking away from the fact that some people find it all an extreme turn on, I cannot actually imagine myself being able to even consider those as something I could involve myself in. But then there's the fetish that, as I researched this piece, I realised was far more popular than I had first thought. That so many people I know are into that I only found out about because I wrote a Facebook post asking for opinions on it for this article. That the more I read and talk and learn about, I'm slowly moving from that “gross” pile into a more “hmmm, well maybe I could try that with the right person” pile...

I'm talking about golden showers or “watersports” as they are most often called in polite society.

The act of urinating for sexual pleasure.

I've always kind of got it in a way. I mean, I thought I did. We've all been at the place where you're so busting for a pee that it hurts. When dancing up and down on one foot is the only thing stopping you from releasing a flood onto the supermarket floor and, for some reason, it's never quite as bad as when you're trying to get the key in the lock. And then, when you do finally make it to the toilet, the relief is sublime. It's so good. So satisfying. I could totally understand how some people would relate that feeling to one of sexual release and relief. I never thought of it that way myself, but I totally understood why and how some people would. But as I researched and spoke to more and more people I found it's actually more than that. Like all fetishes it most often stems from something far more primal and deep that just the relief of letting go.

“It's the taboo of it. It's so dirty and bad that it's sexy as fuck. Like being told you can't have a biscuit but you have one anyway. Sneaky biscuits are always better. It's kind of like that” - Jane

“I remember being very little and playing with myself as I went to the toilet. There was something in that feeling that just grew and grew as I got older and now just the thought of peeing makes me horny” - Sarah

“I like the humiliation of it. The fact that she can do anything she likes to me. Being in that submissive place is a place of bliss. It's like being spanked or any kind of sub act. It's my pleasure to be her toy. It's the ultimate arousal” - John

“I love it as part of 'age play'. Whether I'm being the Big or the little doesn't matter. Peeing is such a natural act and one that releases us in similar ways that orgasming does. Sometimes a really good, satisfying pee is better than an orgasm.” - Kate

“I love the warmth of it. All over me. It's comforting and satisfying. Having her kneel above me and release that flow... It's like dirty, sexy grade A satisfaction. I'm hers and she's mine and I guess it's a bit like marking territory.” - David

Another thing I found out that I'd never really thought about before is that getting started on your golden shower journey is not as easy as you'd think.

I mean first, because of the taboo and the common thought that pee is not sexy, bringing it up with a partner is not often easy. If you thought “hey baby I want you to tie me up and spank me” was a difficult conversation to have, try “hey baby, I want you to pee all over me and then I want to do it to you”.

Infographic: Guide to Golden Showers

When Adult Match Maker conducted their Under the Covers Sex Survey they found that watersports rated pretty high when it came to sexual fantasies with 28% of Aussie blokes and 11% of Aussie women admitting it was on their fantasy list. But when it comes to our online dating profiles we're a little more conservative with only 0.05% of Adult Match Maker members listing watersports (prefer to give, prefer to receive, give or receive, would like to try) on their profiles. C'mon, we didn't know you were the shy types!

We, as humans, have been overwhelmed with preconceived idea of what is sexy and what is not, so breaking down those barriers and stepping into new territory can be a scary and unknown place. This is where trust and open communication becomes imperative. There are many ways to bring up new ideas into your bedroom play in a non-confronting way. Probably the best is to be watching or reading something that involves your fantasies with your partner. Mention that you've always been curious, gauge their reactions, see where the conversation takes you.

On the other side of that, if your partner brings up something that you may find slightly confronting or not your thing, remember that sometimes it isn't actually about you. That in a relationship or sexual partnership part of the satisfaction you receive from the experience is the knowledge that your partner is satisfied. Think about it like that. That this is your gift to them because you care about their sexual gratification just as much as your own.

Another thing that can halt your journey is something I never even thought of until talking to people about this. Pee anxiety. You know, like those times when you're in a public loo and someone sits in the stall next to you and no matter how busting you were when you walked in you just can't go? Well that happens in watersports a lot too. It can be ultra frustrating to both the pee-er and the pee-ee. The inability to go is not just the stage fright, it's also how our bodies work. Being aroused in both male and females means the urethra closes off (which is why it's so hard for men to pee when they have an erection) so it can be rather a balancing act in getting the two at the right spot. The key to this, I am told, is to relax and try not to think about it so much, and to be super well hydrated. Like heaps. To the point of bursting. Especially at the start of your foray into it. You can slowly train your body to obey your commands, but it does take quite a bit of practise, so be patient.

