Let's have a threesome!

by Chantelle Austin - 29 January 2012 - 79 Member Comments
Let's have a threesome!

When you say, “let’s have a threesome” what do you mean exactly?

I read a forum question about this recently and it was talking about the various ways people define what a threesome is in terms of who does what, where the pleasure is focused and the configurations both men and women prefer, and why. So I thought it might be worth sharing what I learned, what I think and allow you to explore the definition for yourself.

So the typical configurations when it comes to the average couple is MFM or FMF, and typically men love the idea of FMF’s more than MFM’s. I say “typically” but know there are plenty of men out there who are not your typical men (hats off to you guys). You can have MMM’s and FFF’s too, they just aren’t as talked about. The types are still relevant to these but I just won’t be focused on them.

Now there are at least three ways threesomes work (no pun intended but it works so go with it): Unidirectional, bidirectional and multidirectional.

The issue that some men have when thinking about having another man naked in the room with them, is a fear/worry about the other man touching or playing with them in some way. If you’re into that sort of thing then yes it could be, however, in a unidirectional scenario, it’s more like having a team mate to help overload her senses; two-on-one, a kind of mission to see how orgasmic you can make her when you have extra hands, an extra tongue and another rock hard to pleasure her with. Which can be really nice for the female in the centre (I can vouch for that).

So unidirectional is where the pleasure focus is in one direction. It’s also done as an MFM where the female is pleasuring both the guys however and wherever possible, which is a very familiar scenario (often the favourite in porn for men), and the other variation on this one is in an FMF where the pleasure focus is on the man from both women. This specific scenario tends to rank number one on men’s fantasy bucket list, and who can blame them, I like it when it’s all about me too!

Bidirectional is where you have two out of the three parties pleasuring each other while the third watches or plays with themselves, and then often at some point one person is almost tapped out and the waiting person steps in. This is a good scenario when you have one person who is needs a break i.e. when you’re into the hard-core penetration part of the night and the orgasm hasn’t eventuated yet. It can be two guys who swap in and out so the female can orgasm, or the two girls swapping for a guy who mimics the Duracell/Energizer bunny and keeps going and going and… you get the point.

Multidirectional is literally an all in! I personally quite like this scenario and it’s more likely if the two same sex participants are at least bi-curious or bisexual (although technically this could be bi-directional… but that would be confusing). This is where the play is shared, you have 2 hands and one is on each of the other participants and you have at least 2 different body parts playing with you. It can be a daisy chain where it’s more of a circular pattern of play that changes direction (perhaps that’s another type altogether… but let’s not complicate things).

In reality what often happens is you all start with one type, move onto another and sometimes incorporate all 3 to some degree. There are no strict rules stating you must start and finish with the same type, although I can just see it now, the Police turning up on your doorstep with their fine book and giving you a ticket for straying from unidirectional to multidirectional… Ha!

So there you have it… just when you thought you were all talking about the same thing I’ve gone and blown the lid off it and muddied the waters with all my threesome techno-geek speak. Suffice it to say, now that you know, all you have to do is ask a few simple questions to decipher if the image you have in your head is the same as theirs when you get asked “would you like to have a threesome?”

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  1. lickylouie

    More than a month ago
    Yes love the MFM threesome the best. Well written article. Thing is everyone needs to be comfortable and yes it truly heightens your libido for many days afterwards.....Choose the third wheel carefully and remember it is pure lust and enjoyment and remember who truly loves you is your partner who has the sexual maturity to allow this great experience to happen. Cheers Love It
  2. Readytoplease91

    More than a month ago
    It's kinda my fantasy and I'd love to have one ;)
  3. zoomzoom13

    More than a month ago
    it has to have a balance in the practice ...because simply there are 3...not 2...so one must have a happy envioroment sexual for everyones comfort and to keep issues out and to enjoy the moment with 3...and all have a good time.i had experience with past bi girlfriend 3s.with male and you ask if it is a good balance and yes i this i that all good...then it is more like her..her ..more her and she gets unconfortable and i dont see it great as i need some to so ...yeah balance and balance respect the choice you are making and all enjoy.
  4. Sultryz

