Oral Sex: How to get a guy to go down on you!

by Adult Match Maker - 24 July 2015 - 29 Member Comments

If you've been lucky enough that you've grown to expect compulsory oral, it can be pretty baffling when your new playmate won't take the hint.

It’s worth keeping in mind that not all men are twat hungry all the time, despite what pornography might have you believe. But before we get any further, it's probably good to just get one thing out of the way: It's probably him, not you! 

But if you crave that tongue treatment and he is reluctant to go down on you, here are some tips.

Speak up! Honest, straight-forward communication should always be at the top of your list of go-to tactics. It's true that some of you may be reading this because you've already tried - unsuccessfully - to talk about it. However, if you've yet to mention how parched your pussy is feeling, it's very likely your playmate has no idea you're feeling neglected. Guys are not mind-readers - especially when they’re preoccupied with their own raging boners.

Pamper your nether regions. A woman’s vagina is her territory, so you definitely shouldn’t let your boyfriend’s preferences dictate how you primp and pamper your pussy. Still, if you want him to spend lots of face time between your legs, you’ll need to consider what might be turn ons and turn offs to him. This may mean compromising - if he isn’t a fan of pubic hair but you are, perhaps some trimming (rather than full-on shaving) is in order. Talk to him about what turns him on most about the female anatomy, and once he starts to open up, you might get some hints on what you can do to make your pussy as appetising as possible. Our blog article about the waxing and waning of pubic hair trends received a lot of member comments but the opinion was divided so it is an individual preference.

Use positive reinforcement. Some men have spent a lot of time buried in muff, but it's entirely likely that your man is hesitant to go downtown because he's inexperienced, or nervous he'll suck at it (pun intended). Use words of encouragement to show him when he's on the money, or offer a gentle push: "I'd go crazy for a little bit of tongue right about now," could be the hint he needs.

Show (and maybe tell a little). If the issue is that your man is going down on you occasionally, but not enough to satisfy you, then you may be dealing with a different problem. Every woman is different, so maybe what worked on his ex isn't doing it for you as much. Men are often highly attuned to how you're reacting, so if this is the case, he may have gotten discouraged after receiving a lukewarm response from you. Everyone's always talking about how you should ask for what you want, but sometimes words feel inadequate for the task, or it can feel like a bit of a buzzkill to speak up in the middle of the act. If there's a certain kind of pressure you like, demonstrate it with your fingers first. If he’s paying attention, he’ll get the hint.

Consider staging your own boycott. Of course, if you love sucking dick for sucking dick's sake, by all means, keep it up. But if all give and no receive is leaving you frustrated, remember that you're under no obligation to keep doing something that’s not being reciprocated. Bear in mind, this should be a last-ditch tactic - talking to him first is essential, or else he may not understand why he’s suddenly feeling dry.

One more caveat: You really shouldn't have to resort to mind games in order to get your partner to reciprocate. On the other hand, no one should feel pressured to do anything they're not comfortable with in bed. Maybe pussy-eating just isn't up your man's alley, but if that's the case, he should be seeking alternative routes to help you get off. If not, you might just have a selfish chump on your hands.

If you enjoyed this article then you might enjoy reading How to help her love blow jobs as much as you do!

29 Member Comments

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  1. Fellator2145

    More than a month ago
    Eating pussy is wonderful and so is cock.
  2. sweet.dreams2

    More than a month ago
    I've never had an issue telling a guy how and what I like him doing to my pussy, however I am respectful and kind in my suggestions. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar (be nice when you bring this topic up). Lots of encouragement for what he is doing well is really important.
  3. hiphopmulisha

    More than a month ago
    If a man doesn't like eating pussy then you need to find a guy that absolutely loves it and loves it when a woman comes hard down your throat with tangy pussy cum.
    Hairy or no hair its fantastic and it is a must for all men to engage in.
  4. mauricegerard

