Our first Threesome!

by Chantelle Austin - 12 July 2011 - 3 Member Comments
Our first Threesome!

Well it’s personal choice and one that we struggled with ourselves in the beginning. Here is how we worked through it and how it turned out for us.

Let’s see… We originally decided we would go for a stranger because my husband wasn’t sure how he’d go seeing me with another man for a start. He was concerned that he might worry about me wanting to meet up with the other guy again, or that he might feel ok seeing him in the street. He wondered if he would get jealous if he saw us talking at a gathering somewhere and so on.

So we ventured into the online world and met someone in another city but the trouble with that was that once we met in person, we realized that there was no physical spark or attraction to take it further. It was a bit awkward to be honest and it put me off doing it that way for a while…

Then the discussion came to “well how about we try it with someone we trust”; someone we knew understood that it would be a one-time thing (or more if we chose it to be). We wanted someone we would feel comfortable with and whom hubby didn’t feel threatened by; someone that would respect our relationship and our commitment to each other. He had to be someone who I was physically attracted to and probably single. We figured it would be the least complicated situation…

Funnily enough a good friend of ours became single for a while and he became the prime candidate. After all he was a sexy man with rippling biceps, washboard abs and a sex-drive of champions… It was a bit hard to pass up that opportunity. At least you’d think so right? Wrong… I chickened out. I was scared I wouldn’t be good enough in bed! Silly huh! Well he did have some very gorgeous girlfriends, and I was a mother so my body wasn’t quite the same as it used to be. Yes, I hear you, there were some self esteem issues back then but still, I know some people will relate to this.

When we eventually (years later) decided to create that threesome, we went online and took our time to meet and chat to people. We met a few people in person but we waited until we found the right people whom we clicked with in a physical and friendship way.

So should you have a friend or a stranger for your first threesome? Personally you can do either. My suggestion is to work out what you feel most comfortable with. After years in the scene I have found that playing with someone you are both familiar with and attracted to, who is willing to play by your rules, is the best one to play with and it doesn’t matter if they’re a friend who isn’t in the lifestyle, or someone you meet in the scene who then becomes a friend.

The great thing about someone you meet in the scene is that you can play once and never have to see them again. The great thing about playing with a friend is that it’s more likely to involve a person who respects you and your relationship, or can turn out to be a good friend with benefits. It’s not always the case but it depends on the friend, and you would be a better judge of who is like that than me.

At the end of the day, it’s what feels best for the 2 of you. Try one way and if it doesn’t work for you, try the other but always have fun!

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  1. littleshy58

    More than a month ago
    my hubby suggested a three sum to me a few years back at first i said no then he suggested a young guy from out of town we met this young guy and had a coffee he was only 23 but looked older after about 2 hours of chatting I finaly said yes and we went and got a motel room . we played all night both hubby and steve fucked and licked me till I could not take any more .now I cant get enough of young guys wish I started having mfm 3sums years earlier best thing ever
  2. Herbertgirl

    More than a month ago
    My have has now been with four guys, two in one night about 30 mins after each other (that was a great night), I love watching her and join in with another guy to please my wife. I'm not too concerned about having her and another woman although I would like to see her with another woman probably will have to be a couple scenario but if that happens it happens. I really just want her and us to enjoy these experiences and each other, which has done we talk about issues after each fuck session so we are both happy to continue hopefully they do. But if they don't at least we have done it together.
  3. Eddivickie

    More than a month ago
    have read your story and how true it is my wife has these hang ups but some times she meets some one new its great for a while till she seems to turn compleatly off every one including me will try and get her to read your pages i think they are very good

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