    More than a month ago
    Great article, for myself I love nothing better than watching another male explore my wife's body which satisfies us both on multiple levels.
  5. jimb031951

    More than a month ago
    Flashjewels said it for me. One of my most memorable sights during my only FMF experience was watching the girls in a 69 position. Gets me hard just thinking about it. Having said that one kissing me passionately and one sucking my cock came a very close second. It's a two way street though, everyone needs to leave with the feeling that were the focus and weren't left out. I remember talking to a lady who was telling me of her FMF and she left the action because all the focus was between the other FM.
  6. mmfbimale

    More than a month ago
    MMF ism definitely our favourite. Very good read
  7. luckyforsum617

    More than a month ago
    Do enjoy FFM very much as get to explore both parties and enjoy and have fun ,,also enjoy 4 somes with the right couple
  8. luckyforsum617

    More than a month ago
    Never had MMF,but had a few FFM and do enjoy
  9. keepitreal19

    More than a month ago
    Ffm is awesome and Mfm is great when there's openess and passion
  10. Comeplay2

    More than a month ago
    Multi bidirectional ROCKS !!!!!! :)
  11. Dinks67

    More than a month ago
    Yes all sounds good to us. We are straight but not shy to get close to same sex if its a means to pleasuring the partner. We love couple on couple where we play together swapping partners and also playing with each other through the course of the evening. Sometimes sitting back and enjoy watching the other with another person. But then we also love mfm. Here I the male loves to take a step back and watch my wife enjoy the delights of another man and every so often join in where theres a gap sort of speak.
  12. 1st.ROSE

    More than a month ago
    I suppose I'm just greedy ..I love it ALL hmmmmm
  13. suzie007

    More than a month ago
    yeah good points Chantelle, you've covered a lot! Many variations main point being, that all participants LIKE what they're doing, a regard for everyone, it happens when experience kicks in!
  14. tattoorob

    More than a month ago
    tattoorob well our threesome didnt turn out the way i wanted the male took over her and for 4 hours he fucked her in every position even anally she didnt want me on the bed with them just wanted me to watch but she refused to have a girl that i could enjoy even though i let her fuck 4 other men she didnt want me to join in with them is she a selfish bitch or am i just a loving man who loves his wife or one day will she treat me to a female we both can enjoy neither of us are bi but i hope one day she will try and i no i would pleasure both of them not letting either of them miss out my fantazy she had hers and enjoyed herself
  15. funthreesome

    More than a month ago
    For me an MFM 3some is the best sex I have, perhaps the voyeur in me but love making a hot lady the centre of attention. Totally straight but don't mind a bit of contact during DP or when our cocks come together in her mouth. See a few of us single guy do genuinely enjoy a straight MFM threesome.
  16. CityFun63

    More than a month ago
    Yep, multi-directional MFM tops my list.
  17. boris8

    More than a month ago
    Ido believ that it depends ot the particpants, likes, I like fmf, but not to just to have 2 girls on me I think its a real threat seeing or watching a girl touching gracfully another girl and hope to learn some thing new from a girl herslef, I do realise that a girl myth like to be touched differently but they know more how to pleas one each other, and its nice to see the other being helped out to be be pempared and taken to certain high levil of enjoyment. very informay\tive subject.
  18. MasterE

    More than a month ago
    Thank you for the eye-opening article. I could imagine many people who try any number of guys and/or any number of girl permutations have the options of trying A, B and C all at the same encounter. It comes down to the individual if they're willing to have their bread buttered on both sides haha.
  19. hughesy57

    More than a month ago
    I enjoy mfm or mmm and then the fun one mfmfm. Three or more people who are into this type of fun usually have a very intimate evening and all leave very fullfilled and exahausted. Its all great fun
  20. crystallica

    More than a month ago
    Well I have offered my services for couples and when I inform them that I want it to be unidirectional, ie ME being primarily the adored object and recipient of pleasure they have NEVER followed through. It seems the boys want me to give them a show with their girl then do us both and that dynamic doesnt work at all for me..ho hum
  21. CN65779

