Diary of a Swinger

by Scarlet Black - 15 July 2014 - 9 Member Comments

The true story of Scarlet Black and her explorations of the swinging lifestyle in Australia!

Diary of a Swinger is the true story of how Scarlet Black and her husband became involved in what is euphemistically, called “the lifestyle”. It charts her journey from scared, no petrified, first timer to an experienced confident sexually liberated woman enjoying the attention of several men (and women for that matter). It is an honest often jaw dropping read where she shares her euphoric highs as well as the occasional lows of self-doubt. Written from a female perspective it's not only about steaming hot sex, but also about the big things in life such as “what am I going to wear?” It is fun, exciting, erotic and above all true.

Adult Match Maker spoke to Scarlet Black and asked her to share some personal insights!


Q. If you did it all again, what would you do differently?

Start earlier! I discovered the scene relatively late and now I see all the sexy fun I could have been having for all these years. Seriously, there probably isn’t that much I would change. It took Jack and me quite a long time to get to where we are today, but even with hindsight I don’t think we could have got here much quicker. I do feel that I worried far too much at the beginning and was probably disproportionately nervous each time we went out. I think I was anxious about not making the grade or ending up in some sexual compromise that I would not be happy with, but in reality neither of those things ever happened.

Q. All the experts say to talk at length about your expectations / rules before you do anything. You didn’t seem to talk about it much until a problem arose. Was that to keep the flow of the book or is that what really happened?

I think I did mention our rules in the book and more importantly how I kept stretching them (sounds better than “breaking them” don’t you think?). Jack and I spent countless hours talking about what we would and would not do. Every time before we went out we would discuss our rules and our boundaries, however in the throes of the moment I was always the one that took it that one step further. I won’t give too much away about what causes the problem you mention, people will have to read the book for that. In reality though, we probably set down the rules more for my comfort really, but when I eventually had full penetrative sex with another man, Jack seemed quite relieved, I guess for him it meant game on! Today we don’t have any rules as such and that now seems to work fine for us.

Q. Have your swinging friends spilt over into your vanilla life?

We have met a lot of nice people in the scene, some of whom have become quite good friends. That said we really do prefer to keep our swinging and vanilla life very separate. Not sure if it counts but we have had vanilla dinners with swinging friends.

Q. What would be the 3 pieces of advice you'd like to share with newbies.

I hate giving advice as everyone is so different, but here goes:

  • DO NOT enter the swinging world unless as a couple you are rock solid. If you think that swinging will help fix a problem with your relationship, then think again as it just won’t.
  • Make sure you discuss everything with your partner beforehand and in particular what you are comfortable with and your expectations are. Afterwards make sure you have a proper de-brief and enjoy some great sex with each other.
  • Finally, read my book. Well I had to say it didn’t I?

We hope you enjoy this extract from Diary of a Swinger...

Jack has finally persuaded Scarlet to visit a swingers club and despite all her nerves and reservations the evening has been quite pleasant. It had been agreed beforehand that the only thing they would do on this first outing was observe what went on and soak up the atmosphere. We join them as the evening comes to a close…

We settle ourselves back downstairs and Jack asks if I am ready to leave, but I am happy to stay a little longer, I feel very relaxed and happy to watch any more action that might take place.

We dance and we flirt with each other and chat with other couples. We watch some more action and before we know it two hours has flown by. Several people have left and Jack and I decide that maybe we too should think about leaving.

The young guy, who was at the massage table earlier, walks past us, wearing only a towel. “Had a good evening?” he asks.

Adrian turns out to be extremely confident and very friendly and the three of us chat for a while. He points out the couple that he was with earlier in the evening. She is completely naked and is lying in the sex swing while her partner gently fucks her.

“She’s lovely,” says Adrian, “she’s got the most amazing tits.”

Not the sort of conversation I am generally used to, but hey?

“I’m going up to join them, do you want to come?”

We explain that we are about to leave so Adrian bids us farewell and makes his way up the stairs to the other couple. We watch for a while and within a few seconds Adrian has dropped his towel and the woman in the swing starts to suck his cock, while still being fucked by her partner.

“Do you want to go and watch for a few minutes before we go?” asks Jack.

“Sure.” I say.

Soon we are standing right by the swing. I can clearly see this woman is really enjoying the experience and the attention of two men. Jack asks her if he can touch her breasts. She nods and Jack and Adrian have a short conversation about how good they feel. Jack turns to me and asks if it would be alright if he kissed her breasts.

I whisper back in his ear, “No it wouldn’t!”

Soon things start to break up, Adrian begins to move off and the couple begin to untangle themselves from the swing.

I will really never be able to explain what happened next.

I’m not sure if it was the accumulation of a very sexy evening, the alcohol or watching a woman enjoying the experience of two men, but something inside my head just clicked and I turned to Jack and said, “That’s a shame, I fancied a three man massage.”

I think Jack’s jaw nearly hit the floor.