Ultimately, as with anything new, take it slowly. You don't have to go dousing your partner's face in urine the first time you try. Let the situation flow (pardon the pun) in a natural way. Be prepared and have loads of towels or plastic sheeting around, or try it in the shower as part of a steamy wet sex session. Remember that even though urine is sterile, it's only sterile if the person is healthy. It can still carry infections and STIs so be aware of the health risks as you would in any sex situation. And overall, have fun! Sex and sexual situations are supposed to be fun and satisfying, so get out there, explore, discover and experiment. You never know, you might just find you like it!

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  1. ozedavid

    More than a month ago
    The first time I tried this I was with a gorgeous girl in a spa bath drinking some champagne....without any warning, she stood up and started peeing on my chest. Watching and feeling her warm stream of piss gush out of her hairy pussy was incredibly erotic......she then asked me if I'd like to return the compliment, so I stood up and aimed my pee at her breasts and watched her nipples get hard instantly. It's very liberating as it breaks down so many taboos.
  2. tman7foryou

    More than a month ago
    was with a very sexy t girl. she mentioned just while having sex that she wanted to pee on me. I said yes. the smile on her face when I said yes was fantastic. it turned her on so much. that was really cool. I love being a guy that can give my partner what they want. I think that gives me a special place in her mind, as the guy that did. it felt nice to me, and I like her confidence to ask for what she wanted. that's sexy. and its about sharing, growing as a person and experiencing life, love and sexuality together. greatest gift you can give is to give of yourself. if you cant give to your partner, whats the point of being together. don't get to the end of your life and say I wish I had done this or wish I had done that. try, experience, live, love and be happy.
  3. riverina2

    More than a month ago
    my partner and i practice this all the time we find it such a big turn on we both like to drink as long as we have both drank lots of water prior but we usually let the first gush go then stop and get into it very stimulating. kinky who cares we do everything with love no pressure.
  4. Bi-Love-Julie

    More than a month ago
    I have done this with my ex when I was younger and lived in London . My ex loved to let me do it on him and at the time it was a a turn on for me maybe it was the Dom in me coming out.
    Only had one other experience and it was a bit of a turn off.
  5. qualitytime46

    More than a month ago
    drinking one's own urine is obviously popular in Australia as men like getting on the piss
  6. Samson1965

    More than a month ago
    I clearly remember the first time my ex-girlfriend pissed on me in the shower. It truly was the most memorable event in my sex life - more so than losing my virginity. I was so taken that I offered her 'anything she wanted' as a way of saying thank you and of devotion. Well, she eventually got what she wanted - a deal is a deal.
  7. sexydresser

    More than a month ago
    From experience alone, I can honestly say if parents were educated more in communicating clearer to their children and promoting open discussions more, we may just be a little more acceptant and tolerant of one and another. More importantly, rather than judgement due to lack of understanding (ultimately fear), we would rather open up a dialogue and contribute positively, rather than negatively. This way everybody wins, as truth triumphs each and every time. The more truth, the less barriers, which means, less energy spent on useless imaginary defenses and better focus on listening attentively and tolerating opposing perspectives.

    When we can be truthful with ourselves, things become a lot more simpler. No doubt this in itself is a challenge but one we must overcome else be left cringing at the thought of being pissed on and automatically associating anyone who has a golden shower fetish of one who is filthy, disgusting and whatever other feelings it invokes in you (if of course you aren't sexually aroused by it).
  8. sexydresser

    More than a month ago
    Eva, your entire approach to researching, writing, and well overall thinking is so similar to that of my methods, it's almost like I'm reading something which I wrote - but without actually writing it. Most importantly however, I think it's your ability to stop, reflect and consider all points of view while still determining your own conclusion that makes you not only a great observer but also an excellent educator.

    Now in regards to fetishes, certainly ones level of self-awareness can no doubt play a integral part in how fetishes are perceived, let alone in understanding or even acknowledging how deeply linked they are to our psyche. Building on your basis of our preconditioning, it's clearly what we have been told (or not) that has made the topic of "fetishes" or taboos difficult to openly discuss. No doubt fear is a major player in this department and seems to be used more often than it should've been, but alas this is progression - the slow rise of our consciousness. We would never feel accomplished and satisfied if everything was without resistance.

    Continued...