    More than a month ago
    The best threesome would be me making love to 2 other women at the same time, Its not all about bam wham thank you mam, rather, please two women until they have multiple orgasims and do it for a couple of hours. In reality most QLD women are far too conservertives :(
  22. trayway6977

    More than a month ago
    I just love 2, 3, 4, 5 or moresomes as long as its all consensual it doesnt matter , whether there are more males or females " More the Merrier "
    its always each to their own & acceptance of whatever all involved enjoys
  23. skyef

    More than a month ago
    informitive well wriiten and we enjoyed reading it. and covered all groups well thank you
  24. PlayfulPom3182

    More than a month ago
    Very insightful. Ihve been extremely lucky as all playmates and couples have been excellent communicators. The benefit is knowing the focus , not will he do that, will she do this angst. Thanks Chantelle for the affirmation
  25. tonymay

    More than a month ago
    well we have had a few 3somes over the years agree the main fantasy of males is to play with2 women preferably bi which we have done so fmf also we have had the other way as well mfm which wife enjoys a lot and we also me having bi tendencies enjoy a full on threesome with bi people only. we have also had the 4some ei another cpl where all are bi which is great as well no one is left out ;) so all u people out there wanting to do it just go for it with which ever combo u like. we know which ones we prefer but all are different which is just as well
  26. Rockyman35

    More than a month ago
    hmmmm what ever defination threesome or threesum lol sounds like a hell of a fun night to me......
  27. gemini1947

    More than a month ago
    We have found that having a third party heightens our sexual pleasures for several days afterward.
  28. camper1962

    More than a month ago
    for us,,me and my partner.we are still leaning the enjoyment from it,mfm being good but yet to have fmf.but looking.
  29. yowzer697

    More than a month ago
    like just about everyone I'm open to a threesome with the right people and right circumstances. To me fmf is equal to mmf.
  30. funmummy44

    More than a month ago
    Well it is something that I am willing to try
  31. Flashjewels

    More than a month ago
    I have to disagree with your interpretation of the majority of men's fantasy bucket list. I have found from talking to men and believe me I have talked to a lot in my 64 years that most men when it comes to FMF are more interested in watching the 2 women focussing on each other rather than on him.
  32. paddy138

    More than a month ago
    I do prefer fmf, but mfm is ok as long as the guy doesnt touch me. How the hell that is going to happen on this site I dont know. All response I get is negative. One on one with a girl would be nice too, but there only negative response. Us guys outnumber the girls 10 to 1 on hear. Hopefully things will change for the better for me soon.
  33. Philthi

    More than a month ago
    very interesting reading. thank you it kind of ratifies my own personal idea of " if it feels right, go for it"
  34. ifp2004

    More than a month ago
    Very well written. Its all about choice..but most folk have too many taboos to really enjoy the true pleasures of being inolved in the full spectrum of the terminology you so aptly decsribed.
  35. leisurely

    More than a month ago
    thanks for your easy-to-read outline of a field of pleasure which is all too often left in the world of fantasy! We should all be inspired to get out there and enjoy the world of threes!
  36. weerobby67

    More than a month ago
    I'm still dreaming of a threesome, never been there.
  37. bendigoman2

    More than a month ago
    Chantelle thanks for the informative insight on this very exciting way of having some group fun, I cant wait to try it in which ever direction it takes.
  38. SuthernComfort4

    More than a month ago
    Could't have expressed it more clearly, can agree with MOST of the observations and comments but as for the male #1 bucket list have to disagree. MY perspective, but there again EACH TO THERE OWN
  39. w.inticipation

    More than a month ago
    it all depends on the chemistry open muti bi just sexy fun cheers,
  40. SexySaucySuzie

    More than a month ago
    Enlightening article, well written and easily understood by a novice (me). TY Chantelle
  41. dougie5

    More than a month ago
    I believe it depends on what people put in their profiles,and the honesty it displays to other people,
  42. MrMrsPlaymate

    More than a month ago
    We just love multidirectional threesomes - everyone is pleasured. It is such a sensual, sexual experience.
  43. horneeDevil26

    More than a month ago
    very eye opening :) thank you..
    hopefully others we talk too will be in the know of the lingo also.

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