What you need to know about Pansexuality!

by Adult Match Maker - 22 June 2015 - 21 Member Comments
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If you’ve heard the term “Pansexuality” recently and it left you scratching your head, you’re not alone.

So Katy Perry kissed a girl and she liked it, Miranda Kerr said "Never say never" about the possibility of experimenting with women, Mel B confessed she kissed all the Spice Girls and Josh Hutcherson was quoted in OUT Magazine as not ruling out that he could be attracted to guys in the future and that "defining yourself as 100 percent anything is kind of near-sighted and close-minded".

For those of us on the front lines of the ongoing sexual revolution, announcements like these aren’t any big surprise. The past few decades have shown a major, positive shift in the way we view sexuality and gender, and many of us are more comfortable talking about our unique wants and needs.

Of course, there’s still a lot of work to be done for the LGBTI community, but these days, people are talking about additional steps for gender and sexuality equality - something that's a lot less about "types" and "categories".

Pansexuality is about being attracted to any and all types of people, regardless of sex, gender, or sexual orientation. Some would say it even goes beyond the particulars of gender and sex, encompassing attractions to people of all races, backgrounds, religious beliefs, and occupations.

Of course, that's not to say you can't have personality "types" as a pansexual, or that you love everyone, everywhere, all at once. It just means you're capable of being attracted to a wide variety of people. 

Think of it this way: You can still be a lesbian if you're not attracted to Iggy Azalea. You can also be pansexual if you couldn't see yourself boinking her…but you could see yourself having sex with a woman. And a man. And a gender queer person, and someone who's intersex, or transgender, and so on.

"Pansexual" is also not to be confused with "polysexual", which indicates a capacity to be attracted to multiple genders, but not necessarily all of them.

Now that we've got this all straight (in theory, it's anything but straight), what does this mean in a big-picture sense?

Make no mistake about it, this isn't an insignificant shift. Instead, it’s a victory in the efforts made by queer activists to bring attention to non-binary genders, and by extension, the non-binary attractions that come with the territory. 

And, as a matter of course, it's given people a new vocabulary to describe themselves. Lots of people have been dealing in shades of grey their entire lives, but now that there are ways to talk about these things, people are seeing themselves (and each other) in a much more fluid light.

So fluid, in fact, that The Australian's Ruth Ostrow wrote a column last month titled "Hello, is anyone out there still straight?"

Ostrow explains "It’s queer, straight, bi, older, younger, but also being open to all behaviours: you can love an S&M master just as easily as a Buddhist master. It’s people," she explains.

Adult Match Maker's Under the Covers Sex Survey found that 68% of participants identified as heterosexual and 5% as unsure. But, approximately half of all participants who did not identify as bisexual had thought about having sex with someone of a different gender to their usual partner or partners.  And over 70% of participants said they would consider having sex with someone of another gender if requested by a partner.

Perhaps American rapper Angel Haze sums it up best: “I’m not gay, I’m not straight, I’m not bisexual -I don’t care,” she says. “At the end of the day, I just want someone to connect with.”

So where do you sit on the sexuality curve?

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  1. Inneed57

    More than a month ago
    Interesting that I cannot express my orientation as pansexual on this site. Is something wrong here?

    AMM.Editor

    More than a month ago
    Watch this space ... it's not far away ... that and more ...
  2. heretoplay13

    More than a month ago
    But after the article you do not have Pansexual listed as a option for profiles?

    AMM.Editor

    More than a month ago
    Watch this space ... it's not far away ... that and more ...
  3. Crizzy82

    More than a month ago
    Think I finally found a label for me haha, sweet. I always just called it heteroflexible

    AMM.Editor

    More than a month ago
    That's really cool! We have another article to publish with 80+ to choose from.
  4. socialsuicide01

    More than a month ago
    "And over 70% of participants said they would consider having sex with someone of another gender if requested by a partner"......lol and that encompasses all of the couples that state no single guys but list the female partner as "bi"......its quite sad really. Its all about the boring male fantasy of 2 girls, because the male is eternally threatened by a bigger cock or the +1 male being a better fuck. We play MFM a lot, and i have to say that when my wife is fucked well it does nothing other than please me, if the other guy has a bigger cock it does nothing other than please ( and scare) my wife.
  5. SomeSex4UnMe

    More than a month ago
    I have put my "real" sexuality to the back of my mind for 50 years! I was diagnosed as a girl in a boys body when I was 7! But the bitch that called herself my mother refused to allow me to grow up as a girl.
    It has taken me fifty years to come to terms with who I am, and the fact that yes I want to have sex with another man.
    I have opened up to family and friends about my gender and they have been fantastic, I get to go to my friends as Wendy for a day. Which is great since at the moment I have to hide Wendy away when I get home, as I share my house with my ex and we are fighting over custody.
    I have had a beard for as long as I can remember to "hide Wendy and protect my manhood".
    My first wife new about me nearly 40 years ago, and accepted my bisexuality as well as my dressing up and was very supportive. But I have not dared to tell any other woman I have been with. Which is a great shame, since I could have been living as a Lady for nearly 40 years! Oh how my life would have changed!
    As for been called pansexual I can see no difference between bisexuality all it does is say you are not a racist! And you are willing to love anyone, and that is the way we should all live our lives anyway. So to me there is no difference, between a bisexual and pansexual. As a bisexual most would be open to sex with any "gender" wouldn't they? Whether it be mm ff or ftm or mtf.

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    Surely "bisexual" means attracted to both sexes, being attracted to the opposite is heterosexual

    Joltsgirl

    More than a month ago
    Now this is just my two cents here, by the way congrats on coming to terms with your sexuality :).

    I personally see pansexuality as something completely different to bisexuality.

    Being pansexual means you are attracted to a wide vary of people, ie transgender/transsexual/cross dresser etc whereas bisexuality is being attracted to the opposite of your own sex, hence the 'bi' meaning two
  6. Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    What I would like to know, and what no-one's explained to me to date, is - what's the difference between pansexual and bisexual?

    Leolady727

    More than a month ago
    As a bisexual woman, I am attracted to BOTH men and women, not either/or, so I don't see where the difference is.

    AMM.Editor

    More than a month ago
    There is quite a good article at differencebetween.net which explains it in detail.

    Joltsgirl

    More than a month ago
    It's generally you are attracted anyone regardless of race,religion, sexual preference etc, whereas bisexuality you are attracted to either male or female. Hope this helps :)
  7. Joltsgirl

    More than a month ago
    Thank you for this, now we need to accept it & have it as a preference on this site, also a clear definition of transgender/transsexuals & cross dressers

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