    DeliciousEva

    More than a month ago
    That could, quite possibly, be one of the best and loveliest comments I have ever received on my writing. Thank you. I really do they very hard to give an overall view as well as my own perspective. But without letting that overtake the facts and other people's experiences. To have you recognise that and appreciate it is so very awesome, so thank you.
    Have an awesome, sexy day! I know I will now xx
  9. Bnorty4me

    More than a month ago
    My enjoyment of this apparent taboo practice came from being ridden and my ex wife squirting ....the intimate warm sensation was amazing. Since then , the thought of being squirted on or peed on by a lady is a very erotic sensation for me. Some advice for those screwing their noses up at the thought ......don't do it first thing in the morning ?? So if a lady accidently or intentionally pees or squirts me I'm up for more ......
  10. Joneske

    More than a month ago
    I have wanted to try both ways for a few years now, though every time I bring it up with partners (casual or otherwise) I am given weird looks and the general "oh.........." Response. Woe is me.
  11. kinkywoof

    More than a month ago
    I love it both ways... :)
  12. dreamscumtrue1

    More than a month ago
    Tried it.
    Give it and received it.
    Only out of curiosity. ..
    we laughed and it was funny
    more than a turn on..
    Not rushing into the bedroom to do it every time but if asked ,might do it again...
  13. actsteeve99

    More than a month ago
    For what ever reason I love receiving golden showers - the wetter the better. Having a woman pin me down and squat over me and pee is the ultimate in submission.
  14. petal111

    More than a month ago
    Sorry for my bluntness.

    Golden bloody showers can golden bloody get stuffed. Goodness graceous me. All I can say is. DISGUISTING. YUK. but respect of other peeps choices. Defno not for me.

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    I am totally in agreement with you on this. I love the scent of cum (male or female) but piss and sh*t? - eeeecccchh
  15. Zamboon

    More than a month ago
    with the right partner it is amazingly erotic ... and on finding a lady without inhibitions and who is into gs is an absolute bonus - loads of water needed to make it flow and less concentrated - a great sexperience...
  16. WorthlessSlut

    More than a month ago
    I love being pissed on and then being forced to drink it !
  17. GoldenKiwi666

    More than a month ago
    My favourite 'fetish' And surprisingly easy to convince women who are against ire to begin with to try
  18. lookn2mtu

    More than a month ago
    Always been one of my fantasies but like most, hard to find someone to try it with.
  19. LadyDragon

    More than a month ago
    I've been seeing someone (met on AMM) for about 2 months and trust him. He is MUCH more experienced than I, and is making my life very exciting. He asked for GS and, while not being sure of how I'd feel, was happy to oblige. In the large corner bath! No water.... except mine ;-) As long as it is something someone likes, why not?! Golden showers first, normal shower after... both were relaxing and fun! If these fetishes, kinks and so called aberrations are only between consenting adults, what's the.problem?

    Bnorty4me

    More than a month ago
    Go for it girl , he's one lucky guy. I wish you both the wettest of fun in the future
  20. FriendlySpoon

    More than a month ago
    Yes pleaasse. Have never found a women who is actually into it but would really love to try it one day.
  21. hotguyyes

    More than a month ago
    I love golden showers both giving and receiving! Unfortunately its so hard to find a watersports playmate. Cheers and drink up! ;)
  22. Kyzahashtag

    More than a month ago
    Hey Eva,
    I have met hot Mature lady on AMM recently. I had never experienced the G/S before. She is absolutely turned on by G/S giving and receiving and I must admit the feeling of the warm fluid over your body is quite erotic ??????
  23. abcplus1

    More than a month ago
    Ummmmm, no thanks. Not for us. But to each their own as they say.
  24. 2sexymen4u

    More than a month ago
    We have experienced this with with several mature ladies and couples recently and taken turns giving one another golden showers. We have found this very exhilarating and would recommend that people try at least once and see if for you.
  25. Upforit00069

    More than a month ago
    Pissing on someone. ...... not our thing at all and no amount of encouragement will change this.
  26. wombat13t

    More than a month ago
    I have loved watersports receiving for many years started when I was young as you fool around learning as you go I used to lay in bath and pee in the air all over myself and later in life found a female that loves it as much as I do and for years we had lots of wet fun but find it hard to find others that enjoy it
  27. 1easygoin1

    More than a month ago
    Have given thought to this subject many times but decided golden showers is not for me. Mainly for the possible health implications STIs etc that you expressed in your last paragraph Eva. Though Ive heard that consuming your own urine can be beneficial to your health and does have a following, but not me as yet.

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