When your lover is in absentia, it opens up wonderful possibilities for ‘distance sex’ via video or phone sex. In fact, absence can not only make the heart grow fonder, it can make the loins grow hotter!

Sex is playtime for grown-ups. Sex is about sharing pleasure. That means being creative and experimental and generally having fun. One element of playtime is…toys! Yes, just as kids can play with toys, so can we grown-ups.

Sex is the one thing in life we seem to think should just happen ‘naturally’ without any focused attention and study. Which is completely absurd, and one of the reasons why people don’t have good sex lives!

To a man, his beloved is so much more than just someone to have sex with. When a man connects deeply with his woman, when he makes beautiful love with her, he feels all-powerful, as though he could conquer the world!

Essentially a makeover is when you realise you’re not living up to your potential in some area of life and set about changing that. Can you makeover your sex life? Of course you can!

When two people’s brains are wired sex-positively, they come together in openness. The more you come together in this way, the stronger the wiring becomes and the easier it is to enjoy love-making.

Think about electrical sockets. You have a masculine socket and a feminine socket. Bringing them together enables the energy to flow.

The masculine sexual energy is like fire: it comes on quickly, burns brightly and extinguishes quickly. The feminine sexual energy is like water: it’s slow to heat up, but once it’s boiling it will boil and boil and boil and boil…

A woman’s desire is contextual, it’s not simply a biological urge. It depends enormously on how she fees and what’s going on around her. This article explores what a woman needs to ‘keep her water simmering’.

Self help books, women’s magazines and traditional therapists extol the virtues of intimacy as the way to improve your relationship and therefore have better sex. But it’s the how, the what and the how much that matters.