One thing, I can always guarantee is that Jack can make things happen. Within seconds he has called Adrian back and agreed with the other couple that we should all make our way back to the massage table. Jack decides to fill our glasses and I make my way with the other three up the steep steps.

I quickly peel off my dress and lie face down on the massage table. (You may well recall that when I left the hotel I had my Bridget Jones knickers on and you may also remember that I said that no way was I going to change into the slinky black pair I had slipped into my handbag. Well on my last trip to the bathroom I changed. Don’t ask me why, I just did, okay?)

The two men cover me with some scented oil and start to massage my back and my legs. God, it’s lovely. The feel of four strange hands running across my body is very exciting and the experience certainly doesn’t disappoint.

Jack finally arrives with our drinks and I think he is surprised to see me half naked on the table with two men. Jack soon joins in and suddenly six hands are finding their way over my silky body. The other woman moves from man to man and rubs her breasts across their backs.

Eventually someone says, “Time to turnover.”

I coyly refuse but I know that I won’t resist for long.

“Come on.”

I slowly turn over onto my back and now I feel two men massaging my breasts, my shoulders, my stomach. Jack’s fingers make their way to my knickers and he easily slips his fingers inside me. Seconds later I feel a euphoric wave surge through my body and somewhere in the distance I hear myself moan with pleasure.

As I try to catch my breath, “It’s Jack’s turn,” I cry.

I jump off the massage table and I am quickly replaced by a naked Jack who lies on his back expectantly. The woman and I (I’m sorry I don’t know her name) proceed to give Jack a sensual massage while the other two men touch our backs and our breasts and occasionally our pussies.

It’s not long before we both start playing with Jack’s erect cock. I gently massage his balls and the other woman takes Jack deep into her mouth. I look at Jack’s face and he is in ecstasy. Hey he’s finally having that threesome he has always wanted. (Well sort of).

I kiss Jack. It is deep. It is intense. It is nothing like either of us has ever experienced before. We have always enjoyed great sex, but we have just reached new heights and new exciting experiences. I can feel Adrian’s erect cock rubbing across my bottom as he leans behind me and fondles my nipples. The woman and I take turns in sucking Jack’s cock while Jack fingers us both at the same time.

This lasts for several minutes until finally Jack seems to have had enough and we all stand up and collect our clothes. It is definitely time to go.

We stay chatting to our three new friends until our taxi arrives. We politely bid our farewells and fall into the taxi. It’s long after 2 am.

As soon as we get to the hotel Jack and I rip each other’s clothes off and quickly make love before we both fall into a restless and erotic sleep.

Somewhere in the distance I hear alarm bells. I have no idea where I am. “Come on,” says Jack, “there’s a fire alarm going off.”

We both grab some clothes and stick our heads out into the corridor. Other heads are doing the same. “False alarm,” someone calls, “it’s always going off.”

We clamber back to bed with the alarm still wailing. I’m too tired to get out of bed again and decide that burning to death might be a better option.

We wake up at 6 am and we are both still as horny as hell. We make love once more and as I lay there at the brink of another orgasm I can’t help thinking that our journey has certainly begun.

Diary of a Swinger by Scarlet Black is available as an ebook on Amazon

9 Member Comments

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  1. mmfbimale

    More than a month ago
    Just finished reading it. Fantastic read, and great to hear the experience from the female side.
    We are new to our swinging side, and this just puts us more at ease, and that its fine to be nervous.
  2. fanTCwishList

    More than a month ago
    this book sounds interesting.... especially as I am interested in the whole swinging concept but find myself nervous as all heck! I feel swinging as a couple is both more complex yet easier than swinging as a single even if only because you have someone watching your back....

    Thank you AMM for the excerpt, definitely food for thought (and fuel for fantasy... :) )
  3. pleasingcple

    More than a month ago
    we have had some good experiences swinging and lots me fun meeting new ppl. would like to try a party. maybe will soon.
  4. judeee

    More than a month ago
    it sounds like our life or very close life should b fun for us all if its not fun stop lol
  5. Funboysclub

    More than a month ago
    We certainly see this time and again. It takes time to feel right, it is nerve racking for first timers. Eventually the girls or couples that come to play go off big time once they make the decision to go for it. But it's important to be ready and also to know that not playing because your not ready is also fine. Swinging is true freedom!!
  6. snugglebug78

    More than a month ago
    Ahhhh got a little erotic and sexciting I so wish I could experience this.... Who wants to take me on this journey to heaven of hornyness hmmmm?
  7. passionatepair4

    More than a month ago
    Fantastic!...great to hear such a positive first experience was had.
    Very erotic story and very titilating...yum.

    Happy swinging to all ;)
  8. ourfuntimes

    More than a month ago
    Sounds wonderful as we are about to go on our first journey :)
  9. Beachbabe71

    More than a month ago
    Oh wow I just got so aroused reading this exert from the book I'm now going to go and buy the book........

    So turned on.......

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