    More than a month ago

    if you are ignorant of your partners wants...needs...desires
    you dont deserve them
    if you think its just your background that determines your views today
    you dont deserve them
    sex is the greatest thing we humans have
    we express love
    we experiment
    if it is that you have a partner that wont allow you to do something that you like doing
    they dont deserve you
    move on...get over it and get horny
    cos for every one person that hates things in bed
    theres 100 that love it
  5. hornyandcheeky

    More than a month ago
    There are quite a lot of men who don't enjoy eating pussy and for me that is a deal breaker. They don't want to eat pussy yet expect their cock to be sucked - no sorry that doesn't work for me
  6. hardandready26

    More than a month ago
    Nothing is finer. It turns me on knowing I give pleasure. And that shaking feeling a girl gets before they cum is the best. Then, well you can coat my mouth with pussy juice. Yummy


    More than a month ago
    OMG that was so sexy. You must eat pussy well to know how true it is that a woman shakes before she comes.
  7. freetogiverall

    More than a month ago
    nothing finer then eating a ladys vagina ,, yum
  8. stay2play

    More than a month ago
    Really just ask! If it not on the nose (assume personal hygiene) then its a given, "A ride there for a ride back".
  9. manlyfun

    More than a month ago
    Hot sex and fulfilling sex is sex that is mutual. NOT one way.

    But some woman seem to be quite self focused hence the reason why they are feeling left out!!
  10. TheWilyGreyFox

    More than a month ago
    This will maybe be a bit confronting, but as a true lover of oral on a female.....and yes, I see it as making love to the clit with my tongue n gums....what really turns me off is when a woman is a heavy smoker, or smokes high tar cigarettes. For the female's nether regions are full of glands, that secrete fluids......and tar and nicotine when they are ingested into the body from the lungs, being chemicals, move about the body. So, when the next comedian makes light of the comment about "it's like licking an astray", remember....a heavy smoker's vagina is 'very' likely to taste that way. (Another good reason to give up or cut back on smoking ladies (and gents.....)!


    More than a month ago
    That's interesting regarding the smoking fact. Yuck! Another reason I'm glad to not be a smoker. I love receiving oral too much to taste and smell bad down there.
  11. NortyBlueEyes4U

    More than a month ago
    Seriously.. Is this a really an issue? Surely this can,t be so... I'm dumbfounded.. I love the taste of a woman and making her cum with my tongue! 69 the best.. cumming at the same time!
  12. PabsFitForever

    More than a month ago
    I had a muso mate used to do a song that summed it up...... will just quote the chorus...
    "Oral sex.....It's the kind I like best,
    Tongue & Fingers..... Cunnilingus...
    69er........ Nothing could be finer...
    Aint no side effects.... with Oral Sex."
    really what more is there to say...


    More than a month ago
    I love yr poem but rather disagree with side effects part.. people seem to forget u can catch exotic.amazing stuff from oral alone goes for male and female. Safety first.for.me.
  13. derail61

    More than a month ago
    What about if your a male and have a female partner who thinks a blow job is just in porn movies and not a normal act in a relationship? I am missing such fun even though I go down on her and we both enjoy that immensely!


    More than a month ago
    that's one of the first things you do, suck tits then go to eat pussy and suck toes while your pounding the pussy that you just licked
  14. sexigreenize59

    More than a month ago
    Smooth and clean is always better. Nothing worse than getting those short and curlies caught between your teeth.


    More than a month ago
    I absolutely agree..
  15. msviolet

    More than a month ago
    I must admit I have never been in that situation. To me sex without orgasm seems unfinisd. I do agree with one thing, down under needs grooming, i am bi, I am not a.fan.of hairs down there but that's me and I prefer clean and pretty Vagina if I am going anywhr near it. Ladies if u want yr partner to lick you to yr hearts content then tell him, and tell him wat u like nd how u want, harder slower this way that way or that's just annoying. They will get the message fast without being offended.
    most man want lively women in.bed sumone who doesn't just lie there but also participate in getting her own orgasm.
    so ladies speak up be selfish no harm in that.

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